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Skype fail (DS upset by seeing DH)

hilwithonelaryhilwithonelary member
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DH was deployed last July-October.  We didn't have the opportunity to Skype very often, but when we did, DS loved it.  He would smile and laugh at DH. 

DH left on Saturday for an 8 week class.  He's in the country, so I was happy that we would have a lot more opportunities to Skype.  Last night, we tried for the first time.  DS was not a fan.  He just looked confused and unhappy when he saw DH on the screen.  After a few minutes, he started crying and threw himself on the floor.  Then he got more upset when we hung up, just whining "dada" over and over.  It took about 20 minutes to get him to calm down.  I've never seen him so hysterical.  He just lay on my shoulder while I held him, screamed, cried, and whined "dada."  It was all I could do not to cry along with him. 

I'm hesitant to try again.  Has anyone had a toddler around 2 y/o who reacted like this to Skype?  Do you think DS will get used to seeing DH on Skype?  Or is he just at a stage where it will upset him too much?

Hilary
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Re: Skype fail (DS upset by seeing DH)

  • mrskinsler04mrskinsler04 member

    My oldest won't talk to DH on the phone, skype, anything. She wants nothing to do with him. It really makes me sad. But she is almost 5. My two year old just likes to see herself on the screen but will kinda talk to him from time to time. But we haven't lived together for several years now (not because we didn't want too).

    When he is home and we are all together she acts totally fine, like he was never gone.

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  • panicked228panicked228 member
    No answer for you, sadly. Just wondering what training your DH is at; my DH left on Saturday for 8 week training too!
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  • armybride31armybride31 member
    Right now DD is only 5 months and when she sees DH she laughs and smiles and babbles at the computer when we're skyping. She pretty much thinks it's the greatest thing. My aunt however informed me of someone she knew who had the same issue that you are having. I think because toddlers sort of understand daddy's gone away and they get frustrated that they can see daddy but can't touch daddy. I know it must break both of your hearts but maybe you should give him a little bit of time before trying again.
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  • asfinnasfinn

    Same thing happened with my friends toddler. He's almost 2. One day he's happy about it and it goes well, then next he's crabby and cries. I think it more depends on what time of day and the general mood that little Max is in at the time.

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  • pesci12pesci12
    My daughter is a bit younger but she did the same thing. She was just over a year old when DH left for deployment.  The first couple times we skyped she was reaching out for the computer shouting 'dada', and then threw herself on the floor and had a breakdown.  It was heartbreaking, but a few weeks later we skyped and she was fine.  Hopefully it gets easier with your LO too.
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