Are/did you bringing DC#1 to the hospital to meet baby?

Annie Marie · January 2012

DH & I are having a big debate about if we should bring DD to meet the baby at the hospital or wait until we get home. I'd love some other's thoughts on the issue...

Thanks!

kcisthebombdotcom · January 2012

Yes, and I wish I didnt. I was in a lot of pain and throwing up the day DD was born. DS was freaked out seeing me like that.

RJHarmon · January 2012

Other than DH, DD was the first family member to meet DS. I wanted it that way. We had a little bit of time just as our little family before everyone else got to see him.

cbee817 · January 2012

I wouldn't mind if DD comes to visit us, but I don't think it's a big deal. She'll only be 21 months when LO#2 is born, so she won't remember anything and I don't want to disrupt/confuse her if she's having a good time with DH's parents.

Smgrochowski · January 2012

Yes, DD visited. It wasn't as good as I had envisioned. ?She refused to come to me the first visit and it broke my heart. After a while she did peek at her brother though. ?Later visits were better. She would sit with me for a little bit, and would check out DS. ?Mostly she just played with the privacy curtain.

12bailey18 · January 2012

We did and really, I could go either way with it. I'm glad he was there because we got some really sweet pictures of them and he did great being there and I was feeling great. However, when DH took him back home I got really emotional. I hated saying good-bye to him. It surprised me, but it was really hard. I feel like it may have just been better not to have seen him until I got home...if that makes sense.

lnelson20 · January 2012

We brought Eli to meet Lex about 5 hours after she was born for a couple hours. Then he and my spouse went home for the night. He spent the bulk of the next day and stayed the next night with us at the hospital. It was really nice to be all together.

smerka · January 2012

Older son stayed at home with my parents the whole time. He was less than a year old and wouldn't have understood anyway. There was too much trouble he could get into too. He met his brother when we got home. He looked quickly and then ran off to play. It would have been really disappointing if we had made a big deal about it and brought him to the hospital and had that happen.

Daisy22 · January 2012

DS1 came up but it was the day after my c/s. I had my rcs on a thursday at 8am and he came up around 2pm on Friday. I wanted to make sure I had no IVs, no nothing in when he got there. My mom brought him up there but dh meet them in the lobby. Dh walked him upstairs to my room to see us. He stayed maybe 30 minutes then Dh took him to the park, dinner and put him to bed. My mom stayed at the hospital until it was time for her to go and switch places with dh so he could come back up to the hospital. That was the only time he came up and I checked out on sunday. I'm glad he came up there but he was only 15 1/2 months. He didn't really understand.

This time dh will leave to go get the boys and bring them up. Then he'll take them home. Again they won't stay long but I think it's good for them to be a little invovled. Oh we alos had gifts for DS1 last time and this time we will again. It will be little like some choos-choos or soemthing

marielovestimothy03 · January 2012

Yep! My mom brought DD1 up to meet DD2 about an hour after she was born for 30 minutes or so, then brought her back the next day for another hour or so. Unless there is a reason I need to wait a bit longer I'm planning to have my mom (or whoever is watching the girls while I'm in labor) bring them up after again. I couldn't WAIT for my girls to meet, it was one of the best moments in my life.

moonfaerie · January 2012

Yes we had DD1 come to the hospital. Just for short visits, because at 14 months old the baby didn't really interest her and it was hard to keep her occupied for long periods of time. She was fine though. She saw hooked to the oxygen and IV and whatever else and didn't freak out. She was happy to see me. We made sure her visits overlapped with ILs and DH so one was coming close to when the other was leavign so she didn't have to hang out here for long. I had a scheduled c/s and knew I'd be in the hospital for four nights and didn't want to go that long without seeing my (oldest) baby. Both kids will come me next time around too, barring any bad circumstances.

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becky_g · January 2012

DH brought my oldest (11.5 mos at the time) to the hospital when her sister was born. Since she was so young, i don't think it really mattered either way to her, but it worked out fine. I really wanted her there because it was an important event for our family, and as a member of it, she should be a part of it.

I do think she was a bit freaked out seeing me in the hospital bed with all the wires (i had a csection), but ultimately was fine.

i felt so much guilt when i thought about my oldest (while in the hospital with her sister). that's the feeling i remember most, but i'd definitely do it the same way again (have her come visit).

bklynbridecesh · January 2012

We did and probably shouldn't have. DD was 2 years, 9 months when DS was born, so she understood that she was going to have a brother. She was overstimulated and probably needing a nap when meeting her brother for the first time. DH and DD came to pick me and DS up and bring us home from the hospital. She was all over the place, jumping on the bed, running around, touching everything, tantrumming. And the wait to be discharged took way tooooooo long so it was very stressful. I am now due with DD #2 so DD#1 will be 4 and a half, but DS will be only 22 months and will have no idea what is going on. I will either make the introductions at home this time, or wait in the hospital lobby after I am discharged to call the whole family to come pick me up.

MAMAxB · January 2012

Yes

She wasn't there long - only 20-30 minutes or so. But I missed her like crazy and had to see her. She was so happy to see "the baby" but was overwhelmed from everyone watching her and taking pictures so we made sure to not stretch her. No regrets

WhitePicketFence · January 2012

Yep. DH brought DD1 to the hospital each day to visit me.

HappyHealthyGlo · January 2012

We decided not to bring DD#1 to the hospital simply because I was not there very long (a day and a half) and because she would have been bored to tears. Ultimately, DD#1 stayed with my mother until we returned home and the introduction was much better IMO because we could take our time and their were no interrupts from hospital staff and they did not have to leave at a certain time, etc. Plus, spending that time alone with DD#2 for those first few hours was priceless.

Brit1017 · January 2012

We did not. I had a vaginal birth and asked to be discharged after 24 hours b/c I felt great. Since I was only away for one night, I figured it was easier and would be less traumatic for DS to just see him at home.

delg23 · January 2012

Smgrochowski:
Yes, DD visited. It wasn't as good as I had envisioned. She refused to come to me the first visit and it broke my heart. After a while she did peek at her brother though. Later visits were better. She would sit with me for a little bit, and would check out DS. Mostly she just played with the privacy curtain.

This was my experience as well.

aandg · January 2012

DS came to see us in the hospital the day after DD was born. I loved seeing him but he was pretty confused. I had a c section and was still hooked up to all kinds of machines and in a lot of pain. He didn't understand why I couldn't hold him.

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