Wine at a baby shower?

L L CG · January 2012

How do y'all feel about this? I am hosting with some people I don't know and they want wine. Obv if I am in the minority I'll go with it, but,

I think wine at a baby shower that the mommy can't drink is in very poor taste. I drank a little during my pregnancy and I still wouldn't have wanted it at my baby shower. I think it's rude.

Am I totally unreasonable?

espana21 · January 2012

I don't know if I have been to a shower where there was not wine and/or champagne.

august8080 · January 2012

I've been to lots of baby showers where there was wine (or punch with champagne, etc) and I didn't think anything of it. I think there was wine at one of mine, now that I think about it.

ACR · January 2012

It is the rare baby shower I've been to without wine or champagne - we had a full bar at our (co-ed, evening) shower. But, I definitely wouldn't think twice if there wasn't alcohol at a shower.

Jess.O · January 2012

I don't think you're being unreasonable. I think it depends on the people and on the mom. If you think she'll be uncomfortable don't serve it.

We had sangria and mimosas at one of mine and no alcohol at the other. It didn't bother me either way. The one that had the drinks was hosted by family members that are very open with drinking and have some sort of alcoholic beverages at pretty much every event. However, the hostesses did talk to me about what was being served in advance so I could have told them if I didn't want it there. To me, it was a party and I wanted it to be enjoyable for everybody. If the guests like to drink, it doesn't bother me. Just my .02.

ali-1411 · January 2012

If there's no wine at a shower then I'm out the door as soon as the last gift is opened.

mrs.wildman · January 2012

there was booze at my shower. they had two bowls of punch - one alcoholic and one virgin. didn't bother me too much... i may or may not have taken sips of the non-virgin one... by mistake....

Chandley · January 2012

i would ask the mom to be what she is ok with

L L CG · January 2012

MrsRosie:
ali-1411:
If there's no wine at a shower then I'm out the door as soon as the last gift is opened.
Aaaaaand .

Hilarious.

Ok, ok... I'll pull the huge "no alcohol" stick out of my ass. Whatever.

I am going to get WASTED at this baby shower!

fjaril · January 2012

I rec Southern bubbles! It's bubbly and southern comfort and it's delicious

That was at mine as was the remains of a pony keg from the superbowl

FireChiefsBride · January 2012

Totally different response than I expected. Majority of the showers I've been to haven't had alcoholic beverages.

Persa · January 2012

We had a keg at my baby shower. Maybe ask the mom how she feels about it?

mlf625 · January 2012

Yes to wine. Did we not have wine at your shower? I mean, now I'm glad we DIDN'T because you clearly don't approve, but I'm really surprised that we did not. Maybe Diaper Cake shot me down on the wine?

L L CG · January 2012

mlf625:
Yes to wine. Did we not have wine at your shower? I mean, now I'm glad we DIDN'T because you clearly don't approve, but I'm really surprised that we did not. Maybe Diaper Cake shot me down on the wine?

Nope, you didn't. I doubt DC shot you down. She loves wine and she wouldn't have known what the etiquette was.

I just had the "I can't drink so I hate people who can" angries. But, if it was there I prob would have just had a drink and told my MIL to go F herself. Nothing like telling your MIL off at your baby shower.

mlf625 · January 2012

L L CG:
Nothing like telling your MIL off at your baby shower.

She wouldn't have heard you anyway. She was VERYBUSY telling me about how VERYBUSY she is. Duhs.

At least you didn't defriend her!

ruthyk · January 2012

The showers I've been to have been about 1/2 and 1/2 on alcohol being present. I would have no problem having mimosas or wine at my own....actually I would hope it's there for the sake of the guests.

SaraLouiseBride08 · January 2012

I just assume that if you want people to show up and stick around, there must be booze. There is always at least wine at every party I throw. And I had no problem being around others drinking while I was pregnant.

brideonjuly8 · January 2012

I don't believe I've ever been to a baby shower with alcohol. But, I would be totally fine with it. Whenever I'm pregnant, I'm just so happy to be pregnant I don't really care all that much that I can't drink, so it has never bothered me in the least. Just because I can't drink shouldn't stop everyone else from getting sloshed and having a blast!

GuavaGal · January 2012

fjaril:

I rec Southern bubbles! It's bubbly and southern comfort and it's delicious

I've never heard of this! At least I now have some weekend plans. Drinks Stick out tongue

I'll jump on the "every baby shower I've attended has had booze" bandwagon. I wouldn't care if the party didn't have booze, though--it's not like we're talking about skipping cake.

michelleaxo · January 2012

I am 100% cool with it, but I am very relaxed about that kind of thing so that my opinion for what it's worth. Case and point: we had a couple's baby shower and had a beer drinking out of baby bottles contest. We are klassy that way.

mlf625 · January 2012

michelleaxo:
Case and point: we had a couple's baby shower and had a beer drinking out of baby bottles contest. We are klassy that way.

This surprises me 0%. Which is why you are the awesomes.

michelleaxo · January 2012

mlf625:
michelleaxo:

Case and point: we had a couple's baby shower and had a beer drinking out of baby bottles contest. We are klassy that way.

This surprises me 0%. Which is why you are the awesomes.

Stick out tongue The only surprising part was that my 87 year old grandfather won the contest. HA!

ShernRich · January 2012

I would definitely ask the mom to be if it's okay with her. I've never been to a shower that served alcohol. I'm so surprised that so many of you have. I'm going to the wrong baby showers, apparently! My shower hosts didn't serve alcohol, but maybe it was because our shower was an early afternoon shower? I dunno.

carlinlp · January 2012

Chandley:
i would ask the mom to be what she is ok with

This. I'd totally be fine with it though.

L L CG · January 2012

carlinlp:
Chandley:
i would ask the mom to be what she is ok with

This. I'd totally be fine with it though.

K, I did. And she said, "Absolutely."

The stick is gone. I promise.

bluestreet · January 2012

I haven't read the responses:

I served Sangria at mine. I felt it made my shower bad a$$. If you're gonna force people to watch you unwrap onsies and diapers, the least you can do is get them buzzed for chrissake. Smile

AustinAggie01 · January 2012

I think I've only been to one where there was no alcohol and we were all whispering behind the guest of honor's back, "where's the alcohol?" and got the "well, her MIL..." Anytime of day works - mimosas and punch for brunch/afternoon and then other stuff later.

We also had the "drink beer out of baby bottles" game at our couples shower.

LL, remove the stick.

Oh, I also had GD both times, but I wasn't going to ask that there be no cake or no food that actually tasted good.

Mainer-in-Texas · January 2012

I agree with everyone. My shower was held at a bar!

molliedb · January 2012

mine was a brunch and there were mimosas. it didnt bother me.

MC+KK · January 2012

ali-1411:
If there's no wine at a shower then I'm out the door as soon as the last gift is opened.

lovemydog · January 2012

brideonjuly8:
Whenever I'm pregnant, I'm just so happy to be pregnant I don't really care all that much that I can't drink, so it has never bothered me in the least. Just because I can't drink shouldn't stop everyone else from getting sloshed and having a blast!

me too!

MrsNole · January 2012

At the shower I hosted there was wine and at my shower there was wine.

userdeleted · January 2012

I've seen mimosas and champagne done before, but not wine. Not that I am against wine, but for some reason something a little lighter seems to fit better in my head. Maybe white wine.

thethomps · January 2012

I would be fine with it as long as you had some sparkling cider or other fun non-alcoholic drink for me to enjoy.

thethomps · January 2012

FireChiefsBride:
Totally different response than I expected. Majority of the showers I've been to haven't had alcoholic beverages.

I guess I should add this +1. Neither of my baby showers had alcohol and most friends' showers haven't, either. But I have been to a few with mimosas.

SaraLouiseBride08 · January 2012

Mainer-in-Texas:
I agree with everyone. My shower was held at a bar!

Winner, winner, chicken dinner!

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