I?ve suspected for some time that DS1 may have ADHD or oppositional defiant disorder. The latter was suggested to us by a daycare teacher (rather callously when he was just 3, so I took it with a grain of salt at the time). Since he?s only 5, it?s been tough to know what?s typical behavior and what?s not. He?s been having a really tough time in kindergarten, and now it?s hard to tell what?s typical and what?s a result of unrealistic expectations from a rather-green (although willing to get involved with us) teacher.
I?ve mentioned several times that I?d like DS to see a behavior pedi, but DH has been adamantely opposed. He thinks I?m overreacting and that we should at least wait until the school suggests it, or we see how he does in 1st grade. DS seems to have real trouble with impulsivity and defiance. He?s not explosive, he?s extremely verbal and extraordinarily bright (even by teacher standards, not just proud mom standards), and he?s quite loving. But he struggles with personal space issues (he likes to put his face two inches from your face) and he often seems like he?s deliberately annoying people to get a reaction. He's constantly arguing with us. Getting him to do a simple task like putting on shoes can take forever. We have a behavior chart that helps, but not always. When he gets into a high-excitement environments, like school or family parties, it's like his brain shuts off and he will completely ignore what you want him to and completely defy you and do the oppsite. He's currently in a "social skills" class that meets once a week with a social worker at his school without about 4 other kindergartners.
How do I get my DH on board with testing? Or is he right to wait and see what happens?