Trying a midwife for my 3rd. Anyone familiar?

mnbmonroe · January 2012

So I made an appointment with a midwife for next week and I am kind of excited. I have had two pregnancies that have gone through regular OBGYN doctors and neither have been great experiences.

The first wasn't my doctor that I had been seeing when I went into labor, the doctor that was there got tired of waiting for me to progress after 16 hours she filled me full of terrible things that could happen if I didn't let her cut me open. So, because I had to have the first that way then the second wasn't a choice either because they were so close together there was too much of a chance something awful would happen if I delivered VBAC.

So now I am in my third pregnancy and know I simply don't have other options but at least this time I am determined to like my dr. I didn't care much for either previous experience so this time I am going with a midwife service. I have heard that it is far less stressful than a regular OB and that sounds great to me. They said that since I had to have a c-section then I would have to meet their physician but that I could still go through the pregnancy with a midwife. I am excited about this and was wondering if anyone had a similar experience?

beckslea · January 2012

It sounds like your experience might have been with bad doctors or practices, I'm not sure that your experience can be generalized to using a doctor vs. using a midwife, KWIM?

Can you ask for recommendations to a good practice? I use a large practice that has both midwives and OB's. I had to see all of them during my last pregnancy but it's good because then I knew the person who delivered my baby (one of the midwives and she was awesome).

Areli71611 · January 2012

mnbmonroe:
I have heard that it is far less stressful than a regular OB and that sounds great to me.

Sorry, I don't have a similar experience, this will be my 1st birthing, but I, too, decided to use a midwife for the reason your stated (among many other reasons). My last pregnancy (unfortunately, wasn't a sticky baby--I lost it at 7 weeks), I had 1 visit with the midwife, and I immediately felt comfortable after meeting her. I hope you have the stress-free L&D that you're looking for!

spunky5182 · January 2012

We had a midwife through a birth center for our first pregnancy. I never got to deliver through the birth center because we lost prior (no fault of MW or BC). Now we're using a midwife through a hospital just for a change. My entire midwife experience has been wonderful. They're more attentive and hands on, they offer more natural approaches to everything and really listen. I wish you the best.

bethanyui · January 2012

This is my first baby, but I'm currently seeing a nurse midwife. She makes me feel so comfortable and is genuinely as excited for us and our baby as we are. I love that she let's me all sorts of weird questions and she's very attentive. I hope you find one as great as mine.

amyred777 · January 2012

I am pg with my 1st baby and we are going through a midwife. My family is very into the doctor/hospital/western medicine for everything but I have gotten to witness my sister-in-law go through 3 births with this particular midwife and have been so impressed with her and their whole midwifery. I am so excited to get to have the midwife experience instead of the traditional obgyn route after seeing many other friends and relatives go that route. I want a natural birth and not to be in a hospital (unless medically necessary of course). My SIL did homebirths for all 3 babies (which I would love to do) but we will do the birth center as we live about 30 mins out of town and the husband and I are both more comfortable in doing that since the birth center is close to the hospital if needed. I have no doubt you will thoroughly enjoy the experience!

AprilAngie · January 2012

If you know you will have to have a C section - I would get a referral to a dr you like. My opinion. I am having # 4, but never have had a c section. sounds also like you had a bad dr experience.

cbj09 · January 2012

So sorry you had a rough experience with the doctors! This is my first so I clearly have no experience, but I've actually been going to our local midwives for my annual exams for the past 3 years. They are some of the sweetest most comforting medical professionals I have ever experienced.

I know some midwives end up sucking and some OBs are stellar, but from my little experience and from the experiences of close friends, etc, I think I'll be sticking with my midwives for quite a while!

Best of luck!

KimberJEB · January 2012

May I ask why you have to have a cesarean? Even ACOG (the American Academy of OB/GYN) says that VBA2Cs should be allowed. If you still want a VBAC, find an ICAN chapter and a supportive provider.

If you are comfortable with having another cesarean, then I'd find a doctor you like. That person will be delivering your baby, and it would be nice to know them and be able to have time to let them know your wishes for your birth (still make a birth plan!). There is likely a more personable OB in your area.

mnbmonroe · January 2012

I was able to find one hospital that would support a VBAC attempt, but because of the timing between the other two they do not suggest it. My first two are 14 months apart and this one is only 16 months after the other. My husband looked at the risks and expressed his concern over losing me and the baby.

I also just found out that more than likely we will be moving within a week of the date the midwife suggested my c-section! So, now I get to spend the next months getting comfortable with this practice I have chosen just to leave right before the baby comes. Sigh, the move is good, it is a pay raise and a promotion for my husband but the timing could not be more complicated.

Thank you for your support of VBAC, many people would rather just settle. I did look into my options but for us this is the best, least stressful decision

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