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"There is a fine line between a princess and a witch...thinking you're one does NOT give you the right to act like the other." my grandmother
Circumcision question.....
Not looking to start any debates about this! DH and I have not decided if we'll circumcise (we're team green, so who knows if we'll even have to deal with this). We're on complete opposite sides of the issue, which is a whole other post, and cannot figure out how to "compromise" on this.
To get to the point, we are not having a hospital birth, so no OB to perform the circ. It's been recommended to me to NOT have a pedi do it, as they just don't do them that often, but rather a mohel (one that will do this even though we are not Jewish) or a urologist. Thoughts? Suggestions? Recommendations? I feel like I need to have a plan in place instead of scrambling at the last minute. TIA!
"There is a fine line between a princess and a witch...thinking you're one does NOT give you the right to act like the other." my grandmother
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Re: Circumcision question.....
Who wants and who doesn't? Is your DH circ'd or not and is he happy with it? That would probably be my main deciding factor.
I think the pedi did Jakob's circ. Would your insurance cover a mohel or a urologist? Easiest thing would probably to just have the pedi do it during his two week check up.
You still have an OB, right? Maybe he/she would be willing to do it, despite your not having a traditional hospital birth?
***Edited. I didn't read closely enough to realize you were only looking for thoughts on the person who would do it, not thoughts on whether or not to do it. My bad.***
I haven't seen my old OB in years....I see my midwife for well-woman issues, and my RE for fertility issues. So it would feel a little awkward to ask - but I'll add it to the list of options. Thanks!
I kind of AM looking for thoughts and advice about how to handle the conflict with DH, but didn't know whether or not to really post about it. I know it's a controversial issue and I almost hate to bring it up. But maybe I'll do a separate post about it.
"There is a fine line between a princess and a witch...thinking you're one does NOT give you the right to act like the other." my grandmother
Ditto. In fact with DS1, we had a different pedi and had just chosen him a few wks before DS was born, so we didn't have much of a relationship with him yet. When we moved when DS1 was 10mo old, we chose a new pedi here in town, whom we have been seeing now for nearly 3 years. So when DS2 was born 2 weeks ago, we were advised by many people (friends, other patients of Dr H the new pedi, and hospital staff) to have Dr H do it. Hospital staff said the hospital pedi could do it, but they knew that Dr H is the best in town at it, so we chose to have her do it. But she doesn't do them in hospital, only in her office, so we had to wait and we it done yesterday in fact, at DS2's 2-wk appt. She herself told us that she's done thousands of them, so I think it's actually very common that pedi's do them.
I do know, however, that there are several pedis now who will only do them if there's a medical necessity for it. So you may check with your pedi anyway.
ETA: for clarification, DS1 was circ'd by the hospital pedi.
Also, as far as the conflict with your DH: I'm not sure your stance or your reasons, but like Ali said, this was an issue that I ultimately left up to DH. He's the one with a penis, so I firgured if it was important to him I'd go with it. I honestly could have gone either way.
I have a friend who had initially decided not to circ her 1st son. He had a terrible time with UTI's in the early months for whatever reason, that she ended up having him circ'd when he was about 5-6mo old. This did resolve his UTI issues, but I remember it was awful for her to see him in such pain from it, and to be honest, having my DS2 circ'd yesterday at 2wks old suckedass because I could tell he was in pain all afternoon. With DS1, it was done in hospital so it almost just seemed like something that "came with" the baby, kwim? But since I've had 2 weeks to bond with and get to know this little guy, I could definitely see his pain and see that it's different from his normal temperament. (he's all better and back to normal today though, so it is short-lived!). And another friend didnt have her 1st son circ'd until 3mo (not sure why) but she just mentioned yesterday that he has always been freakishly protective of his penis and hated to let her even touch/wash it when bathing him or whatever (he's 17 now). She has 2 other sons who were circ'd in hospital and have never acted that way.
I guess my point is, based on my limited knowledge, I would recommend if you decide to do it, do it as early as possible!
When 3 Became 4
Post it. I'm stuck home again with a sick kid, I could use some entertainment
Kidding. Kinda. Really though, go ahead and post if you want thoughts. If someone chooses to get offended, that's really their problem and not yours at all.
We had a mohel who was also a pediatrician do Ben's circumcision. It was part of a bris. It was no big deal. Though, had we not been Jewish, we would not have circumcized.
The doctor's name is Dr. Max Mintz. I heard a rumor that he was retiring, but I'm not sure if he has yet.
Also Ben's urologist, Dr. Seremetis does circumcisions, I think. I don't know if they're newborn circs though or corrective circs.