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Police came to my door last night

Mason&MamaMason&Mama member
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I recently introduced myself to this board. My ex-fianc? (together 7 years) has a drug problem. He wasn't always using for those 7 years --- I would not have stayed with him. He was a great partner in so many ways. However, he really screwed up this month. He completely relapsed, and he resorted to stealing from his family, my family, and apparently was doing something shady at a store (not sure of the details). Some of this involved physically stealing items and pawning them, and some involved stolen checks. He went off the deep edge. He is in big trouble, and there is a warrant out for him. I broke up with him and sent him on his way a few days ago. It was heartbreaking, as I love him very much, and he truly was a good father to my 5 month old son. He is in rehab right now, but there is no turning back in this relationship. Even if I was weak, my family would disown me. I know it's best for my son to not be around his ups and downs, although I do plan on encouraging them to have a relationship. The cops came knocking at my door looking for him last night. They didn't believe he was here, and they searched the place. Of course all his belongings are still around, his photos are still up, and that made them think that I was lying. I imagine they will be watching the place. Luckily, he truthfully isn't here. I am scared for him. Looks like jail is in his future. He put himself in quite a mess. It's amazing how drugs can ruin your life. I can't believe that my infant son will have a father in prison. This is not my life. There is no way thatbthis can be my life.
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  • thomas2013thomas2013 member
    I am sorry to hear this. I am not a single mom but my sister has always had issues with drugs; so I understand how hard it can be on a family. I am sorry you are having to go through this and you are doing a great job. It's hard to "pick" how means more to you at different points in life. From what it sounds like you are an amazing mother trying to give your son the best life possible. Kudos to you for having the strength to make such a difficult decision and stick to it. I really hope your EX can get his life together and be a stable/ healthy role in DS life. Like you before mentioned, hopefully this is what he needs.
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  • monpetitechouchou01monpetitechouchou01
    Hi OP. I noticed that you posted a few times and its obvious that you're going through a rough time. Please hang in there! I'm not quite a mommy yet but you're not the only one who feels lonely this new years. I'm surrounded by my loving family and I have everything to be thankful for... but being pregnant and not having someone to cuddle with that is excited about this baby is lonely. The pain he's caused me comes back to me every once in a while and I started feeling down starting yesterday. Maybe its the holidays... But hang in there!
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  • jandb2011jandb2011

    Hang in there!  I know it can be rough and very lonely, but you'll pull through.

    Maybe this will be the "wake-up call" your ex-fi needs.  Rehab, prison, and not being with his LO and you, can't be what he wants in life, but some people are just not strong enough to resist.

    Even if he doesn't succeed in turning things around, you'll get through it.  Just try to be as positive as you can, build up a support network, and know that everything you're doing is what's best for your LO. 

    IAmPregnant Ticker Support with Integrity
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