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January 2011 Moms
SweetHurricane
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Hospital Visits
SweetHurricane
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I keep seeing all these posts about pregnant woman who are worried about people showing up at the hospital to see them.
Do you visit your friends at the hospital after they have babies?
The only baby-having friends I've had (in my adult life) have been coworkers. They would bring the baby in the show them off when they were ready. I've always just assumed that most people visit their friends at home. Who are these people that just show up at hospitals to visit friends after giving birth?
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Re: Hospital Visits
My 2 best friends came to see us at the hospital. I don't think its a big deal.
To clarify, this was after the birth. Nobody was getting a front row seat for that sh*t. The only person who showed up when I was in 'recovery' mode was SIL (which was really awkward and kind of bad because she was clearly there to see Joaquin and couldn't and I wanted to yell at her face but, yanno, morphine). She was there at 10/11-ish after my 4am delivery. I had a really easy delivery physiologically though, and was totally fine by 2-ish, provided I'd taken some motrin.
I have an awesome immune system and high pain tolerance, holla. If I were recovering from a 2nd degree tear with a baby in the room and an epidural headache it would be a different story I'm sure.
If I'm working I will go to L&D to visit co-workers that just had a baby. I always call first to make sure they are ready for visitors. Even so I got to see my RN manager with her shirt off attempting to BF for the first time. I love that I can be so casual about something like that, when 3 years ago I would have been more than a little uncomfortable. Anyway, my co-workers also stopped by to see both kids in the hospital. Otherwise it was just family that came up after they were born.
If I go to someone's home to see the baby anytime while they are on maternity leave I bring a meal. Something that they can throw in the oven or freeze for later. I basically just bring a gift and visit for a bit. I try to go without the kids now. I'm sure they don't want my toddler's germy hands on their newborn anymore than I would.
We had a lot of vistors in the hospital:
my parents
DH's parents
my bro & fiance
DH's sister
my 2 best friends and husbands
dh's 2 best friends and wives (and 2 kids)
We were there for 2.5 days after the birth and most of them came day 2. it was kind of nice having them in the hospital, because no one teetered on overstaying their welcome (as could have happened in the comforts of our house.)
I think I worded the question wrong...
When your friends have babies, do you visit them in the hospital?
Ha, totally did. Reading comp fail!
I've only visited 1 friend in the hospital. It wasn't a surprise, she asked me to come.
If im close with them, I definitley go.
I had a TON of ppl visit me, I actually loved it.