Just had to intervene on my nephew FB page...

emmyloustu · January 2012

He and is friends are openly bullying a girl - calling her the c word, telling her to go kill herself, hoping she gets pregnant etc...posting her pic and saying degrading things..sickening. I posted right to his wall: this is online bullying. It is Harrasment, intimidation and humiliation. It should not be tolerated and needs to stop. DH sent am email to me sil.

I am sick. This is not the first time. He is a 17yr old punk. He has no respect for anyone, anything and his language is abhorrent. And this is just what he puts out there publicly for the family to read....

dana316 · January 2012

Good for you!!!!!

schmoodle · January 2012

I'm so proud of you. Is there any way to reach out to the girl to make sure she's ok?

browneyedgrl4282 · January 2012

Good for you, I hope your nephew realizes this behavior is not acceptable!

emmyloustu · January 2012

Annnnnd I just got a message from my sil telling me basically to myob that this girl has said terrible things to him, too...and there is the root of the problem I guess.

BeccaLandes · January 2012

ugh. you did the right thing. your s.i.l. clearly needs to step it up in the parenting dept- hasn't she ever told her son "two wrongs don't make a right" or "be the bigger person, don't stoop to that level"? i really hope the girl is ok.

emmyloustu · January 2012

Apparently we don't understand and we'll feel differently when our girls are teens. I'm sorry, but I can't fathom a day where I would tolerate letting me child (male or female) call someone the c word, n word or tell someone to go kill themselves....

dundasgirl · January 2012

OMG, that's insanely awful. I hope those kids...I don't even know what to say? Learn to be better people? Stop hurting each other?

I am not looking forward to those days...my neighour's daughter is turning 9 this year and there is loads of intense social navigating happening already.

I think you totally did the right thing.

emmyloustu · January 2012

Holy shiiiit.. I just sent him a nice message to try to explain where I'm coming from, give him a positive boost since he's obviously going thru some stuff right now. Anyway, FB ate half the message so I went to re write it, but he messages me back & said not to bother because he doesn't care what I think or have to say. Wow, just freaking wow.

dusk42 · January 2012

If you can figure out how to contact the girl's parents (either via FB or her school), I would consider doing that. I would want to know if someone was harassing my kid like that, and they may not know.

nikinikinine · January 2012

I'm amazed by what teenagers will put out via social media. They seriously do not understand the footprint they are creating and how their actions today will come back to haunt them later.

All of that aside, I'm 100% behind you stepping up. More adults need to ACT LIKE ADULTS and keep things like this from happening. Cyber bullying, regardless of where "the root of the problem" lies, is dangerous and all too prevalent.

sliz · January 2012

It could also be illegal. I think like over half the states now have laws against cyberbullying after that girl in MO killed herself. What a jerk. I would also contact the girl's parents

emmyloustu · January 2012

Thanks everyone for the support, but it has caused HUGE family drama. Ugh. He deleted the thread at least. I'm not sure DH & I handled it totally appropriately, my sil feels judged, my nephew is embarrassed (as he should be), they are saying we hate their kids and that they aren't coming to Eliza's party on Saturday...ugly, ugly, ugly.

emmyloustu · January 2012

nikinikinine:
I'm amazed by what teenagers will put out via social media. They seriously do not understand the footprint they are creating and how their actions today will come back to haunt them later.
All of that aside, I'm 100% behind you stepping up. More adults need to ACT LIKE ADULTS and keep things like this from happening. Cyber bullying, regardless of where "the root of the problem" lies, is dangerous and all too prevalent.

Couldn't agree more!

Love, love, love the new sig pic!

nikinikinine · January 2012

emmyloustu:

Couldn't agree more!
Love, love, love the new sig pic!

thank you Wink

pamela-matt · January 2012

Sorry I am late...I am just seeing this, but I would call his school or the superintendents office in the school district where he lives in a heartbeat. Recently went to presentation by Gay,Lesbian, Bi students (part of my CEU) and it was heartbreaking to hear about the bullying. Not that your speaking of someone in that group, but the bullying in general. And what was even more heartbreaking is the things there were doing to themselves as a result (cutting) and the things they thought about doing (suicide)...no child should have to go through that.

If the parents are not willing to listen/intervene, do more. I work with high school kids and the damage caused is just so sad.

ginger67 · January 2012

I don't understand the need to handle these people gently because they are family. If I saw that I would print out what I could and contact the police to see if they could handle it and bring it to the school's attention. Those kids won't stop otherwise, especially with such great parental guidance. I would uninvite them to the party and surround those beautiful little girls with fabulous caring friends. Honestly, if anyone ever did that to my child Im pretty sure I would be the one sitting in the police station explaining myself.

huskerchica · January 2012

Good for you. Man that sounds horrible! Thank goodness we didn't have FB back when I was in HS - HS was hard enough!

cbubbles2 · January 2012

I am so glad you spoke up. That poor girl. You did the right thing!

oct11bride03 · January 2012

You did the right thing. I'm sick just thinking about this. I just saw your post above that you've been blocked by him. I hope his mom is taking this seriously. Awful.

LIAngel · January 2012

emmyloustu:
Thanks everyone for the support, but it has caused HUGE family drama. Ugh. He deleted the thread at least. I'm not sure DH & I handled it totally appropriately, my sil feels judged, my nephew is embarrassed (as he should be), they are saying we hate their kids and that they aren't coming to Eliza's party on Saturday...ugly, ugly, ugly.

Would you really want them there?

DrVWife · January 2012

Good for you! I am on my own personal campaign to speak up about things when it is deemed necessary so I full back you!

dusk42 · January 2012

ginger67:
I don't understand the need to handle these people gently because they are family. If I saw that I would print out what I could and contact the police to see if they could handle it and bring it to the school's attention. Those kids won't stop otherwise, especially with such great parental guidance. I would uninvite them to the party and surround those beautiful little girls with fabulous caring friends. Honestly, if anyone ever did that to my child Im pretty sure I would be the one sitting in the police station explaining myself.

I totally agree - I would want someone to tell me or the school or whoever that this was going on (hopefully I'll be monitoring whatever social media exists when DD starts using it). You never know how much someone can take before they hurt themselves or others.

nicolita14w · January 2012

Good for you! It takes a lot of guts to call out a family member, and you are doing the right thing.

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