Hi,
The discipline post on here the other day got me to thinking... What do you all think of the Swedish prohibition on spanking your own kids (prohibiting any form of physical punishment, I believe)... I personally support it, but I'm also Swedish... I know some people are against the government "telling" us what to do, but a law like this DOES prevent the "gray area" where spanking becomes habitual and turns into abuse...
What do you think? Would you support a nationwide ban on physical punishment of kids?
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Oh, and here is an interesting although somewhat biased article that I found from Professor Google...
https://www.neverhitachild.org/haeuser.html
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Missing my little one lost at 9 weeks on 2.24.13. brokenhearted but not broken...
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MMC discovered 10/2/2013, TWINS... d&c 10/7/2013. I still miss you, little ones.
Surgery December 2013 to remove a 10+cm fibroid... Open myomectomy. Benched for 3-9 months...
Will TTC summer Summer 2014 we hope!
Dear God, Since I couldn't hold my little one in my lap and tell him about you, could you hold him in your lap and tell him about me?
PgAL and PAL always welcome...I do not agree with spanking or hitting a child. It removes their dignity and it's disrespectful to physically hit someone. (child or adult)
I understand my opinion isn't popular and there are probably many people out there who believe not spanking is wrong. I do believe the government should be able to ban spanking/hitting children. I would fully support spanking being against the law.
Purposly inflicting pain on a child as a means of teaching right from wrong just seems wrong to me. It's not one of those things where I could say it's wrong to hit or spank a child unless the parent things it's ok. I just think it's wrong.
Yes, I have kids. I also come from a very large family. For the most part people do not spank. (I have relatives that do as well but they are in the minority) MY oldest is about 16 and I was a single mother for most of his life. I have worked with children for years. (before my current job) I mention this so people know my beliefs are not because I haven't been around kids.
I'm torn on this one. We will not spank- I hate everything about the idea. But I also get nervous with the idea of legislating how parents can parent their children.
If I'm not mistaken, I read somewhere that in Sweden, even though spanking is illegal, there is no punitive action taken for parents who spank. Parents who spank are visited by social services, offered support, etc. I think I could get behind that. But I don't think it will happen in the US any time soon.
I hope eventually spanking will become unacceptable to society without legislation.
I was always vehemently against spanking...until I bore a runner.
The minute my daughter has a break, she goes; as far and as fast as she can go. And running into buy streets is NOT the worse part, she never watched where she was going. I am not exaggerating when I sy she took down a lilltle old Oma with a cane...and has broke more items that can be remembered.
We tried every single AP form of behavioral modification out there. 123 Magic (what we use for all other behavioral issues), Dr Sears, the baby harnesses/leash, keeping her in the stroller (but in Europe that means we would not be able to go/see 50% of the sights), immediately leaving the location, and finally just not going places (again, how much fun is that in Europe).
Finally, after the knocking the Oma down, DH had enough and told her as we got out of he car, that if she ran she would be spanked. And she did...and he did. One swat on her butt, over a diaper. It took 2 other incidents, the last post PT for it o sink in.
Am I happy that we had to spank? No. But I am also happy to know that my DD will be able to experience some of he most amazing places in the world.
I dont think spanking is an effective form of punishment however, I still voted no. And here is why.
Like many laws, it will be almost impossible to enforce. A law that cannot be enforced dilutes the other laws. Unless we put cameras in every household, how are we to enforce this law? People, regardless of a law, are going to occationally "swat" or spank a severly misbehaving child in the home.
Yes, it will give us one more way to pull a child from an abusive home. But we already have laws to that effect.
Your story is *exactly* why I don't think there should be a law against it. I also don't "believe" in spanking, but eliminating a tool from the tool box that may be a last resort is ridiculous.
Every last word of this.
I agree. My parents had to use a similar tactic on me as a child. It's honestly what worked. I think in some cases spanking does have a place. Do I think methodical beating of your child for everything is right? No. However, I think heat of the moment, safety spanking can be an essential tool for some families.
It amazes me that when a child hits another child its being a bully, when an adult hits another adult its abuse, but when an adult hits a child its considered by some a part of growing up?
I have been a mom for over 20 years, I never spanked any of my 3 daughters. Its about positive discipline, being consistent, and not losing control.
I see your point about the wife and the DH "oh Steve your so bad" and the tush hit at a football game yes they are very different then a full out hard hit that inflicts pain.
The definition of a hitting is to give force, the definition of a spank is to strike. What it boils down to if you are leaving marks after doing either you have gone too far and abused the adult or child.
This is one of those never ending debates.