XP from High Risk: Pulling an 8 yo out of bed to clean at 3 a.m.?

rachel.wenger · January 2012

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/62088468.aspx

I get being angry at the 19 year-old...but pulling the 8 year old out of bed at 3:00 a.m. to clean because your house is trashed? Questionable parenting in my mind. But maybe I'm just crazy. Geeked

bpwife&mama · January 2012

No, that's insane! The 19 year-old I also understand,but no mother should be waking up an 8 year-old at 3 am to clean. That child is paying for the fact that she is pregnant and on bedrest? Wow. Then to say that they're going to be cleaning from the minute they get home from school until nightfall? Guess there is no time for dinner or homework.... That seems responsible.

rachel.wenger · January 2012

bpwife&mama:
No, that's insane! The 19 year-old I also understand,but no mother should be waking up an 8 year-old at 3 am to clean. That child is paying for the fact that she is pregnant and on bedrest? Wow. Then to say that they're going to be cleaning from the minute they get home from school until nightfall? Guess there is no time for dinner or homework.... That seems responsible.

The worst part about reading this post was that it hit home for me. My dad was a psycho, abusive man to say the least and this is EXACTLY along the lines of what he would do to us from a young age (I mean not even in kindergarten yet young age). Ugh.

HopingForOne · January 2012

I don't even agree with pulling the 19-year-old out of bed at 3am. This could have waited until the morning.

HopingForOne · January 2012

I'm kinda feeling judgy too, cause I'm wondering...is it really likely that her children just suddenly became slobs when she went on bedrest? Probably not. They were probably always messy, and she probably never did much about it, or always picked up after them, and now that she's on bed rest, she's expecting them to magically change overnight.

In other words...maybe she let this situation happen.

namara5532 · January 2012

I'm wondering if she's on bedrest who is supervising these children. Sure, the 19 year old doesn't need constant supervision, but an 8 year old is still a child who can hurt himself and can't be expected to make responsible decisions for himself. And the 2 year old probably isn't staying in one place, unless she's keeping them in a pack and play all day. I hope for their sake there is another care giver in the house. If not, I can only guess the 19 year old is watching the 8 year old and potentially the 2 year old while mom is stuck upstairs.

Getting the kids up at 3am reminds me of Annie where the abusive caretaker made all the kids get up before the crack of dawn just to clean. It's not unreasonable to expect children to be responsible and pick up after themselves, but they are kids, even the 19 year old. They need their sleep. Plus they probably thought they could get away with not cleaning if she doesn't come downstairs.

MrsAMB07 · January 2012

lilnightmusic:
My judgmental post of the day- Why is she having another baby when she has three others than she is having a hard time with? I don't know what her back story is but it still seems weird to me...

That was my first thought, too. It's not the kids' fault or responsibility to now run the household. Sure a 19 year old can pitch in and help out, but that stood out as a bigger issue to me..

sherpa · January 2012

I really feel for these kids.

mexicolombiana · January 2012

Mrs.AMB07:
lilnightmusic:
My judgmental post of the day- Why is she having another baby when she has three others than she is having a hard time with? I don't know what her back story is but it still seems weird to me...
That was my first thought, too. It's not the kids' fault or responsibility to now run the household. Sure a 19 year old can pitch in and help out, but that stood out as a bigger issue to me..

Not only that, but um, didn't SHE raise these kids? So wouldn't that mean that she did a crappy job parenting them if they don't even know how to clean up after themselves? I mean I know this wouldn't be acceptable in our house growing up, my parents would never have allowed it.

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