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DS "snubbing" DH--advice needed pls.

HSartteachHSartteach member
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So, L has been super clingy lately.  I mean, it's to the point where he won't let me leave when I drop him off--he has never ever done that before.

Anyway, in addition to the clinginess, he is totally "snubbing" DH.  When DH tries to help, L says "no dada" or "noooo, momma".  L pushes DH away.  He has been doing this for over a month and a half.  I know it's a stage that he is going through and the pregnancy probably isn't helping.  We try to get him to understand that mommy can't do everything and that daddy can help too, that daddy loves him, etc.

However, it is really hurting DH's feelings.  I don't know what to do or what to say to help DH.

Any advice would really help.  I know DH would kill me if he knows I posted this, but I just don't know how to proceed from here.

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  • rssnlvrrssnlvr
    When we go through stages like that (and it happens both ways, sometimes I'm snubbed, sometimes DH), it helps to have the "snubbed" parent spend some extra quality time with the kiddo, one-on-one.
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  • MrsShacklefordMrsShackleford member

    DD does the same exact thing.  I am not pg and have been attributing it to her age. 

    DH is very sensitive and I can tell is hurt by it too.  I just tell him "this too shall pass".

     

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  • fjarilfjaril

    We do other person fun days. When H is clingy to me, he and O take a fun day/ weekend. Back in Texas, they'd go ride Sophie a few times then play at the park and get lunch and do it again the next day or go to another park or something fun.

    Out here, they hop on the train and head to the city or just a few towns over for a special treat. Go to the zoo, go watch airplanes/ airplane museum whatever. Just plain old bonding time.

    It helps lots and gives me a break :)

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  • HSartteachHSartteach member

    Thanks ladies. 

    rssn--I kind of wish he would snub me sometimes, but no dice.  When I walk into the room, daddy becomes bottom of the barrel to L.

    Fjarl (did I spell that right?)--I will try the outings.  We do try to have daddy/son time, but it's hard.  

    It's just so hard because he won't let daddy do anything--get his juice, get him an orange, change his diaper, comfort him in the middle of the night.  Nothing!  And, to those that say this will pass...I know that, but in the mean time, how do I help DH.  Like I said, it's really hard on him.

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