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Sex question...

hcarinushcarinus
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Since getting pregnant I feel different about sex, just wanted to know if anyone else has the same experience...

I usually have a very healthy libido and DH and I enjoy regular sex, but since being pregnant the libido's gone down (which I know is normal), but what bothers me is I'm quite nervous and self-concious now, which I never am...  And I know we're not hurting the baby or anything... any tips?

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  • mego1988mego1988
    First and foremost, relax! The libido eventually comes back so no rush :) Maybe try something new to spice things up and make you feel a little more confident. Since you are aware you aren't hurting the baby, the possibilities are endless. Just don't do anything uncomfortable to you physically and enjoy your time together. Hope this helps! 
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  • Areli71611Areli71611
    I'm the same way...I absolutely adore sex, but since I got my BFP, I zip interest in it. I've found that if I just go with it, and let DH know I'll need a little extra TLC, I'll get in the mood fairly easily! Smile
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  • zbeesma86zbeesma86 member
    I think it is just that beginning phase. Our emotions are running wild and we have so many thoughts going through our head at any given moment, who has time to think about sex...  we are still kind of nervous about it only because the last time we did have sex, I started to bleed and I think it freaked both of us out for a little hiatus :) ha ha. Just relax and don't over think it.
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  • nopegoatnopegoat member

    Ugh! I will trade you! My sex drive is in completely insane right now and my DF works OOT and is gone for weeks at a time...

    With my first, I was so sick I wanted nothing to do with sex. Its completely normal. Just hormones. It got a lot better for me in second tri! 

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  • terri_doula2010terri_doula2010 member

    Agreeing with pp....your libido will come back in 2nd tri. First time around I was working from home and DH was working on his thesis mostly from home. He started getting a frightened look on his face when I walked in the room, fearing I'd want it again. ;)

     (not that it ever stopped him)

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  • ItsSupaFly2UItsSupaFly2U

    Man...I'm opposite! I want it ALL THE TIME but Daddy isn't interested. He says it's "weird" now that the Baby is in there.

    It will come back probably in your 2nd, have patience Wink I'm gonna have to wait it out till after Baby is here...I have to have LOTS AND LOTS of patience.

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  • MrsBlindLoveMrsBlindLove member
    The first time we had sex after BFP I was a little unsure about the whole thing, but after that first time I was fine. DH and I are both enjoying my increased sex drive.
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  • sarahandeddiejune212008sarahandeddiejune212008 member
    Your libido will most likely come back in 2nd tri - and possibly way stronger than normal.  Don't stress about it now.
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  • hcarinushcarinus

    thanks ladies! i was pretty sure i was normal, but it helps to hear from others! dh has been fabulous anyway, not a peep... he just mentioned the other night after we had sex that he felt like i was "somewhere else" and could tell i was nervous... it helps when you have someone that tries to understand!

    2nd tri is around the corner so let's see what happens then!

     

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  • Kayla OwensKayla Owens

    During my whole first trimester I didn't want anything to do with sex.  I was totally disconnected.  You need to remember from time to time that your body is going haywire at the moment and you are going to gain weight.  I really watched how I ate and now that I have done that I'm nothing but a belly and I'm 29 weeks pregnant.  I still have days where I look at myself and feel ugly but my husband quickly reminds me of how well I've done and how beautiful he thinks I am.  Make sure you communicate with your husband about how you're feeling, there is nothing wrong with wanting to know that he's still attracted to you, and he should express it.

    Some of the things that I would do to make myself feel better and still do are:

    I spray tan, I hate being pale and have always been extremely tan.  Go buy yourself a  good can of fake bake and tan yourself, it made me feel much better about the way that I looked and the weight that I have gained.

    Go shopping on line, look at cute and modern looking maternity clothes.  I go to Victoria's Secret and I get their cute little panties...yes I still wear them at 29 weeks a much larger size but my husband thinks it's hot and sometimes that helps 'get you in the mood" ;) 

    If you ever just want to talk or need any advice feel free to email me at kayowens88@yahoo.com.  I love having someone who shares the same pregnancy issues as me.  

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    imageItsSupaFly2U:

    Man...I'm opposite! I want it ALL THE TIME but Daddy isn't interested. He says it's "weird" now that the Baby is in there.

    It will come back probably in your 2nd, have patience Wink I'm gonna have to wait it out till after Baby is here...I have to have LOTS AND LOTS of patience.

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    imageItsSupaFly2U:

    Man...I'm opposite! I want it ALL THE TIME but Daddy isn't interested. He says it's "weird" now that the Baby is in there.

    It will come back probably in your 2nd, have patience Wink I'm gonna have to wait it out till after Baby is here...I have to have LOTS AND LOTS of patience.

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    imageItsSupaFly2U:

    Man...I'm opposite! I want it ALL THE TIME but Daddy isn't interested. He says it's "weird" now that the Baby is in there.

    It will come back probably in your 2nd, have patience Wink I'm gonna have to wait it out till after Baby is here...I have to have LOTS AND LOTS of patience.

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    imageItsSupaFly2U:

    Man...I'm opposite! I want it ALL THE TIME but Daddy isn't interested. He says it's "weird" now that the Baby is in there.

    It will come back probably in your 2nd, have patience Wink I'm gonna have to wait it out till after Baby is here...I have to have LOTS AND LOTS of patience.

     

    So relieved I am not the only one. My sex drive is insane right now and DH is not very interested. I'm trying to not let it bother me, but it sometimes does.

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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    Ok, apparently I was having some technical difficulties there, sorry ladies!
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