I need a SPECIAL shower for a friend.

carmenlarue · January 2012

Hey girls.

Youve been super helpful during this planning process for my friend who has 2 preemies. She has mailed invites, planned the shower pretty much herself...because I suspect "it's the right thing to do." I finally saw her after 2 months and she told me she was completely devastated during the whole pregnancy and delivery. She has no happy memories of being pregnant, no time to shop and take pictures, shes depressed im sure, and she isn't going to want to be 'on" at this shower. I told her to only expect to be there for 1.5 hours, I will do the rest, I feel so bad. I enjoyed every aspect of my first pregnancy so I can't imagine.I want to do something special for her during the shower. I need some ideas. Babies will be home at the middle of Jan. Her GF haven't really seen her since Oct, it's 60 people coming, because it's Co-ed. (dont ask) I just want to make some thing good out of this so every aspect isn't crapped out for her. She wants a well wishes tree to be in the babies honor which will be nice but I need something for her. To let her know we love and support her. Please give me any ideas ladies, youre always super helpful.

BeerBeck · January 2012

Sorry, I don't know the backgrund of the story but, will the babies be at the shower?

If so, it might be nice to have a photographer come and take pictures of the event and the babies, etc.

Or, what about having a photographer come to her house after the come home for a family shoot?

rhubarb123 · January 2012

The photography idea is really good. Also, maybe you can get some friends to sign up to babysit once she comfortable leaving her babies for an hour or so. I'm sure she'll NEED to get away for a short while just for sanity's sake. kwim? Or...maybe form a group that will offer/sign up to take meals to her a couple of times a week.

Obviously you'll want to help get things set up for the shower and also help clean up. Why is she doing this all herself? Did I read that part right?

angelfire02 · January 2012

I LOVE the idea of getting a photographer to come take family shots for her after the babies come home! Some of the most wonderful presents come from someone thinking of something for the mom that she would never have come up with herself! She might really enjoy the fact that she will have some beautiful pictures of her family that she didn't have to organize!

BeerBeck · January 2012

Another idea may be to pre-order meals for her for when the family comes home, or to buy a bunch of gift certificates to local restaurants that deliver.

We did this for a friend of mine, and she really appreciated it!

KaliChick · January 2012

I would also make sure you get her a gift for HER ... maybe some nice bath salts and a robe or something. I know it probably seems impossible to get 20 mins to herself to even take a bath, but maybe if someone gave that to her she'd make the time.

I also love the photographer idea but know it could be quite expensive. Maybe her girlfriends would be willing to go in on something like that. Also, I'm sure if you called around there may be a photographer that would be willing to do it at a discounted price.

Or what about a gift certificate to get a massage or a manicure/pedicure with an offer to watch her babies (again maybe 2 friends that she would be comfortable leaving the babies with for an hour or two).

Do you have a Dream Dinners or some place like that near you? Someone could go make a few meals for their freezer??

The one thing you have to remember is she's had a difficult pregnancy and these are preemies. She's probably not going to be real apt to leave the babies much.

srs5624 · January 2012

KaliChick:

Or what about a gift certificate to get a massage or a manicure/pedicure with an offer to watch her babies (again maybe 2 friends that she would be comfortable leaving the babies with for an hour or two).

The one thing you have to remember is she's had a difficult pregnancy and these are preemies. She's probably not going to be real apt to leave the babies much.

Along these lines... are there any massage therapists who will do in-home sessions in your area? That way she doesn't even need to leave if she isn't comfortable with it just yet.

carmenlarue · January 2012

Im not sure why she is planning it, I have offered several times, but i just got the tail end. I love the photography idea. The babies won't be present but its a nice idea. I also want to have her neice and nephew color a picture of lambs which is her nursery theme. We can have them framed for the room. I could make a basket with stuff for her robe, GC for massage, nail polish, i have a friend who is a photographer who could do it for me! thats awesome girls!

varkeyr · January 2012

Give her a free house cleaning. You can do it yourself or hire someone to do it for you.

Another idea is to put together a book for each baby. Ask her family for pictures of the babies and them holding them and put it in a scrapbook. Start with her pregnancy and leave plenty of room for new pages. Get the ultrasound pictures.

Ask for meals that can be frozen for the family.

Shesaidwat · January 2012

Another idea, especially if you are going to have a photo taken, you can get one of those picture frames from walmart that are rather large, and have the matte that you can write on. And everyone who comes can write a message to her and the babies just to encourage her. That way when ever she looks at it she'll be reminded of how many people are there for her.

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