this is selfish of me I know...but is anyone else really upset DH/SO doesn't like their name?

Jennybake12 · January 2012

We find out the sex on Monday (hopefully). If its a girl, I really wanted the middle name to be May. I just think that is so sweet sounding. I had a Great Aunt Maybelle. If I ever had two daughters I wanted one's middle name to be May and the other Belle.

DH thinks May is corny because we are due in May (I think that makes it even sweeter). And he doesn't like it anyway.

I know I shouldn't be like this because I have to respect his opinion, but I am soooo bummed.

HannahO28 · January 2012

Eh, it's ok to be disappointed. Pregnancy hormones can be a real ***. Maybe it'll grown on him when you find a FN you both love, maybe not (if you're having a girl anyway)

I never really get disappointed when DH vetos a name because (1) There's plenty of fish in the sea--there's tons of gorgeous names out there, there's no need to dwell on one and (2) My husband tends to come around on names fairly often. I never really consider anything completely off the table with him (though I stop bringing it up for awhile if he says he doesn't like it).

kelnyc · January 2012

I'm not in the same boat, but couldn't you compromise and use Belle for this daughter and if/when you have a second daughter, hope she's not born in May so you can use May for her? I honestly wouldn't be that bummed about DH vetoing a mn.

treble_clef · January 2012

My husband shot down several of my favorite FIRST name choices...

guilletskichuk · January 2012

I can empathize. I'm not pregnant but a few months ago I had my DH vote on my baby names list...and I found out that he disliked many of my favourite first names. Mind you, he was giving an opinion on the names at first glance. If he had time to think about them, perhaps he would have come around (or will hopefully come around in the future! lol)...but at the time I was devastated. Many posters on here told me that I was being overly dramatic about it...especially for someone who didn't have pregnancy hormones to blame it on. What can I say? I am an emotional person (not much of a drama queen these days though) and I blurted out how I was feeling somewhere where I thought I wouldn't be judged. Meh.

natalie7s19 · January 2012

I think that happens to a lot of people. My DH nixed my entire list, girls and boys. And I nixed his. We had to start fresh, as a couple, not looking at names that just one of us loved but at names that we both liked. If it wasn't unanimous, it wasn't going on the list.

FTR, I don't think May would be cheesy. Does he like Belle?

jelina · January 2012

I understand the disappointment. My DH has vetoed most of my name choice including my current Juliet. He says it sounds too "out there". huh??? Oh well. I don't mind because I never had my heart set on that name or anything. Maybe he will come around.

mlf625 · January 2012

A smidge sad, but not really upset. I was in love with Mabel for DD, and figured since it was DH's grandma's name, and she was the sweetest little lady ever, he'd be all for it. He absolutely refused to use it and I was definitely bummed. But we found another name we both loved, iho my great grandma, and now I can't imagine DD as anything but a Vivian. You'll find the right name.

ljtvirkus · January 2012

Well I had a girl name I already had picked out and if we were having a girl it was non-negotiable. So, I let my DH pick out the boy's name. And we are having a boy and actually I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the name my DH picked.

colfr · January 2012

I think you have a right to be upset since it was honoring a family member!!! Maybe talk to him about how it's not just a name you like, it is so special to you.

And plus, my best friend's younger sister was originally going to be Eleanor Grace. All through their pregnancy that was her name. And then she ended up arriving on May 1st, after their due date, so they named her Eleanor May instead. And I've never heard anyone say anything bad about it, they all think it's a really sweet idea (:

blu-eyedwife · January 2012

HannahO28:
Eh, it's ok to be disappointed. Pregnancy hormones can be a real ***. Maybe it'll grown on him when you find a FN you both love, maybe not (if you're having a girl anyway)
I never really get disappointed when DH vetos a name because (1) There's plenty of fish in the sea--there's tons of gorgeous names out there, there's no need to dwell on one and (2) My husband tends to come around on names fairly often. I never really consider anything completely off the table with him (though I stop bringing it up for awhile if he says he doesn't like it).

I agree with all these statements - except that my husband doesn't come around on names. Totally cool to be bummed - I even get a touch jealous when I see people on here planning to name their children Cordelia or Theodore which were both vetoed by my husband. But I love the name we decided on and I know you will find something you both love too.

paintme · January 2012

Could you go with Mae? That is a pretty classic name and at least in spelling won't remind you of the month. Just an idea.

jesbeth · January 2012

I have a co-worker named April who was born in April. Now that's corny. Wink

May as MN for a baby born in May, because it's a family name especially, I like it. A good compromise is for him to let you pick the MN and try and have him pick the FN.

speckledfrog · January 2012

Yeah, a May born in May is pretty corny. It's totally understandable to be upset. Sometimes that happens when you have an idea in mind but have to share your plans with another person

Fink · January 2012

My husband vetoed my 3 favorite names and then proceeded to veto 12 more that I liked and could have lived with. It has taken me weeks and weeks to stop really being bummed. Its hard to accept that you'll never have a LO with your fave name - so don't be hard on yourself.

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