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How do I know "whats next?"???

Mom2ReeseMom2Reese member
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Have yet another WTF appt in a week and a half and I can't help but think my dr will snicker when he sees us walk through the door. All money aside, he surely must think we should give up?

our first fresh IVF worked and gave us our miracle, but my family is not complete....so the next two FETs failed, an IUI with my DHs sperm we figured would fail, did. and then an IUI with donor sperm (cause sperm is our only issue that we know of...) just failed. How do I know where to go next? We've spent over 20K OOP - no insurance coverage at all - to try and have a family.

 I am so grateful for my sweet daughter and don't like when people say "be thankful you have one..." I AM thankful for her...so so blessed. But, when the desire is SO strong to have another to complete our family, it's hard to ignore it.

EDITED TO ADD: I know many of you ladies have gone through so much more...and spent much more money. I think aobut you all on here so much....this is something I didn't, and I'm sure you didn't either, ever dream of for yourself. It sucks no matter what....but this is my story. and my heart.

The sweet girl who gave us her leftover Donor Sperm is willing to give us two of her frozen embryos...FET is alot cheaper than fresh IVF obviously so that would cut costs. We live on one income so that I can stay home with my daughter. Savings is no longer there....infertility took care of that.

So, do we accept the frozen embryos just to save ourselves $5000? Or...I don't even know. I'm not giving up until we have completed our family or the Lord takes away my desire to have another.

I am praying the Lord would give us wisdom in this decision. I know someone else has been in a similiar situation...probably all of you. Why does money have to come in the way??? I just will never understand.

Wife for 6 years. Mommy to Reese, 3, after IVF. IUI #1 5/07 = BFN. IVF #1 7/07 = BFP (Reese :-)) FET #1 7/10 = BFN. FET #2 4/11 = BFN. IUI #2 9/11 = BFN. IUI #3 (with donor sperm) 11/11 = BFN. IVF with DE 5/12 = BFP! Beta #1 = 222. Beta #2 = 613. First u/s 6/9 due to bleeding and cramping = saw one beautiful baby! EED 2/3/13 M/C on 6/12/12 at 6 weeks. At a crossroads with our next steps... Read about my journey at: www.clayandjobeth.blogspot.com
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Re: How do I know "whats next?"???

  • ela81ela81

    ((((Big Hugs)))

    I'm in a similar boat, minus the fail cycles. I have a wonderful, perfect DD who I am so very grateful for but, our journey is not over either. Just yesterday we got dh's 2 zero count so we will be moving to donor sperm (I'm still coming to terms with that). We are also 100%oop and have spent about the same as you and your dh have. For that reason my dh does not want to spend more money looking for sperm that is likely not there in him and move on. 

    If you are open to using the embryos offered then I would totally do it. I know there is more thought that goes into it than that which sucks.

    Sorry, I don't have anything better than that to say. I will be praying for you and your family.

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  • Mom2ReeseMom2Reese member

    Don't apologize --- what you said was perfect. It's nice to know I'm not alone. Because so often I feel that way.

    Good luck with your next journey....I pray that it is successful and brings you much peace with your decisions.

    Wife for 6 years. Mommy to Reese, 3, after IVF. IUI #1 5/07 = BFN. IVF #1 7/07 = BFP (Reese :-)) FET #1 7/10 = BFN. FET #2 4/11 = BFN. IUI #2 9/11 = BFN. IUI #3 (with donor sperm) 11/11 = BFN. IVF with DE 5/12 = BFP! Beta #1 = 222. Beta #2 = 613. First u/s 6/9 due to bleeding and cramping = saw one beautiful baby! EED 2/3/13 M/C on 6/12/12 at 6 weeks. At a crossroads with our next steps... Read about my journey at: www.clayandjobeth.blogspot.com
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