baby name vent

Kitkatishbakk · January 2012

DH and I cannot have a civil name conversation. He says I'm being a psycho hormonal b!itch. It is 100% OK for him to say, flat out, "I hate that name" but when I say that to his choice he asks me why the hell I even asked his opinion. Keep in mind I have been trying to have this discussion with him for 3 days. I have suggested 15+ names and he likes one. Has suggested only this one. And that's it. We only have this problem with girl names because if its a boy, it gets named after his family tradition which means I get 0% input in my little boys name. #endstupidrant

misjenn · January 2012

Have him come up with his top 5-10 names and you do the same then he gets to eliminate one and then you do Until you get down to top 3-4 and then go from there.

Chandley · January 2012

Kitkatishbakk:
DH and I cannot have a civil name conversation. He says I'm being a psycho hormonal b!itch. It is 100% OK for him to say, flat out, "I hate that name" but when I say that to his choice he asks me why the hell I even asked his opinion. Keep in mind I have been trying to have this discussion with him for 3 days. I have suggested 15+ names and he likes one. Has suggested only this one. And that's it. We only have this problem with girl names because if its a boy, it gets named after his family tradition which means I get 0% input in my little boys name. #endstupidrant

yeah, that wouldn't fly in this house. is there a specific reason? if that is the deal, then maybe you should get 100% say in the girl name? fairs fair...

Kitkatishbakk · January 2012

misjenn:
Have him come up with his top 5-10 names and you do the same then he gets to eliminate one and then you do Until you get down to top 3-4 and then go from there.

This is a good idea. I'll quit asking him every 2 hours if he found anymore names he likes. The other option is wait until 1/31 for our a/s but I'm so impatient.

angelaggie · January 2012

DH refused to talk names until we knew the sex. Said it would cause fights.

mcurban · January 2012

Kitkatishbakk:
misjenn:
Have him come up with his top 5-10 names and you do the same then he gets to eliminate one and then you do Until you get down to top 3-4 and then go from there.
This is a good idea. I'll quit asking him every 2 hours if he found anymore names he likes. The other option is wait until 1/31 for our a/s but I'm so impatient.

I mean, honestly, if the options are a) waiting and focusing on the gender that you know or b) trying to come up w/ names for a hypothetical gender which might not even happen and in the meantime being called a psycho b!tch by your spouse Indifferent , I'd probably opt for choice a.

Kitkatishbakk · January 2012

Chandley:
Kitkatishbakk:
DH and I cannot have a civil name conversation. He says I'm being a psycho hormonal b!itch. It is 100% OK for him to say, flat out, "I hate that name" but when I say that to his choice he asks me why the hell I even asked his opinion. Keep in mind I have been trying to have this discussion with him for 3 days. I have suggested 15+ names and he likes one. Has suggested only this one. And that's it. We only have this problem with girl names because if its a boy, it gets named after his family tradition which means I get 0% input in my little boys name. #endstupidrant

yeah, that wouldn't fly in this house. is there a specific reason? if that is the deal, then maybe you should get 100% say in the girl name? fairs fair...

I'm on my phone. Sorry if there are formatting issues. Boy name family tradition: FN has to start with G and be 4 letters long. Middle name HAS TO BE David. I think this tradition is 5000% ridiculous, but if he and FIL are this passionate about it, its not worth the fight to me. He has chosen Gage. My choice was Gian...popular opinion among family & friends was Gage. He won.

texasbeachbride · January 2012

I feel your pain. We had a really hard time agreeing on a girl name. My style is more unique/uncommon names and he prefers more traditional. It was the same way, I would come up with tons of name he would shoot down, but then he wouldn't come up with any.

Anyways, I just kept going through names and we finally found one we could both agree on. It wasn't either of ours first choice but we both like it and agree on it. But honestly if you are planning to find out the sex, I would just wait until you know and possibly save your sanity

Jess.O · January 2012

Chandley:
Kitkatishbakk:
DH and I cannot have a civil name conversation. He says I'm being a psycho hormonal b!itch. It is 100% OK for him to say, flat out, "I hate that name" but when I say that to his choice he asks me why the hell I even asked his opinion. Keep in mind I have been trying to have this discussion with him for 3 days. I have suggested 15+ names and he likes one. Has suggested only this one. And that's it. We only have this problem with girl names because if its a boy, it gets named after his family tradition which means I get 0% input in my little boys name. #endstupidrant

yeah, that wouldn't fly in this house. is there a specific reason? if that is the deal, then maybe you should get 100% say in the girl name? fairs fair...

I agree with this...

ali-1411 · January 2012

Kitkatishbakk:
Chandley:
Kitkatishbakk:
DH and I cannot have a civil name conversation. He says I'm being a psycho hormonal b!itch. It is 100% OK for him to say, flat out, "I hate that name" but when I say that to his choice he asks me why the hell I even asked his opinion. Keep in mind I have been trying to have this discussion with him for 3 days. I have suggested 15+ names and he likes one. Has suggested only this one. And that's it. We only have this problem with girl names because if its a boy, it gets named after his family tradition which means I get 0% input in my little boys name. #endstupidrant

yeah, that wouldn't fly in this house. is there a specific reason? if that is the deal, then maybe you should get 100% say in the girl name? fairs fair...
I'm on my phone. Sorry if there are formatting issues. Boy name family tradition: FN has to start with G and be 4 letters long. Middle name HAS TO BE David. I think this tradition is 5000% ridiculous, but if he and FIL are this passionate about it, its not worth the fight to me. He has chosen Gage. My choice was Gian...popular opinion among family & friends was Gage. He won.

That's an unusual tradition. How many 4 letter G names are there in the world? Gary....Gabe...and that's all I got.

mcurban · January 2012

ali-1411:
That's an unusual tradition. How many 4 letter G names are there in the world? Gary....Gabe...and that's all I got.

I was also trying to come up w/ some. I got as far as Gene.

ETA: Glen and Greg

ETA 2: May I ask how many generations this goes back?

MrsAJL · January 2012

Gabe
Gace
Gael
Gage
Gail
Gale
Gary
Gene
Geno
Gino
Glen
Gray
Greg
Guss
Gust

mcurban · January 2012

MrsAJL:
Gabe
Gace
Gael
Gage
Gail
Gale
Gary
Gene
Geno
Gino
Glen
Gray
Greg
Guss
Gust

that's cheating. you totally googled "boy name starting w/ G four letters" or some variation thereof. cheater.

MrsAJL · January 2012

mcurban:
MrsAJL:
Gabe
Gace
Gael
Gage
Gail
Gale
Gary
Gene
Geno
Gino
Glen
Gray
Greg
Guss
Gust
that's cheating. you totally googled "boy name starting w/ G four letters" or some variation thereof. cheater.

And your point is.....? Big Smile

Kitkatishbakk · January 2012

It goes back 5. Gene. Gary. Gray. Glen. DH is Gant. The other problem is our last name is a mouthful and 13 letters long.

userdeleted · January 2012

mcurban:
Kitkatishbakk:
misjenn:
Have him come up with his top 5-10 names and you do the same then he gets to eliminate one and then you do Until you get down to top 3-4 and then go from there.
This is a good idea. I'll quit asking him every 2 hours if he found anymore names he likes. The other option is wait until 1/31 for our a/s but I'm so impatient.
I mean, honestly, if the options are a) waiting and focusing on the gender that you know or b) trying to come up w/ names for a hypothetical gender which might not even happen and in the meantime being called a psycho b!tch by your spouse , I'd probably opt for choice a.

I'm with mc.

MnMShaw · January 2012

We must be married to the same man. I haven't even been able to get pregnant yet and we can not talk about naming a child. It gets ugly!

mcgee · January 2012

I'd wait until you know what you're having. If it's a girl, then I'd tell him that he is welcome to have input on your name list, but if he's THAT adamant on such a silly name tradition for a boy, then you get to name the girl. Fair is fair. And then be fully prepared to suck it up and deal with the name tradition if you have a boy.

MrsMillerTime · January 2012

DH & I picked DD's name via email. It worked out perfectly for us because it took the emotion completely out of it. I would email him a list of names and he would take his time and email me back - crossing out names he didn't like and adding names he did like. We went back & forth & back & forth until we finally agreed on something.

MrsMillerTime · January 2012

Kitkatishbakk:
our last name is a mouthful and 13 letters long.

That's probably why they pick short first names. Naming conventions are a lot different when it is a boy and he is going to be stuck with his name for.ev.er. It is a lot more to think about as opposed to a girl that will probably change her last (and maybe her middle) name after 25-30 years.

SaraLouiseBride08 · January 2012

FWIW, I like the name Gage a lot. And I kinda like the tradition, too. SO much better than 6 generations of the SAME name, right?

And like PP said, DH and I have a lot of important discussions via email or IM. It really keeps things from exploding. If it's a girl, have him email you his name suggestions, and you pick your favorites from his list, add them to your list, and I say you get to pick!

balihaigirl · January 2012

DH and I stopped discussing names until we found out the sex of the baby. After that, I printed up a list of the top 1000 names from 2010 and went through and highlighted the ones I liked. I gave DH a deadline (Christmas) to go through the list, and to highlight the ones he liked. There were a few that overlapped and with that we came up with our top 3 choices.

We each ranked the names with a 1, 2, or 3. The name with the highest ranking from each person is the name we chose. FWIW, we went with DH's #1 choice and my #2 choice, but I'm completely happy with the name. If you find that you argue every time you start discussing names, maybe having each person look at different names individually will help you as well.

HTH!

NoeliaV · January 2012

Rach03k:
mcurban:
Kitkatishbakk:
misjenn:
Have him come up with his top 5-10 names and you do the same then he gets to eliminate one and then you do Until you get down to top 3-4 and then go from there.
This is a good idea. I'll quit asking him every 2 hours if he found anymore names he likes. The other option is wait until 1/31 for our a/s but I'm so impatient.
I mean, honestly, if the options are a) waiting and focusing on the gender that you know or b) trying to come up w/ names for a hypothetical gender which might not even happen and in the meantime being called a psycho b!tch by your spouse , I'd probably opt for choice a.
I'm with mc.

Word up.
I mean, y'all are arguing over something that, in 25 days, may be totally moot.

In the meantime, make a list of all your girl names. On the 31st, if needed, present it to him and ask him to pick a few.

FWIW, I'd be totally annoyed if MH asked me about anything every 2 hours. That's hyperbole, yes?

a-c-d · January 2012

mcgee:
I'd wait until you know what you're having. If it's a girl, then I'd tell him that he is welcome to have input on your name list, but if he's THAT adamant on such a silly name tradition for a boy, then you get to name the girl. Fair is fair. And then be fully prepared to suck it up and deal with the name tradition if you have a boy.

This 100%. If I can't have ANY input on the boy - he can't have ANY input on the girl.

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