So DH isn't into CDing

meep13 · January 2012

So I really wanted to try CD. DH really didn't want to so I ordered some to try I was hoping he would learn to like them. We have about 9 diapers now but DH won't use them at all and we don't have enough to use at Day Care and don't know if they would even use CD. I like them but would like to invest and use more often if we're going to do it, as I barely have enough to warrant the tiny load of laundry.

Anyone CD without DH's support?

amoerizzle · January 2012

I was going to do it whether or not he wanted to, but he got on board luckily. If it's something you really want to do, then it's something you have to hold your ground on. You can make it easier by buying AIO's or Pockets so that it really is no different for him to put on a cloth diaper than it is for him to put on a disposable one. If you keep at it, I think he'll see that you're serious about it and will learn to accept it. If it's something that's just sort of a hobby for you and not something you're 100% into, then there's no shame in not doing it either.

cassoppea · January 2012

My DH is not thrilled but he doesn't do much of the diapering anyway and I do the CD laundry. He's not very comfortable changing CDs but I have always told him, since we started, that if he wants to use the disposables when he's with the baby, I'm ok with it. I think your DH is entitled to his opinion on how you diaper your child, but maybe you can compromise. Since you only have a days worth of diapers anyway, maybe when you are with the baby you can use cloth and when he is, he can use disposables.

Dr.Loretta · January 2012

Yep. I do 95-99% of the diapering anyway, so he told me to do whatever I wanted and he would support me. But he finds them complicated and not something interesting enough for him to want to learn about. He will happily put one on DD if we're at home, but much prefers disposables, esp if we're going somewhere.

I still do it, and have quite the stash to show for it

nanabanana06 · January 2012

My FI doesn't really like CD's. However, he also doesn't really like to change diapers. That is still something he makes me do a lot of. However, with my DD and the new LO I just told him to suck it. We will be CDing this one from birth.

JDCSKF · January 2012

DH has no interest in learning how to CD (even with AIO). I have disposables for him to use when I'm at work. The rest of the time it's all me for diaper changes. He did comment the other day that we have spent almost nothing on disposables at this point, but he still won't do it.

tokenhoser · January 2012

Well, if he's not obliged to support your cloth, you don't have to support his disposables. Will he really buy them himself and change diapers? If so, let him. If not, stop buying them and he'll use what's in the house.

dosafyre · January 2012

My DH didn't really care one way or the other, but he got on board quickly when I told him how much we'd save, how much healthier they are for LO's sensitive bits and lungs, fewer leaks/blowouts, and how similar they are to use (he helps me stuff them sometimes, but he's always confused about what goes with what, so I usually just do it).

Plus, I wasn't going to purchase any disposables...sooo....

bugandbibs · January 2012

Like I suggested you in a previous post, you should be in charge of getting supplies for how you diaper and he should be in charge of getting supplies for how he diapers. If he wants to use disposables fine, but he buys them, stocks them, and empties the trash.

Buy a few more daycare friendly diapers to increase your stash to a full load of laundry. Even if your daycare won't use them, it will still make your life easier.

meep13 · January 2012

I guess you're all right I just feel like if I'm going to spend money on Cloth I want them to be used as much as possible. I wanted to do cloth to save money because sposies were just getting to cost too much. I don't have a lot to spend on more cloth diapers right now. But I guess Three of our diapers were gifts so every time I use them I'm saving money. And all but $10 of the rest of my small stash was purchased with a credit card cashback bonus so I guess I really am saving money!

I think I just needed someone to tell me it's ok if he doesn't want to do it and that I can just do what I want.

Thanks!!!

fluffnbuck · January 2012

My SO refuses to use cloth... Honestly for no real reason. So I let him buy disposables if he wants for when he changes her. We have a huge stash... And considering I change her 99%of the time I did what I wanted!

buttercup1221 · January 2012

My DH wasn't on board but said if I wanted to try it than I could. He said he wasn't going to do any of the cleaning, etc of the diapers and doubted that I would even make it a week using them. Since LO was born, he has completely changed his mind. He loves them! ( We use BG AIO). He helps with laundry and is all over the diaper sprayer like it is a new favorite toy. Haha.

Has he tried using them at all? He might be surprised on just how easy they are.

LaRue86 · January 2012

DH was not a fan, but said if I wanted too, I would be responsible for all changes...

I had super sensitive skin and had to be CD'd when I was a baby. I had a stash before LO was born, but did not start using them until he was 4 months. I had some health complications after LO was born and just did not have the physical capability to do laundry.

DH is a total convert now. He LOVES them and hates using disposables. He was sad yesterday when I said we had to use sposies while we treated DS diaper rash (caused by antibiotic). He loves the fact they dont stink like disposables and that you cannot smell the poop through them...

Melanie.Brown · January 2012

I plan on cloth diapering baby #2 (due in March), but we did not cloth diaper DD. I've talked to DH about the benefits (both financial and environmental) and I think he's still on the fence. I'm getting pocket diapers to make it as easy as possible for him, I'll be doing most of the washing so really it won't be much different for him than using disposables. The only part I worry about is night time while I'm at work (I work 12 hr night shifts and am only able to take 6-8 weeks off). I know DH has a hard time waking up/getting back to sleep after nighttime feedings and I know he'll be exhausted so I told him if he doesn't want to use CD's while I'm at work, I'm fine with him using disposables those few nights a week.

hispenguin · January 2012

amoerizzle:
I was going to do it whether or not he wanted to, but he got on board luckily. If it's something you really want to do, then it's something you have to hold your ground on. You can make it easier by buying AIO's or Pockets so that it really is no different for him to put on a cloth diaper than it is for him to put on a disposable one. If you keep at it, I think he'll see that you're serious about it and will learn to accept it. If it's something that's just sort of a hobby for you and not something you're 100% into, then there's no shame in not doing it either.

I agree with this. If your DH finds it difficult, then he's not going to do it. My DH really didn't care, but I knew that the easier it was, the more likely he was so humour me. We have a stash made up of pocket diapers for this reason.

bugandbibs · January 2012

hispenguin:
amoerizzle:
I was going to do it whether or not he wanted to, but he got on board luckily. If it's something you really want to do, then it's something you have to hold your ground on. You can make it easier by buying AIO's or Pockets so that it really is no different for him to put on a cloth diaper than it is for him to put on a disposable one. If you keep at it, I think he'll see that you're serious about it and will learn to accept it. If it's something that's just sort of a hobby for you and not something you're 100% into, then there's no shame in not doing it either.
I agree with this. If your DH finds it difficult, then he's not going to do it. My DH really didn't care, but I knew that the easier it was, the more likely he was so humour me. We have a stash made up of pocket diapers for this reason.

This made me laugh. I bought pockets thinking they would be good for my DH. Turns out he mostly uses the AI2s I bought for me and fitteds with wool.

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