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lami22005
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Redshirting Related Post :) TIA
lami22005
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Hi Ladies,
I plan on holding my twins back next year when they are supposed to start K. In an ideal world, they would attend the preschool they do now. They would go 4 days per week next year and attend the 5's/Kinder Prep Class, (they only go 2 days right now), for 3 hours per day. We also have a nanny.
Money is an issue, and we're trying to pay off bills, etc. Also, they are in Speech, and we may have scheduling issues next year because my younger dd is also in Speech. This year it worked out because they are all at the same place and preschool is only twice per week. Next year, I'm not sure all of this will work out with their speech being off-site from their preschool. I have been thinking about the following options a lot, although neither is ideal.
My school district is implementing the new CA cut-off date of September 1st and implementing aTransitional Kinder Class. They would go to school with me-however, I have a 40 minute commute, it's full-day, and it would be tricky finding occasional child care for meetings, etc. I want them to love school, and I'm not sure if this would be too much for them. Speech would continue without issues.
The other option I'm on the fence about is to have them do Kinder twice-but have them do their first year at another school in a neighboring district. Would any of you consider this or am I totally crazy? I just don't want it to negatively affect them in any way. It would be half-day and I'm assuming their speech therapy would continue with minimal issues, etc.
Sorry this is so long and confusing! I would really appreciate any thoughts or feedback.
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Re: Redshirting Related Post :) TIA
I did Kinder twice and it was hard on me. I always thought I was dumb b/c I repeated it. I never forgot that my friends all started and moved on while I got held back. What I didn't understand until I was much older was that when I started kinder I was only 4.5 so really I was the right age with my peers. I had been gifted so my parents started me early but regretted that and that is why I repeated. I couldn't get that though at a young age. I just felt left behind in kinder when I didn't move up with my peers. So for that reason I wouldn't repeat it.
With that said I wish I had a better option. We are dealing with a similar issue b/c our twins were born 2 days before the cut off but should have been born 2 mos later well past the cut-off. I have no idea how we will do it. Best wishes and I look forward to hearing what you choose and how it went!
wouldn't your twins get speech at school if they were there? eliminating lots of driving around for speech, etc?
when were they born? are they very behind?
i used to teach K - and there are few situations that i think redshirting are the best choice... kids mature a LOT in just a few months at that age - so even when people think their kids aren't ready to start - just a few months later things can be so different.
my boys are june birthdays and i have no plans to reshirt them. Grayson is in speech now, and i suspect will be for a few more years at least... we have full day K, so he'll get speech at school when he's there (whew!).
I would NOT have your kids repeat K... as the PP said- it's confusing for a child and will make them feel bad.
Thanks so much.
@ Francisca, thanks for the personal insight! Your kids are getting so big!
@ Goldie, I work in a lower socio-economic area, and I KNOW they could do it...they were born @ 33w4d, and tend to start off behind with reaching some milestones, but then catch up. For example, at the beginning of pre-school they were nowhere near writing their name, but now they are doing it fairly well. They are bright and usually "get it." Another thing that is impacting my decision to redshirt is their sister (13 months younger), is impacted by the new cut-off date. The following year when she "was supposed" to start the new cut-off date is October 1st, and she was born on 10/11. So instead of only being one grade level apart, they would be two. Would this influence your decision? THANKS so much!
I red shirted and when people suggested I just send him to Kindy and if it didn't go well he could repeat Kindy I avoided that option like the plague.
Granted... being at a different school would be helpful in not feeling "left behind" by a peer group but I can imagine that there's plenty of talking up first grade at the end of the year. They catch everything at that age and I think they'd understand they were being held back.
Another big issue here is peer group. If they've been with the same group of kids in pre-school, would continue with them next year and then on to Kindy the following year that really is ideal from a social stand point. I find that my guys tolerate all kinds of wonky stuff as long as they've got their BFF's for stability.
I understand your hesitation about the long day - especially with that commute. All I can share with you is that we went from 2 half days at pre-school with a nanny the other half and one full day of nanny at our home per week. This year we transitioned to 3 full days. I usually drop them off around 8, academics start at 8:30 and I don't pick them up until 5 most days.
They've done AMAZINGLY well. Yes... there are some nights they're visibly tired but they're also having tons of outdoor play time so they're physically and mentally more active.
I get that it will be a tough year on many levels for you guys but I think I'd go that way if at all possible.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
Glad I could help! I keep telling my kids to slow down but they won't listen. I worry Harm will need to start shaving soon
Your little ones are so beautiful and I love their curls!!!!!