Well, its official...

laurenhallmark · January 2012

...after all of the walking, hypnosis, spinningbabies, chiropractor, sitting in chairs backwards, heat packs, cold packs, music and flashlight time....baby is still completely and utterly breech. Im now 40 weeks and over, so Dr. scheduled me for a C-section Jan 6th. I cried like a big baby all day.

I feel so defeated, I have worked so hard doing everything a crazy person could do to get this baby to turn and he is just too stubborn. I feel like Im mourning the loss of my natural birth. I am so scared I wont bond with my baby because of the wait time to see him and hold him and put his skin against mine. I have to get over it....

I am so happy I finally get to see and kiss this little mans face though. DH is ecstatic to know he gets to hold little man this weekend. It still just doesnt feel real.

jason&robin · January 2012

I am so sorry things didn't work out. I am sure the minute you see his sweet face, it will all fade away. Good luck on Friday!

mamacat123 · January 2012

I'm sorry too

Babies are so stubborn! It's frustrating you don't get to have the birth experience that you want, but in the end...you'll get a healthy baby out of it, so I'm sure it will be worth the added heartache. Best of luck!

unabellavita2010 · January 2012

So sorry that you couldn't get LO to flip. Do not worry, you will absolutely bond with your new baby and you will be fine! Good Luck

taurus424 · January 2012

Do not feel defeated. The ultimate goal is to get a healthy baby. With my DS i labored for 18hrs and then had a section. No of course no one likes the idea of surgery and it was scary.....i think it was scary bc i only wanted a healthy baby it wasnt scary bc i thought of pain or incisions etc.

Of course they wisk the baby away and cleaned him up. But it was no problem. They gave him right to DH who brought him over to my face and we snuggled. Even in recovery they wanted me to hold him and i was still a bit shaky...not bc of the surgery but bc i had given birth (honestly not sure if i could have held the baby if he was born vaginally either--i just didnt trust myself to do that). DS was great DH was great and before we knew it we were in our room, breast feeding, snuggling, taking photos etc.

You will be fine. your DS will be fine and there is no reason to think that you will not bond with your baby.....you baby is half you and half DH....the hour or so after a section that you dont feel up to holding the baby wont be a problem...you have forever to be with your wonderful family!

Good luck!

saralu82 · January 2012

I'm so sorry that your birth plan has changed. I have to say though that I had to have a c-section with my son (he was transverse) and it did not effect the bond that I have with him. The minute he was brought over to me and heard my voice he opened his eyes. In recovery we did skin on skin and I breastfed him before any of our family came in. I know it's not what you planned and yes it will be about 10 or so minutes before you get to see your baby's face, but when you see your baby's face and get to kiss his little cheek you won't be thinking about anything else- it will be so amazing! One suggestion- take your time in recovery to be with your baby and husband- this is the time that you get with DS to bond before the craziness of your visiting family.

Jess084 · January 2012

I am so sorry. I know I would be the same way, being so hyped up for a natural, med-free birth myself. Remember, you did every single thing you could and in the end you will still have your same beautiful baby boy. Plus, when he gets older you can always remind him of how stubborn he was!

nikki.rzez · January 2012

(lurking, hope you don't mind) So sorry about not getting your natural birth...but you still have 3 days left that the baby could possibly turn in. Best of luck!

star173 · January 2012

I'm sorry. That would be hard for me too. It's great that you did ALL that you could, but sometimes they are breech for a reason. Talk to your doctor and make sure you get skin to skin as soon as possible. Also, have them do an u/s the day you go in for the c/s OR if you go into labor, just in case he flips last minute.

Either way, everything is going to be wonderful and you will meet your precious baby in a few days.

LanaLoves · January 2012

Im in the same boat...CSection on Jan 6th because my LO is breech and happily sitting up.

Keep us posted on your birth story, I can't wait to hear....I am sure after all is said and done; you won't feel like you do now..You'll just feel blessed no matter how he came into this world

jasieandry · January 2012

I am so sorry things aren't working out as planned. I'm planning for a natural birth as well and had a breech scare at 36 weeks and I remember leaving the appt crying because I wanted to just turn my lo but had absolutely no control in the situation. Its not a nice feeling. I'm so sorry you're going through this but your baby's birth will still be absolutely beautiful. Everything will be great and in just 3 days your lo will be in your arms!

SoonToBeMsP · January 2012

I am so sorry that things aren't turning out the way you'd hoped.

But, FWIW, the fact that you're so ready to meet him and do anything for him is PROOF to me that you'll bond, no matter what happens. You're dedicated to making this work, so it will

ondjima · January 2012

I had an emergency C-section due to complications (birth story in my blog) and then did not get to see or touch DS for 17 hours. I was terrified of not bonding properly, but the moment he heard my voice for the first time he knew it was me. He is a complete mama's boy and we are more bonded than I imagine any mom and child could be. So sorry about the c-section! Recovery is not bad, I was off of pain meds within 24 hours of the section and up walking 17 hours after it. GL!

GreeneyesP · January 2012

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sucks

Good luck with everything. Can't wait to read your birth story!

Mrs.MauiBride24 · January 2012

I can't remember for sure (and I don't have my kindle w/ me) but I *think* Natural Hospital Birth talks about C-Sections and what you can still request as far as skin-to-skin and BFing.

https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Hospital-Birth-Best-Worlds/dp/1558327185

Good luck! Sounds like you've done it all and most importantly... YOU'RE HAVING A BABY on FRIDAY!!!

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