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MIL Vent (Long) and WWYD (Clicky Poll)
For the past three years, I have made a family calendar (full of pictures of DD) for DH and I to help us keep organized. The first year, my mom thought it was cute and asked for a copy of it. Last year, I gave a copy to my parents as part of their Christmas gift. This year I procrastinated and couldn't get them done in time for Christmas presents but decided to send one to my parents anyway. While I was making it, DH suggested that I send one to his parents. (In case you don't know, MIL is a raging b!tch and is rude to me all of the time. So much so that I will not be going to her house anymore unless it is a holiday that I cannot stand being away from DD. It has been 12 years of hell and the last time I visited, she was so rude that I just can't take it anymore.) I said fine and made them a copy with their family birthdays and took out all of my (parents' family) birthdays/holidays. I even changed some pages to include pictures of them. Apparently, when I made the new pages, I did not save them and I sent them a calendar that had their birthdays but it did not have them in the pictures.
The calendars arrived today and she called and b!tched to DH that the calendar did not have pictures of them and that she was so angry. No, "Thank you for the extra gift, it was nice of you to make it." It was not their Christmas present; it was just something I sent them on top of their Christmas gifts, even though they are not that cheap to make. This year for Christmas, she gave DH and I a set of pots and pans that looked like the ones she gave us last year. After opening our joint gift, she preceded to walk into my kitchen and take 3 of my pots and pans because she wanted them. She said she didn't want to buy the whole set just for the 3 that she wanted so she got us the new set. The new set had less pots and pans so my Christmas gift resulted in us losing 2 pots and pans.
Part of me feels bad because the copy they received has some pictures of my parents with DD and none of them, but part of me does not feel bad at all. She makes it impossible for us to hang out with her; therefore, I have very few pictures of DD with them. She never gives thoughtful gifts and normally her gifts are after thoughts (a blue porcelain unicorn statue) or spiteful (She once gave me a sausage and cheese gift set when I was a vegan.).
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Re: MIL Vent (Long) and WWYD (Clicky Poll)
Why on earth would you or DH allow her to just take pots and pans that belonged to you? There is no way in hell I would have let my MIL walk in my kitchen and take things that belonged to me. Regarding the calendar, it was the thought that counts. You sent her one to include her. She didn't like it. Tough. I would not waste my time making another one for someone so ungrateful.
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At first, I was just in shock that she would give us a gift to take something from us. When I was about to say something, DH assured me that she gave us the same set (they did look identical), so it wasn't until they left that I realized we were screwed in the deal.