rant abut co-worker

Brandyjean30 · January 2012

So I work with a girl who is 11 weeks further along than I am. She had morning sickness and it was gone at 12 weeks on the dot for her. I also had morning sickness and while mine has improved from all day sickness to just morning sickness its still here and I'm 17 weeks. I don't complain or make a big fuss about it. My husband is really the only one I talk to about it. Well this morning at work, a customer came in that smelled TERRIBLE, and I couldn't control it. I ran off to the bathroom and got sick. When I came out of the bathroom she came up to me and asked if I was still sick. I told her most most mornings. She then proceeded to tell me that I am just being mentally weak. She told herself the morning sickness would be gone at 12 weeks and it was. My sickness was all about mind over matter and I just needed to want to not be sick........

I'm speachless...and pretty irritated. If morning sickness could just be willed away I think it would be safe to say no pregnant woman would suffer from it.

Vent over. Thanks for reading.

kate212 · January 2012

I would have asked her why she waiting until 12 weeks to will it away. If it were that easy, she should have done it much sooner Stick out tongue

Brandyjean30 · January 2012

kate212:

I would have asked her why she waiting until 12 weeks to will it away. If it were that easy, she should have done it much sooner

Ha I should have! I was just so caught of guard that she would even think that because of how sick she was at first. I guess people just assume that whatever happens to them happens to everyone when it comes to pregnancy.

lauren1204 · January 2012

That would have ticked me off too. I'm sure we'd all be "willing" it away if we could!

selder25 · January 2012

This would have made me mad too. My morning sickness didn't even begin until 11 weeks. If it is a matter of the mind....why would I want it to start so late? I agree with you, if we could it would be willed away as soon as it first hit. Just keep in mind that morning sickness probably means that things are going well with the baby and it is a good sign.

khill86 · January 2012

I'm still sick, too. I have been throwing up since 6 weeks and am still doing it every day. Some days a lot worse than others, but really no change. I hate hearing people say, "You should be done with that by now." Maybe some people are, but I'm not! I'm also sick of hearing "You should eat crackers" or "Drink gingerale." Do people really think I've not tried anything to relieve it? It is what it is and nothing has helped me. I just accept it as part of my pregnancy and moved on weeks ago. DH appreciates my attitude and just laughs when he sees me standing in the bathroom because he knows I'm on the verge of throwing up and just waiting for it to happen.

When we spent a few days with DH's grandmother and his cousin and her husband over Christmas, I told DH discreetly I was going to be sick and went to the bathroom upstairs just as we were going to sit down for a late breakfast (I already woke up early and had a nibble so I wouldn't feel hungry all morning). All I could hear coming from the kitchen was "Well I asked if she wanted something and she said no. She said she ate a banana." and "Oh that's no good, she should have had something dry, like crackers" and "I don't know why she's still sick." I was so frustrated that when I came back, I said, "For the record, the banana was fine, crackers wouldn't have helped, and I don't know why I'm still sick, but I am and I'm dealing with it." The cousin's husband laughed and asked if I could still have breakfast. DH said it was true, he saw me try all sorts of suggestions. And the other ladies seemed disappointed that their remedies weren't appreciated.

Brandyjean30 · January 2012

khill86:

I'm still sick, too. I have been throwing up since 6 weeks and am still doing it every day. Some days a lot worse than others, but really no change. I hate hearing people say, "You should be done with that by now." Maybe some people are, but I'm not! I'm also sick of hearing "You should eat crackers" or "Drink gingerale." Do people really think I've not tried anything to relieve it? It is what it is and nothing has helped me. I just accept it as part of my pregnancy and moved on weeks ago. DH appreciates my attitude and just laughs when he sees me standing in the bathroom because he knows I'm on the verge of throwing up and just waiting for it to happen.

When we spent a few days with DH's grandmother and his cousin and her husband over Christmas, I told DH discreetly I was going to be sick and went to the bathroom upstairs just as we were going to sit down for a late breakfast (I already woke up early and had a nibble so I wouldn't feel hungry all morning). All I could hear coming from the kitchen was "Well I asked if she wanted something and she said no. She said she ate a banana." and "Oh that's no good, she should have had something dry, like crackers" and "I don't know why she's still sick." I was so frustrated that when I came back, I said, "For the record, the banana was fine, crackers wouldn't have helped, and I don't know why I'm still sick, but I am and I'm dealing with it." The cousin's husband laughed and asked if I could still have breakfast. DH said it was true, he saw me try all sorts of suggestions. And the other ladies seemed disappointed that their remedies weren't appreciated.

I'm so glad to see you other ladies understand! I really don't complain because I get so sick of the adivce. I have tried everything under the sun and what works one day wont work the next. And the "advice" coming from the other room is soooo annoying. My lovely MIL and SIL think they know best (even though neither had morning sickness). On new years eve I was dealing with indegestion, didn't want to eat and I was cranky and didn't want to be around DH's family. Well because I didn't eat I started to get naseous and the 2 of them laid into me with every remedy that they had googled should help me. When I told them crackers and ginger-ale weren't going to help SIL chimed in that I just needed to get over it because digestive issues were going to be here until June. I DON'T complain about my symptoms so I get so mad when people pry and make me talk about it and then tell me I just have to buck up. I played the mean wife card and text DH under the table that if we stayed any longer I was going to freak. We left 10 minutes later Angel

s1hrh@hotmail.com · January 2012

Next time she complains tell her to will it away. Some people are so ridiculous. I have been sick for 14 weeks and it has gotten better but just when I think it goes away I am sick again. Hang in there and don't tell this girl anything.