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WWYD?

pkwpkw
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I know weekends are dead but hopefully someone can chirp in for me...

I am going to a birthday dinner tonight for a friend, her husband is paying the tab for her and 10 ladies tonight.  He is out of town and wanted to let her still celebrate (how sweet right!) and have a good time so he got a sitter for their kids and worked with us to set this up, she thinks she is just having dinner with one of the ladies.

Anyhoo...

He insists no presents....

Should I really not get anything at all or do you think getting her some flowers would be totally OK?  I don't want to get a "present" since it was said "no presents please" but I feel weird about showing up empty handed and then having someone else foot the bill.  I feel like flowers would be something that would be simple and not make any of the other women feel weird if they bring nothing.  Or would it?  I dont know...

So...WWYD?  Flowers? No flowers? 

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  • Mrs.Wright07Mrs.Wright07

    I'd bring flowers.  It's a nice gesture & I agree that it's something that won't make other people fell uncomfortable if they didn't bring something.

    Have fun!

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  • oceanangelbeautyoceanangelbeauty
    Oh yes flowers sound perfect.
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  • fjarilfjaril

    I'd bring something, flowers sound great!

    I just can't go to a bday celebration without a present/gift of some sort. It just feels wrong :)

     

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  • kittylovekittylove member

    I agree about flowers. I also might pick up a car that says "from us" and have all the ladies sign it.

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  • EmmieBEmmieB member
    Definitely flowers. It's a sweet gesture. Have fun!
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  • katrina_pharmdkatrina_pharmd member
    Yup, I agree with everyone else.
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  • CelynCelyn member

    I'm a firm believer that no presents means no presents.  It puts all the other guests in an awkward position to have someone following the request and others not.  It also puts the host in an awkward position to accept a gift, even flowers, when they'd specified not to bring any (although this case is a bit different, being that it's a surprise to her).

    I know I have a unique point of view on this, but nearly everyone who requests no gifts does.  I know it's unusual and even uncomfortable for some people to come empty handed because that's not how our society usually does it.  As a not-so-funny meme on the subject - we'd specified no gifts at our wedding, since nearly everyone was coming from the other coast and their presence was all the gift we could desire.  A few people did bring presents and one was stolen at the reception (we had crashers who did their best to mingle, eat, drink, and apparently help themselves to our gifts).  It was nothing short of severely awkward for me to then contact everyone and to try to find out who brought it, since I didn't know and wouldn't have been able to send a Thank You note, and the only thing worse that coming empty handed when everyone else is bearing gifts is not sending a Thank You for a gift given, imo.

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  • pkwpkw

    I did end up bringing flowers, and it went well.  Almost everyone brought a card or some sort of tiny token.

    We trickled in at odd times (long story) so no one ever had the chance to feel awkward since anything given was quietly slipped into her purse or under her chair.  It was really fun and I got to try a new restaurant that was delicious...though crowded.  Palacio Restaurant in Los gatos.  Yum.  

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