Hubby will not be there for birth :(

daisy770 · January 2012

We found out a week ago that my husband is deploying to Aghanistan and will not be there for the birth of our 1st baby. I am so sad and heartbroken by this! This is my 3rd child ( my boys are by my late husband) and I know how important that moment is when you just meet your sweet newborn. Not sure how to handle this...hoping someone has some advice.

Bexi · January 2012

Most of my friends are military and several have gone through this. It is so hard to do, but you will have people there for you, and when he gets home and sees his baby in your arms for the first time that will be something he will never forget and also gives him far more to look forward to while he's over there. It will all be worth it and forgotten when you have him home again, I promise!

oncoRN · January 2012

I don't have any advice for you, but I can't imagine how difficult this must be for your family

Thank your DH for his service for us, please! *hug*

ThePinkSuperhero · January 2012

So sorry to hear that. Thank you for your sacrifice, and thank your husband for his hard work.

MrsOjoButtons · January 2012

The FRG may have programs to assist you.

kaesha · January 2012

Aw, I'm sorry. My Dad was military, it was heartbreaking every time he went on tour.

ashleynaka · January 2012

So sorry to hear this news! I know it's not the same as having DH with you, but hopefully you have other family that will be by your side. Thank you to your DH for serving our country. I just wish our military would focus on our own country's problems and issues cause there are plenty of them!

maykious · January 2012

ThePinkSuperhero:
So sorry to hear that. Thank you for your sacrifice, and thank your husband for his hard work.

Ditto this. Safe deployment to your husband. Lots of hugs for you.

surprise3rd · January 2012

maykious:

ThePinkSuperhero:
So sorry to hear that. Thank you for your sacrifice, and thank your husband for his hard work.

Ditto this. Safe deployment to your husband. Lots of hugs for you.

Ditto this...all of it. I am so sorry for the timing. Is there any chance at all he will get a 2 week R&R that could coincide with the birth? Just a thought, my cousin is there now and had 2 weeks R&R this fall?

MrsOjoButtons · January 2012

https://www.operationspecialdelivery.com/

Kayte317 · January 2012

I'm soo sorry! I can't even imagine.... Maybe you could tape it? Or Skype him when it happens? I don't know how realistic the Skype thing is but it's just a thought. Good luck!

JAck5209 · January 2012

I'm so sorry that you're in this situation. I hope you have a strong support system to get you through this tough time. It's a good thing us women are so strong and can make it through anything!

MrsOjoButtons · January 2012

ashleynaka:
I just wish our military would focus on our own country's problems and issues cause there are plenty of them!

Like what?

Cpeevy · January 2012

How old will the baby be when he gets home? Just curious.

LadyButton · January 2012

Kayte317:
I'm soo sorry! I can't even imagine.... Maybe you could tape it? Or Skype him when it happens? I don't know how realistic the Skype thing is but it's just a thought. Good luck!

I`m so sorry he won`t be there.

About Skype - my sister was able to have skype the entire hospital stay so that my BIL could see their DD whenever he was available. His troop knew the potential dates, and kept him completely available for the birth. He saw the whole thing! They gave him a private room and both sides, hospital and base camp, were very accommodating.

Overall, her experience was made as good as you could hope for in this situation. BIL met his DD when she was 8 weeks.

I wish you all the best!

kristeno90 · January 2012

I am sorry you have to go through this. As a Marine's wife my biggest fear is that he may have to deploy between now and then.

RobinandDJ · January 2012

I am so sorry to hear this. My husband is in the air force and it's always a thought in my mind. Just remember only the strongest women are military wives! Keep your head up

AlfiesMOM · January 2012

I don't really have any advice but I just wanted to say how sorry I was. I could not imagine doing it without MH. I hope everything works out.

jlthompson19 · January 2012

MrsOjoButtons:
ashleynaka:
I just wish our military would focus on our own country's problems and issues cause there are plenty of them!
Like what?

Right, like the military is going to be the one to fix the economy and crack down on crime. Hmmm, maybe if we had them in full uniform on every street corner, it WOULD cut down on crime!

daisy770 · January 2012

Thank you for your sweet words! I'm already looking forward to that day!

daisy770 · January 2012

Thank you for your sweet words! He wil not be able to have R&R because he won't be there long enough before our baby is born...we have discussed him coming home for R&R when he is able but we are both afraid it will be too hard for us when he has to go back. Also, Marines that do not take R&R get to get on the first wavy of people coming home....

daisy770 · January 2012

Our baby will be 5 or 6 months old...still tiny but that special moment when the baby is welcomed into the world is priceless

daisy770 · January 2012

Yes, this will be set up for us also. I'm having our baby off base because the Naval hospital does not have internet on the maternity ward....which I think is insane and just wrong! Thank you for telling me this because although this is the informayion we have been giving you its nice to hear someone else has gone throught it! I needed that, thank you so much! My DH will meet our baby when he or she ( we haven't found out yet) is 5 months old.

luvlss1 · January 2012

jlthompson19:

MrsOjoButtons:
ashleynaka:
I just wish our military would focus on our own country's problems and issues cause there are plenty of them!
Like what?

Right, like the military is going to be the one to fix the economy and crack down on crime. Hmmm, maybe if we had them in full uniform on every street corner, it WOULD cut down on crime!

Maybe a different time/post for the political discussions? I'm sure the OP would appreciate it.

always learning · August 2013

Really? This woman is struggling with something you will never have to face, and you think that's a time to voice your political views. News flash, our military doesn't make the decisions, our elected government does. You're a moron.

nicolepatricia87 · August 2013

I'm sorry to hear your H will be deploying. Mine was deployed when DS was born so I know the feeling all to well. Feel free to PM me if want to talk more.