Soooo.....trying not to be a drama queen

Telyco · January 2012

But. Today is the worst day of my life. I left my baby at school with strangers and he was screaming for me. What kind of mother does that? How did I get here? Why does it seem like NOTHING is going right?? Sitting in the Wegmans parking lot trying not to cry for 5 seconds - long enough to grab stuff for dinner. I just want to move to a deserted island with my family and leave all this behind.

jewelsonu · January 2012

I am sure it's hard. It's his first time away from you. Eventually he will love going to school and be excited about going. The teachers are expereinced with new kids and toddlers that are crying and missing mom. He is in good hands. Big hugs to you Left Hug

MsZoeB · January 2012

Telyco:
What kind of mother does that?

A good mother who knows that something is always hardest in the beginning but is for the best in life. I know that it is hard to hear your LO cry and scream for you but it will get better. At the end of the day when you pick him up he will have fun stories to tell you.

DS loved Llama Llama so I picked up a few books from the library. There is one about Missing Mama on the first day of school. I am sure that you have read to him but maybe one other books might help (both of you).

Have confidence that you are doing the right thing. Best wishes.

Ashnmike528 · January 2012

I'm so sorry :-( I am terrified for that day. I hope he was able to relax and enjoy his time there. Big hugs!

Irisheyes1247 · January 2012

((hugs)) leaving your baby for the first time is hard, whether they are 3 months or 3 years old. If it is any consolation, the teachers are used to the kids having a tough time and there is a lot of extra allowances for the first day. I bet when you pick him up, he will be so glad to see you and hold you tight, but the teachers will tell you than once he calmed down, he did great and had a good time.

dle927 · January 2012

Telyco:
I left my baby at school with strangers and he was screaming for me. What kind of mother does that? .

This mother. It's awful and totally tore my heart out when I had to do it. It does get better. Not that you won't miss him like crazy but it gets better. This morning Claire moved to a new room in her school. She usually at least hugs me before I leave but today she ran like she didn't have a care in the world. (Yes, I made her come back to kiss and hug me...she's going to hate me when she's 13 and I make her).

Good luck! Hope he has a GREAT day!

xKimx · January 2012

(((hugs)))

Charlie cried every day when I dropped him off at daycare until he was 3 years old. Broke my heart every day. But he would stop crying within 1 minute of being there & then had a blast for the rest of the day. You guys will both adjust. I was sad dropping Charlie off at school this morning- I had so much fun with him being home. He was running toward the door the second I opened the van door though- he missed his friends!

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · January 2012

You're not being a drama queen at all. I know the feeling. It's like you want to puke and cry all at the same time. I had to leave Justin sobbing and reaching for me, screaming my name once at Pre-K and it was AWFUL. Now all Xmas break he begged me to go back and colored pics for his teacher every day. I bet if you go to pick him up a few minutes early and peek in he'll be having a blast.

Smile58 · January 2012

Be gentle with yourself! This is going to be an adjustment for both of you, but what a great thing you are doing for him! I'm sure once he is into his routine there he will love seeing his friends, and coming home too. Keeping you in my thoughts today!!

mrsoc · January 2012

Hardest thing ever, but he will end up loving it!!!

sunnygirl05 · January 2012

Awww...I'm sorry!!!! That must have been absolutely horrible for you. I'm already panicking thinking about Justin going to pre-school next year. Everyone says it gets better though so hang in there!! And don't forget he'll never remember this. I'm going to try to tell myself this next year.

goosh24 · January 2012

I bet he's having a great time, and I'm sure it was harder on you than him. I don't look forward to this at all!

wendyj · January 2012

{{HUGS}} Remember to take a deep breath. You are a fantastic mommy. It will be an adjustment for both of you, but soon it will be a lot better. Be sure to talk positively about his day and all the fun things he gets to do at school.

JenJar · January 2012

I don't see your original post, but judging from the replies, this has to do with E and school. Big hugs to you!! It's a really hard adjustment for most mommies and kids!

abba916 · January 2012

Oh I'm sorry..I haven't had to do it yet but I can imagine its tough to leave him..but you are a great mom dont beat yourself up

::hugs::

MelissaSue81 · January 2012

Aww. I know its hard.. but he will do just fine and just think how great it will be when you pick him up!

TinaL99 · January 2012

I'm so sorry it was a rough day. It's never easy leaving your child, especially when they are crying for you, trust me, I've been there. But I'm sure he was in very good hands. I hope he had a GREAT day!

Telyco · January 2012

Thanks so so much for your responses

He cried a lot of the time and didn't play at all. Which is actually pretty surprising to me. When I got there he was in the room just standing there sniffling. When I went in he jumped right up into my arms and then sat to eat his lunch with another girl...and THEN he started to explore the toys more. While he was screaming in the beginning he scratched himself so bad on his stomach that they had to send him to the nurse

I hope it gets better soon. If not we can just get his old teachers back and have them come to the house again. And maybe we can try again in the fall. I dunno.

skroops · January 2012

Awww, I'm sorry that this is a rough transition for you (and him!). When Zoey first started daycare it was really rough for about the first two weeks or so. She cried a lot when I left her, would cry throughout the day and not play/interact much with the other kids and be very clingy with the teacher(s). She was 14 months when she started, so quite a bit younger than Evan, but the teachers told me that a lot of times when kids aren't away from mom until later it is harder on them and they will take longer to adjust. She DID adjust though and I know that is has been so good for her to have some time away from me, be with other kids, and have the opportunity to do and learn things that I know she wouldn't if she were at home with me all day.

I hope that he has a better day tomorrow, but if he doesn't give it some time. It is a HUGE adjustment and it may take a while for him to get used to it, but it the long run I think this will be a good thing for all of you. Good luck and keep us posted!

JenJar · January 2012

Telyco:
Thanks so so much for your responses He cried a lot of the time and didn't play at all. Which is actually pretty surprising to me. When I got there he was in the room just standing there sniffling. When I went in he jumped right up into my arms and then sat to eat his lunch with another girl...and THEN he started to explore the toys more. While he was screaming in the beginning he scratched himself so bad on his stomach that they had to send him to the nurse I hope it gets better soon. If not we can just get his old teachers back and have them come to the house again. And maybe we can try again in the fall. I dunno.

Definitely give it some time...I know it's soooo hard, but stay positive and cheerful, talk about how good school is, how much fun he'll have, etc. It's a huge adjustment that will take time. I think all teachers are used to that and know to expect it with a new student. It will take time, but he will get better. ((HUGS))

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