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Attachment Parenting
jeannkerricotober09
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Bedsharing issue or 3 month growth spurt? (long)
jeannkerricotober09
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My LO turned 3 months yesterday and we have had some recent sleeping issues. When it comes to him sleeping, I am really laid back, or as laid back as a sleep deprived individual can be, but I am beginning to wonder if I might be doing more harm than good.
We bed share and have since N came home from the hospital. Until recently, it seemed to be working really well for all of us, but beginning around the holidays, we started having issues and it has me wondering, is bed sharing causing them or is it a really prolonged 3 month growth spurt?
Around 2 months or so (beginning of Dec) N started sleeping 6-8 hours, regularly, for his first sleep. He would nurse about 5 min, fall asleep while nursing, and sleep 2-3 hours, nurse and repeat. Easy breezy. And then the holidays happened and his day was thrown off and he was totally overstimulated and his sleeping habits went into the toilet. He started getting up every 45 min- hour. I attributed it to the holidays and his 3 month growth spurt. But it hasn't gone back to how it was, not even close..
the longest stretch of sleep he has now is 4 hours but that is maybe once a week. Typically it is 3 hours and then up every 1-2 hours all night long, sometimes (like last night) he only sleeps for 38 min. Arg. And his daytime naps are terrible. Prior to last week, he would have an hour morning nap, a 3 hour afternoon nap, and two 45 min-1 hour naps in the late afternoon and early evening. He initially falls asleep nursing or rocking and then I easily put him into his swing where he stays for the remainder of his nap. Now he will only sleep on me. If I move him, I have a 75% chance of waking him up and losing his nap altogether. (he is moaning in his swing, half asleep right now).
He is irritable from lack of sleep and always seems uncomfortable. His back is arched and his legs are always going (though he did grow 2.5 inches in the last 2 weeks so I imagine it is the reason for his discomfort). Also this week he went from 5-6 poops a day to 1 so his digestive system is changing.
Sorry this is so scattered, I am typing as fast as I can to get it all out before he wakes up.
Back to sleeping 
after he nurses and falls back to sleep, I slide him up to the top/middle of the bed so our covers stay away from him and within moments, he will scooch his way down to my face and press his nose up against mine, which is breathtakingly adorable but not an easy position to sleep in. If I move him, he will push his face against my side, arm, etc. For the last two weeks, he *has* to be pushed up against me when he sleeps. No matter how far across our cal-king bed I slide him, he grunts and rocks his swaddled body across the bed. It is hilarious and makes my heart sing but it also makes me wonder if he would do better in his own bed.
after he nurses and falls back to sleep, I slide him up to the top/middle of the bed so our covers stay away from him and within moments, he will scooch his way down to my face and press his nose up against mine, which is breathtakingly adorable but not an easy position to sleep in. If I move him, he will push his face against my side, arm, etc. For the last two weeks, he *has* to be pushed up against me when he sleeps. No matter how far across our cal-king bed I slide him, he grunts and rocks his swaddled body across the bed. It is hilarious and makes my heart sing but it also makes me wonder if he would do better in his own bed.So.. 3 month growth spurt? Can it last 2.5 weeks? Does anyone remember it being this fierce or maybe his problems are being caused by his need to be right next to me and therefore not getting a quality nights sleep? It will absolutely break my heart to move him to the nursery but I miss my happy baby 
Oh and we tried him in a co-sleeper and he sleeps worse.
When I think about his bowel movements, irritability, discomfort, terrible naps, growing so much in the last few weeks and I (hope, hope, hope) hope it might be a growth spurt. And the last 2 weeks he nurses like a mad man at night. Even if he has only been asleep for an hour, he will nurse like he hasn't eaten in 5 hours, which is really different than before where he would only nurse 5 min or so.
so thoughts?
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Re: Bedsharing issue or 3 month growth spurt? (long)
Based on " He is irritable from lack of sleep and always seems uncomfortable. His back is arched and his legs are always going (though he did grow 2.5 inches in the last 2 weeks so I imagine it is the reason for his discomfort). Also this week he went from 5-6 poops a day to 1 so his digestive system is changing.", I would take him in to see his ped. Something is causing him discomfort (back arching is a sign of it). And your mommy sense is cuing in to digestive issues. Growth spurts can last for two weeks (in my experience) or even longer, but that kind of nursing can also be a sign of digestive stress.
Good luck. At 20months, DD still doesn't sleep more than 4.5 hours stretches at night. And it took a LOT of effort to get her to sleep 90min for a nap.