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Attachment Parenting
BlindysWife
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I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
From bedsharing to crib: An update
BlindysWife
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I replied in an earlier post (maybe last week?) to a mama who was asking for tips on transitioning from bedsharing to the crib. We just began the transition on Friday, so I thought I'd post an update for anyone looking for some encouragement, because this has gone better than expected. I have enjoyed our bedsharing snuggles, and waking up with my smiling boy right next to me. But, its no longer working for us, so here's how our first two nights have gone. FYI: This could get lengthy.
We have been using a this sound machine thingy in our room, that also projects this night light/star/moon thing on the wall, so we moved that into his room also, I hoped that would be something familar for him so he was less scared. Also put his sea horse in the crib with him. Oh, also should mention, that he had been night weaned for about two weeks before we did this (no nursing from 8:30p - 5ish am). I wanted to have that piece completed so that he wouldn't be waking to nurse. But, in our case, night weaning =/= STTN. He was still waking one or two times a night, but at least not for nursing.
I made sure to put him to bed way tired, past his bedtime (normally 8ish). It ended up being even later than I anticipated, 'cause with weekend stuff going on, he took a later than normal afternoon nap.
Put him in his crib at 10:00, and he was piiissed. Screaming bloody murder. Planned on check-ins at 3 min, 5 min, 7 min, etc. But, at 3 min, he wasn't crying that hard anymore. I only wanted to go in if he was histerical, because I didn't want to get him fired up again if he was calming down. He ended up falling asleep by 10:10, no check-ins at all. I was SHOCKED. Absolutely amazed.
He woke up a couple minutes after midnight. And was crying pretty hard, so DH went in to pat his bottom for a minute, give him back his binky, and then left. He cried some more, but feel asleep again by 12:15.
Woke up again at 1:00 am. And was awake until 3:00. THREE. Ugh. This part suuucked. Let me say, he wasn't crying the whole time. He cried for maybe twenty minutes pretty hard, with DH going in for check-ins, but he spent most of the time sitting up in the crib, wimpering off and on. He'd be quiet for awhile, and I'd go peek, and he's still just sitting there. DH and I both couldn't sleep this whole time, I was too busy having a broken heart feeling like a meanie-head. 
He eventually laid back down and feel asleep about 3.
Oh yeah, I had decided before we went to bed that if he woke up any time after 4:30, I would nurse him. So after falling asleep at 3, he woke again at 5:30. I picked him up, nursed him in his rocking chair. He fell back asleep, and I was SO tired and I just wanted to go back to bed. I was worried if I tried to put him back in the crib, that he would wake again. I just wanted to sleep. So, I kinda wussed out and took him to the couch and he and I slept there until 7.
So, it was a long night, but honestly not as bad as I feared. Saturday night had some improvements. He again fell asleep within 10 minutes. (Again, shocked. Bedsharing, I would lay down with him to put him to sleep, and it always took a half an hour at least!) He woke at midnight again for a few minutes before falling back asleep. Woke again at 3, fell back asleep within a few minutes. Woke up at 6:30 for the day. No check ins needed. There were tears, but never histerical ones.
Okay, so I told you this was long. I know we're only two nights in, and I'm sure we've still got quite a few crazy nights ahead. But truly, this has gone so much better than I expected. My baby cried, and I got less sleep then when he's in bed with me, but he's sleeping IN HIS OWN BED! He fell asleep several times without any intervention! I snuggled my husband in my own bed without a little dude hogging all the space! Hallelujah! So much to celebrate.
Anyway, hope someone else can take this as some encouragement that maybe the transition won't be as awful as you imagine. 
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
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Re: From bedsharing to crib: An update
This gives me so much hope! How did you accomplish night weaning while bedsharing?
We tried to night wean about a month ago but several weeks into it he was still waking every two hours and I was exhausted, so we relapsed into nursing him back to sleep.
And as an update of night 3... Last night we got to put him to bed at his normal bedtime, 8:00. He went to sleep fairly quickly again, which was nice, but he did have more frequent wake-ups throughout the night. Luckily they were all pretty brief, with just a few minutes of crying before falling back asleep.
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.
I just want to give you a world as beautiful as you are to me.