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MrsStephanieDunnMrsStephanieDunn
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Hello All,

I was looking around on the Bump to see if I could get some advice or information.  DH is in the National Guard and we found out that he has to do some training for his MOS (the unit is changing things up?). That being said, hubby is scheduled to leave at the end of this month and will be back at the end of April. I am due in the middle of March. How does emergency leave work and have any of you experienced this yourselves? This is our first LO so I am a little nervous but trying to prepare myself mentally for being alone the last leg of pregnancy and the month after our LO is born.   

 

TIA for your time! 

Stephanie 

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  • clock84clock84 member
    Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer they usually do no allow emergency leave for the babies delivery.  Its sucky but since the date of birth isn't guaranteed and it can take a few travel days to get home your DH probably wont get approved for leave.  However you didn't say where he was going so this might not be completely accurate. Especially if he is due home so soon after the birth.  Where is he going? You will do great being alone as long as you don't let the idea consume you.  Have friends or family there for the birth and you will rock it! GL
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  • Emilia0101Emilia0101
    My husband is active duty and over the last 10 years I have watched a lot of different situations unfold. Everything from a guy not having to go on a deployment because it was the birth of his first child to a guy missing the birth of his child by 5 hours because he couldn't get out on an earlier flight at the end of a TDY. All that being said it depends. I would check with the unit and see his options may be. 
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  • Gismo123Gismo123 member

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    My husband is active duty and over the last 10 years I have watched a lot of different situations unfold. Everything from a guy not having to go on a deployment because it was the birth of his first child to a guy missing the birth of his child by 5 hours because he couldn't get out on an earlier flight at the end of a TDY. All that being said it depends. I would check with the unit and see his options may be. 

    I have never seen this happen....must have had some high connections or something to pull that off.  I have a friend who missed the birth of all 3 of his kids due to deployments and the Navy didn't care if it was his first second of third child.

    OP The Military doesn't guarantee anything meaning that they "might" approve him to go on leave when you give birth but they don't have to.  like a PP said unless it's an emergency situation he won't be granted emergency leave and the red cross doesn't send messages of births so make sure there is a number a family member can call in case he does miss the birth.  Unfortunately this is part of being in a Military family.

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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member

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    Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer they usually do no allow emergency leave for the babies delivery. 

    Have you known lots of officers to get special treatment? I haven't. 

    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
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  • clock84clock84 member
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    Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer they usually do no allow emergency leave for the babies delivery. 

    Have you known lots of officers to get special treatment? I haven't. 

    Special treatment? absolutely! With birth, I do not know for sure.

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    Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer they usually do no allow emergency leave for the babies delivery. 

    Have you known lots of officers to get special treatment? I haven't. 

    Special treatment? absolutely! With birth, I do not know for sure.

    I haven't.  I served 6 and DH has served nearly nine.  Births included. 

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  • MrsStephanieDunnMrsStephanieDunn
    He will be in VA and we live in GA? I know that in a few weeks we will get more information but I wanted a heads up. Thanks to you all that posted.  Thankfully I live (45 min) close to family that they can be there to be supportive and help with a bunch of things I haven't even thought about yet... 
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    Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer they usually do no allow emergency leave for the babies delivery. 

    Have you known lots of officers to get special treatment? I haven't. 

    Special treatment? absolutely! With birth, I do not know for sure.

    I'm married to an officer and have quite a few others as friends.  Not one received any kind of special treatment because their wife was expecting during a deployment.   

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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    imageWishIcouldbeinthe'stan:

    imageclock84:
    Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer they usually do no allow emergency leave for the babies delivery. 

    Have you known lots of officers to get special treatment? I haven't. 

    Special treatment? absolutely! With birth, I do not know for sure.

    A) What special treatment have you seen then?

    B) If you don't know for sure, why would you have said, "Unless there is a risk factor or he is an officer..."?

     

    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
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  • LeahCKLeahCK member

    I have seen people going to their MOS school if they give their leaders a head's up depending on what the curriculum is, etc. they may allow. It's worth asking. And yes I have personally seen this circumstance. Each unit is different, each set of requirements and demands are different and sometimes officers are given some more slack than others (but not always). Depends on your unit, the needs of the military at the time and for school if he does well all the way up to that point may play a part.

    With that said, for others that have posted, I have seen some officers where it seems that they can never catch a break where it seems some of their friends get breaks all the time. Each scenario is independent of the person and their current situation and unit. 

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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member

    I think it's irresponsible for a poster to insinuate that officers get special treatment on a message board when she has no personal experience of that. There is no need to create or foster a culture (in this case a spouse culture) that thinks officers are jerks who do what they want and the enlisted corps is just always getting screwed by their leadership. 

    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
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