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Bloodwork Results Normal, and a Vent or Two (long)

Bloodwork came back normal.  While I'm glad there's nothing wrong with me, I'm a little bummed to not have any answers.  But, this what we expected, so I guess we just continue to hope for the best.

Now, the vent.  I called my dad last night and let him know what's going on.  We hadn't told him I was pregnant in the first place, but I wanted to let him know the situation since everyone else knew.  

Little back story...  I hate his wife.  Hate is a strong word that I don't use very often to describe my feelings toward people, but I hate her.  She's evil.  She's a sh!t stirrer.  Dad sold his house and moved into her house with the understanding that they would buy a house together, but once she got him in hers, she changed her mind, and since it's HER house, she won't let him have a key to it because she doesn't trust him.  She's accused him of stealing things like aprons or a dress she misplaced or accuses him of stealing a blanket of hers to give to my sister because the factory actually made more than one and my sister just happened to have one just like hers.  She refuses to allow my dad to spend time with his daughters and limits the time he spends with his grandchildren because SHE doesn't like little kids, yet gets mad when she's not invited to be in a picture that just happened to be a good photo op because all the kids were around dad.  Before I got pregnant the first time, she was ALWAYS asking me about when we were going to have kids.  ALWAYS in my face about it. Would not let up.

They were aware of the first pregnancy and subsequent m/c.  I've stated to him that when I have news I'm ready to share, I'll tell them, but until then I didn't want to talk about it.  On Christmas Eve, she asks me "Got any news???"  I just said nope.

Fast forward to yesterday when I filled my dad in I, once again, asked him if he could say something to the step monster and just let her know that once this process is over, I don't want to talk about our TTC efforts.  I don't want to be asked if I have news or if I'm pregnant.  I don't want to be asked when we're gonna have a baby, etc.  His response:  "Just let her roll off your back, she's just excited."  I give up on trying to get that man or his beotch of a wife to understand ANYTHING regarding human emotion or feelings.  This is a man who's griped and moaned about me and my two sisters telling him he needs to go see his other daughter (from his first marriage) because she's dying of cancer!

Also, now that I'm on a roll... I hate the fact that I can't log on here during the day except from my phone which is a PITA!  Today was a bit of a rough day and while my co-irker (who is the one who probably ratted me out a few weeks back) messed with pictures on her computer, surrounded by people (INCLUDING our supervisor) laughing and giggling about whatever they were doing, I sat at my desk on the verge of tears wanting nothing more than to come on here and connect with my girls.  Makes me want to smack a b!tch.

BFP #1 9-15-11; EDD 5-28-12. US 6w2d, growth

BFP #2 12-6-11 and 12-7-11; EDD 8-17-12. US 6w6d measuring 5w6d. Misoprostol Assisted m/c 1-16-12 at 9w3d.

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Re: Bloodwork Results Normal, and a Vent or Two (long)

  • I'm glad that nothing is wrong with you- but I am also sorry that your dad is married to such a pain in the butt.  I don't think I would be very happy with that situation.  

    I hope your day gets better.

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  • Wow. I want to crotch punch you step monster. What a f'ing b!tch! I hate her too for the record. I am so sorry you have to deal with her. (((hugs)))

    I am also sorry you haven't gotten any concrete answers.  

  • I am glad your bw was normal, but sorry that you don't have any answers. Your step mom sounds like a real peach. I am sorry that you have to deal with her. ((hugs)) I hope tomorrow is a better day. It is Friday, after all.
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  • I'm happy to hear your b/w came back ok.  Sorry about your Dad's wife- that would be awful Sad

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  • Gah! I'm so sorry about your sh*t day and having to deal with the step-monster. I agree with Roxy, sounds like it's time for a crotch-punch (for the co-irker too).

    Hope your night gets better (maybe a glass or two of wine are what you need)

     

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  • I am glad that your bloodwork is normal. I am sorry to hear about your evil step-monster. It is hard enough to deal with good intentioned people asking about TTC, I can't imagine dealing with someone like that.
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  • I'm glad that you b/w came back normal but also understand how it's frustrating to not have any answers either.

    Your dad's wife sounds horrible. I can't even imagine having to deal with someone like that. I'm sorry that telling you dad about your m/c didn't go as well as planned. 

    I really wish that you could come on here during the day too. We would love to offer you support when your co-irker is being horrible. 

    Sending you love, ((hugs)), and some booze. 

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  • I did get myself a bottle of Frambois Lambic on the way home, but I'm saving it for the weekend.  It's DH vacation weekend (the dinner theater he's the head chef at is closed the first full weekend of January every year... his only real time off without a struggle with his boss) and we have nothing going on once we're both home tomorrow night.  :)  He doesn't drink, so it's ALL mine!!!
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  • I'm sorry about your bloodwork not giving any answers. While it's wonderful they didn't find anything, it's always frustrating to not get the answers you were hoping for.

    As for your step-monster who I would like to punch in the face, the next time she asks about your baby making situation maybe just say "I am not comfortable talking about it." Unfortunately with domineering people like her, unless someone gives a little friction back they just keep pushing and pushing. If she doesn't respect that, then give me her address and I'll handle this old school way. I was born at the most ghetto hospital in Phoenix, I fight dirty. Wink

    Now the co-irker. That situation totally annoys me for you! Next time maybe just politely ask them to keep it down since you are WORKING. It'll get the point across, especially to the Supervisor who should lead by example. I cannot stand hypocrisy in the work place. If you want to punish me for something, fine, but you better make sure you are doing it across the board!

    Hang in there sweetie.


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  • I'm glad your bloodwork came back normal, but I'm sorry you don't have any answers as to why this is happening again.

    I don't have any advice for you on your dad/step mom situation except maybe keep your distance from her if possible.  Or rudely tell her to mind her own business and stop worrying about your uterus.  Big Smile

    (((HUGS))) to you hun.  I hope tomorrow is a better day for you!


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  • Mmm Lambic is amazing! I say drink the whole dang bottle and big ((Hugs)) to you!
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  • Ugh....I'm so sorry.  ((hugs!!)) 
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  • Ugh--(((Huge Hugs))). I'm so glad that your b/w was normal, but sorry at the same time that there's no easy answer with a quick fix. I'm sorry you have so much extra junk to deal with at work and with the step monster. So glad you and YH have plans for a nice weekend together. I hope you get lots of refreshment from that time. And refreshment from the wine... ;)
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    Gah! I'm so sorry about your sh*t day and having to deal with the step-monster. I agree with Roxy, sounds like it's time for a crotch-punch (for the co-irker too).

    Hope your night gets better (maybe a glass or two of wine are what you need)

    This. I hope tomorrow gets better. If randomly your co-irker is choked out by a random person in a banana suit, ask no questions.

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    imageConnieRob:

    Gah! I'm so sorry about your sh*t day and having to deal with the step-monster. I agree with Roxy, sounds like it's time for a crotch-punch (for the co-irker too).

    Hope your night gets better (maybe a glass or two of wine are what you need)

    This. I hope tomorrow gets better. If randomly your co-irker is choked out by a random person in a banana suit, ask no questions.

    Now THERE's a thought to get me through the day!  lol.  Whenever she's getting on my nerves, I'll just invite that image into my head and smile.  :)  Thanks!

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  • Wow..  No words...  just..wow

    I'm so frustrated with you/for you.....  I can't believe there are people like that out there.  And your stupid co-workers...ugh.  I wish you could just get on tb and ignore them all together.  On a different note, I'm glad that everything came back normal for you!  Still, with everything going on, sounds like you need a stiff drink....

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  • Sounds like she is really hard to deal with. I'm so sorry that doday was so rough. HUGS!
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  • I'm glad everything came back normal although I know how much it sucks not to have answers. And I'm so sorry about your dad and step-monster! That is horrible...I really wish that he could be there for you in the way you want him to.

    ((BIG HUGS))

  • I'm so sorry you have to deal with such a witch as a mother in law.  Glad your results came back normal.  Sending you big, warm, squishy hugs!
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    I'm so sorry you have to deal with such a witch as a mother in law.  Glad your results came back normal.  Sending you big, warm, squishy hugs!

    You probably meant step monster, but just wanted to make sure.  lol.  My MIL is actually one of the sweetest, meekest women on the planet.  ;)

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  • So sorry you have to deal with such a mean woman.

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