I don't like attention seekers...

RobinandDJ · January 2012

I have a friend on Facebook who just posted a photo of her positive pregnancy test...that she took TODAY! That is kind of ballsy to me. I am 3 months and I still don't feel comfortable posting on Facebook or making my pg public knowledge. I just feel that this is a huge attention seeking move...

I just don't know why some people post everything on Facebook. Some things need to be kept to your family and not made public on the Internet for everyone to see....do some people not value privacy anymore?

Thanks for letting me vent

StokedWifey · January 2012

I'm with you! People waaaaaaaaaay overshare on Facebook. It drives me insane!

SallySunrise · January 2012

I agree that was really ballsy to post on the day of her BFP, and I also agree that there is a huge amount of over-sharing that happens on fb. If you're saying it's too much to post that you're pregnant though, I don't agree with that. It's a HUGE part of your life! To me, the point of fb is to keep in touch with people I don't necessarily see or talk to all the time, but who I care about enough to stay updated on. Having a baby is a pretty big update, I don't think it's attention seeking to tell people that your whole life is about to change! Weekly fetal development updates, updates on your symptoms, etc. = definitely too much. But to say, at the point when you're ready to share, "We're having a baby!" is not too much info, IMO.

missusbee · January 2012

Yes, but obviously we all have different levels of comfort. I was pretty incredulous when anyone before 8 weeks was posting on FB, but there were a lot of women here comfortable doing that.

::shrug::

Whatever works. I'm far more bothered by people's asinine political commentary on FB than I am by a HPT.

apollonia10 · January 2012

This drives me crazy! One announcement is fine, but then people start to crave that attention they got from the announcement, and they post about every detail of their pregnancy...one of my friends enlisted her FB friends to name her baby, then announced that she chose the name, and THEN took days to make people guess and finally announce it...

RobinandDJ · January 2012

SallySunrise:
I agree that was really ballsy to post on the day of her BFP, and I also agree that there is a huge amount of over-sharing that happens on fb. If you're saying it's too much to post that you're pregnant though, I don't agree with that. It's a HUGE part of your life! To me, the point of fb is to keep in touch with people I don't necessarily see or talk to all the time, but who I care about enough to stay updated on. Having a baby is a pretty big update, I don't think it's attention seeking to tell people that your whole life is about to change! Weekly fetal development updates, updates on your symptoms, etc. = definitely too much. But to say, at the point when you're ready to share, "We're having a baby!" is not too much info, IMO.

I completely agree that sharing that your pg isn't an over share for those that you have a hard time staying in touch with. I just think that posting the day you get your BFP is really crazy. She is asking for prayers because it is early, it's like I think you should share that with your family first because I know that if my family and close friends had to find out I was pg through Facebook, they would be hurt.

Penguin1318 · January 2012

I agree! My little sister is 6 wks pg and announced to FB at 5 wks. I still don't plan on posting it up until like 2-3 more weeks. She even posted about how she put HERSELF on bedrest bc she wasn't feeling so well. But when you ask her in person she says she hasn't had any pg symptoms and has felt great.

COmommy0f2 · January 2012

I hear you. I don't get why people post such personal information on a public site. I may be paranoid, but I think it only invites trouble. You see people posting that they are going to be out of town, and I think that is valuable information for thieves, they know your house is vacant. WTW!

I do understand though that it is a fast easy way to share really good news, and of course to each their own. I have decided not to announce on FB as it isn't for me. I would rather personally speak to everyone that I want to share my pregnancy with. Though I guess I am a bit jaded since I have had a really hard time in the past year with people that I thought I could no doubt trust.

mandalinn25 · January 2012

We all do what we are comfortable with. There is no right way or wrong way in my mind. My family and friends are spread all over the country and I was completely open about my IVF cycle, so we posted when we had positive betas come in. That is what we felt comfortable with. If that bugs someone else, that is their issue, not mine.

celestialballet · January 2012

I have a lot of people on facebook that I only see in August/September that I would love to tell, but I am not quite comfortable announcing it on facebook even though I have hit Tri 2 at this point.

I am probably going to wait until I get the 20 week ultrasound and can feel baby movnig in there before I can post since that will be my reassurance that really everythign is okay.

Also I am still hoping to negotiate my August/September Job contract, and I don't want the employer to know since pregnancy is something they frown on and well they don't have to renew my contract... so I could lose that job easily.

caityxsweetie · January 2012

I posted our positive pregnancy test at 4 weeks to announce on Facebook after we called and told all our close friends and family. We live in a completely different state then every single person we know so it was easier to just tell everyone else all at once. As for telling so early, I had no idea people didn't announce right away until I joined TB and saw how catious everyone was. I thought it was totally normal to announce right away! Lol.

hsm · January 2012

It doesn't bother me. To each her own. Seeing pregnancy announcement posts always make me happy.

Personally, I haven't announced on fb and don't know if I even will. But I don't post much about anything!

mandiek72512 · January 2012

caityxsweetie:
I posted our positive pregnancy test at 4 weeks to announce on Facebook after we called and told all our close friends and family. We live in a completely different state then every single person we know so it was easier to just tell everyone else all at once. As for telling so early, I had no idea people didn't announce right away until I joined TB and saw how catious everyone was. I thought it was totally normal to announce right away! Lol.

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I didn't post a picture but after telling family and close friends, I did the same thing! I had no idea you weren't supposed to tell until after 3 months or so! I was (and still am) telling strangers.. anyone that cared to listen!!

nogitron · January 2012

I don't like to think I'm attention seeking . . . but the two pregnancy related things I've posted since our u/s pictures/announcement - one when I hit 199 days left, one asking my momma-friends a question about maternity clothes - have gotten NO RESPONSE. Not even a "like". I've gotten more feedback posting a picture of my lunch. It made me feel kinda bad. Guess I'll just keep the rest of my pregnancy to myself. "The folks" are, apparently, not interested and I don't want to force it on them.

catmtl · January 2012

I won't be posting anything to Facebook. Anyone who's close enough to me I've already told personally. No need for all your "friends" to know. I find it too personal and yes, a bit of an attention-grab.

Alternatively, you can post something to FB and set permissions so that only friends on a certain list will see it.

OUKatie · January 2012

Eh, I announced on FB. I have a lot of friends in different circles that I don't see all the time but are interested in my pregnancy and super excited. I don't post that often about it, just big stuff (like yesterday when I got to hear the heartbeat). Any baby post winds up with at least 20 responses and even more likes than that, so I figure it isn't bugging people too much.

mego1988 · January 2012

I waited quite awhile before I even TOLD anyone. I hate when people post things like that right away. Now I do have the fetal development week by week on my fb, but the updates aren't the usual ones, they are funny and are meant to be funny. That I don't mind, but the "what's my body doing" updates are ridiculous.

MrsOjoButtons · January 2012

Meh, we originally planned on waiting until 10w to tell, but we ended up Skyping family at 5w to tell them because my husband was deploying. Multiple emergency room visits later, I'm glad I have my ILs checking in on me and that my husband and I aren't trying to keep that all a secret. Telling early doesn't jinx it. And yep, after we made our phone calls, we posted a picture of us holding books, his was My Daddy is an Airman and mine was WTEWYE. I'd rather everybody know around the same time so nobody felt the need to keep secrets. That's a lot of pressure to put on somebody.

May not be your style, but what's it got to do with you? You get to announce the way you'd like, and she gets that opportunity as well.

FlannelGrl · January 2012

missusbee:
Yes, but obviously we all have different levels of comfort. I was pretty incredulous when anyone before 8 weeks was posting on FB, but there were a lot of women here comfortable doing that.
::shrug::
Whatever works. I'm far more bothered by people's asinine political commentary on FB than I am by a HPT.

Yes agree

But I also agree that is WAY too early to share!

electricdoctor83 · January 2012

We are announcing after my appointment on Monday if we see/hear a heartbeat. I'll be 11 weeks. If I wouldn't have experience so many losses before this baby I would have probably already announced but I am a little gun shy now.

There really is not a right or wrong way to announce a pregnancy...just do whatever you are comfortable with and what feels right. Now, if you starts posting about your mucous plugs and how dilated your cervix is in 3rd trimester I might give you a side eye

littleusfamily · January 2012

There have been a lot of posts like this. I don't see the big deal!

First there is no "too early". It's just what YOU feel comfortable with. As far as sharing on FB goes, why does everyone care so much what others choose to share about *their* pregnancy??

If it upsets you or bothers you that they're happy and excited about their pregnancy as they should be then hide their status updates.

I know many girls have said it's because when they experienced a loss it was hard seeing others getting pregnant and being happy/excited but my thought is why should they have to censor their excitement? Do you not post about your children ever either? Or about your husbands? Some people may not be able to have children at all and seeing your updates may upset them. Some people may not have husbands and hearing about someone elses could upset them!

It's just Facebook. NBD.

MrsOjoButtons · January 2012

FlannelGrl:
But I also agree that is WAY too early to share!

Why?

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