whats with the nasty nesties?

surprise3rd · January 2012

Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

robinsokj · January 2012

There are such thigs as stupid questions. and people tend to confuse honesty with nastiness

yourmysunshine · January 2012

Which posts are really hateful?

Like PP said, this board is MUCH tamer than when I was here with DS!!

carmenlarue · January 2012

GhostMonkey:

What rock were you under last time?

These boards have actually gotten tamer since I've been on here. Try your birth month board. They'll blow smoke up your ass all day long.

hee larious!

Nautical2012 · January 2012

surprise3rd:
Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

Yes. But, it's the same people who are always nasty. You can expect that if they reply to anything, it's going to have a nasty tone. Their attitude gets as old as the stupid questions they accuse others of asking, and unfortunately, they never go away. They are on this board 24/7. I wish I had that much free time!

Adam&Eve07 · January 2012

Nautical2012:
surprise3rd:
Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

Yes. But, it's the same people who are always nasty. You can expect that if they reply to anything, it's going to have a nasty tone. Their attitude gets as old as the stupid questions they accuse others of asking, and unfortunately, they never go away. They are on this board 24/7. I wish I had that much free time!

STFU.

Nautical2012 · January 2012

I'm lucky today. I don't have to work until 11pm, and I don't have any kids that I should be taking care of instead of sitting on the computer all day long.

jessibel00 · January 2012

surprise3rd:
Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting. So what does that tell you? Board trolls. I'm guessing they feel inadequate IRL and use the Internet to be rude and hide behind a screen name. It happens everywhere. Find a Facebook group for the month you are expecting and avoid the crazies on here!

Adam&Eve07 · January 2012

Nautical2012:
I'm lucky today. I don't have to work until 11pm, and I don't have any kids that I should be taking care of instead of sitting on the computer all day long.

Once again I say STFU.

Adam&Eve07 · January 2012

jessibel00:
surprise3rd:
Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting. So what does that tell you? Board trolls. I'm guessing they feel inadequate IRL and use the Internet to be rude and hide behind a screen name. It happens everywhere. Find a Facebook group for the month you are expecting and avoid the crazies on here!

Why don't you take your own advice and leave too? Do you need me to show you to the door, or can you find it on your own?

gisa886 · January 2012

GhostMonkey:
jessibel00:

surprise3rd:
Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting. So what does that tell you? Board trolls. I'm guessing they feel inadequate IRL and use the Internet to be rude and hide behind a screen name. It happens everywhere. Find a Facebook group for the month you are expecting and avoid the crazies on here!

You may want to look up the definition of troll.
And it's funny, because you are sitting there doing except what you are accusing others of doing. You must be inadequate too.

Yes

jessibel00 · January 2012

GhostMonkey:
jessibel00:

surprise3rd:
Any one noticing some nasty nesties? Is it always this mean or are there some pregnancy hormones raging on the first tri. board? I only nest when I am pregnant, and this is my third, but I don't remember anything so nasty when I was nesting with my first too.

Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting. So what does that tell you? Board trolls. I'm guessing they feel inadequate IRL and use the Internet to be rude and hide behind a screen name. It happens everywhere. Find a Facebook group for the month you are expecting and avoid the crazies on here!

You may want to look up the definition of troll.
And it's funny, because you are sitting there doing except what you are accusing others of doing. You must be inadequate too.

Sorry, I don't spend my life on message boards looking for people to be rude to. If I did, I'm sure I would have known the proper definition. FYI, I was responding to the OP's question. If you took offense to it enough to reply with a nasty message, I'm guessing you may be guilty of such things?

wife1014 · January 2012

It's called truth.

Put your big girl panties on and ride the wave.

myheromyworld89 · January 2012

Aren't we called bumpies here instead of nesties? But then again does that mean on the knot we're called knoties, and that just sounds funny.

ETA: Sorry. Proof read fail.

mrs.dovey · January 2012

Agree! Last time around there was a ton of snark. I like snark, but being a flat out ***, I find uncalled for. If you don't like reading the same questions over and over, don't open them. Not all bumpies that have been around for years feel the need to be bitches, though.

Wufroggy79 · January 2012

Some of you aren't going to make here too long if you can't handle the snark.

reinedecajun · January 2012

And they've seemed to respond to this post as well..... Huh?

abeaverhausen2 · January 2012

jessibel00:
Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting.

I have to agree with this. I don't mind snark when it is called for but I have noticed that a lot of it comes from women that are not in their 1st Tri or even expecting. If you don't want to read stupid or repetitive questions, you don't need to be on this board.

luvlss1 · January 2012

RosiePeare:

mrs.dovey:
Agree! Last time around there was a ton of snark. I like snark, but being a flat out ***, I find uncalled for. If you don't like reading the same questions over and over, don't open them. Not all bumpies that have been around for years feel the need to be bitches, though.

Thank you, Mrs. Dovey! As a brand new--and very nervous--first time future mom, it's tough to have people make fun of you for asking questions about eating feta cheese or how well meat needs to be cooked or worries about cramping or other new/strange feelings. I'm with you; if you're annoyed by the "stupidity" of the question/post from a newbie, just don't open it!

Also, if you're not actually in your first trimester, I think it's awesome that you're visiting this board to support us / answer questions / offer advice. But if you're just lurking to make mean comments when the opportunity arises, that seems like something you could do on the board appropriate to your child's age.

THIS!!!

mrs.dovey · January 2012

MrsSparklebottom:
luvlss1:
RosiePeare:

mrs.dovey:
Agree! Last time around there was a ton of snark. I like snark, but being a flat out ***, I find uncalled for. If you don't like reading the same questions over and over, don't open them. Not all bumpies that have been around for years feel the need to be bitches, though.

Thank you, Mrs. Dovey! As a brand new--and very nervous--first time future mom, it's tough to have people make fun of you for asking questions about eating feta cheese or how well meat needs to be cooked or worries about cramping or other new/strange feelings. I'm with you; if you're annoyed by the "stupidity" of the question/post from a newbie, just don't open it!

Also, if you're not actually in your first trimester, I think it's awesome that you're visiting this board to support us / answer questions / offer advice. But if you're just lurking to make mean comments when the opportunity arises, that seems like something you could do on the board appropriate to your child's age.

THIS!!!
See, the thing is, there are no rules about who can post where on TB. There aren't even any rules about being big fat meanie heads. Just like there are no rules about asking stupid questions.
If people want to be on these message boards they should probably get used to the snark. Ignore it, if it bothers you that much. But I guarantee you it's not going to go away.&nbs

I don't think it's the snark that bothers people. Snark =/= being an absolute_bitch. I do agree that people have the freedom to say anything they want and I ignore most things, but found it hilarious when a poster says they can say what ever they want then in the next reply tells someone to STFU. Pot meet kettle.

mrs.dovey · January 2012

GhostMonkey:
luvlss1:
RosiePeare:

mrs.dovey:
Agree! Last time around there was a ton of snark. I like snark, but being a flat out ***, I find uncalled for. If you don't like reading the same questions over and over, don't open them. Not all bumpies that have been around for years feel the need to be bitches, though.

Thank you, Mrs. Dovey! As a brand new--and very nervous--first time future mom, it's tough to have people make fun of you for asking questions about eating feta cheese or how well meat needs to be cooked or worries about cramping or other new/strange feelings. I'm with you; if you're annoyed by the "stupidity" of the question/post from a newbie, just don't open it!

Also, if you're not actually in your first trimester, I think it's awesome that you're visiting this board to support us / answer questions / offer advice. But if you're just lurking to make mean comments when the opportunity arises, that seems like something you could do on the board appropriate to your child's age.

THIS!!!

Bless your hearts.

that = snark! Love it!

mer313131 · January 2012

luvlss1:
RosiePeare:

mrs.dovey:
Agree! Last time around there was a ton of snark. I like snark, but being a flat out ***, I find uncalled for. If you don't like reading the same questions over and over, don't open them. Not all bumpies that have been around for years feel the need to be bitches, though.

Thank you, Mrs. Dovey! As a brand new--and very nervous--first time future mom, it's tough to have people make fun of you for asking questions about eating feta cheese or how well meat needs to be cooked or worries about cramping or other new/strange feelings. I'm with you; if you're annoyed by the "stupidity" of the question/post from a newbie, just don't open it!

Also, if you're not actually in your first trimester, I think it's awesome that you're visiting this board to support us / answer questions / offer advice. But if you're just lurking to make mean comments when the opportunity arises, that seems like something you could do on the board appropriate to your child's age.

THIS!!!

Agree!!! As a first time mom as well, I found being able to ask questions about cramping, food aversions and potential dangers comforting. Isn't that what this message board is for? I don't mind honesty and humor if it adds to the substance of the post, but calling anyone's question or concern "stupid" or being nasty because they didn't notice that a similar question had been asked recently is uncalled for. I believe that everyone here should feel welcome.

roxycarin · January 2012

You can call it snark all you want, Cyber-bullying has subsequently been defined as "when the Internet is used to send or post messages intended to hurt or embarrass another person". Research had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyber-bullying victimization. Victims have lower self-esteem, increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed. One of the most damaging effects is that a victim begins to avoid friends and activities, often the very intention of the cyber-bully.

abeaverhausen2 · January 2012

GhostMonkey:
Scout2005:
abeaverhausen2:
jessibel00:

Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting.

I have to agree with this. I don't mind snark when it is called for but I have noticed that a lot of it comes from women that are not in their 1st Tri or even expecting. If you don't want to read stupid or repetitive questions, you don't need to be on this board.

Not that it matters, because this is an open forum and anyone can read/post if they feel like it, but not everyone puts up a ticker in early pregnancy. For a variety of reasons.

Don't assume no ticker means the poster is not pregnant.

GhostMonkey, are you pregnant? I must have missed your announcement.

Wufroggy79 · January 2012

abeaverhausen2:
jessibel00:
Yep! It's funny that many of them aren't even expecting.
I have to agree with this. I don't mind snark when it is called for but I have noticed that a lot of it comes from women that are not in their 1st Tri or even expecting. If you don't want to read stupid or repetitive questions, you don't need to be on this board.

Has it crossed anyone's mind that maybe we've pretty recently been in your shoes and could pass some wisdom down to you so that you don't walk down the cheese aisle or enter a Subway without losing your minds?

chach916 · January 2012

GhostMonkey:
roxycarin:

You can call it snark all you want, Cyber-bullying has subsequently been defined as "when the Internet is used to send or post messages intended to hurt or embarrass another person". Research had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyber-bullying victimization. Victims have lower self-esteem, increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed. One of the most damaging effects is that a victim begins to avoid friends and activities, often the very intention of the cyber-bully.

Now the day is complete.

Its not official until someone feels sorry for the husbands and future LOs.

Wait for it......

JulyMomma2U2 · January 2012

Hmph.. dislike to this whole thread It's quite disheartening to see so many foul responses here..

As a first time Mom-to-be, I know I've used this board a lot to help me vent, or answer silly questions, or even just to commiserate with others in my situation.. it's sad to see so much hostility on the board..

I have to agree with several of the PPs.. why open a thread or even bother responding if your response is going to be so negative? I mean, if you've read the same questions about feta cheese, or deli cuts, then why open a thread titled with one of those names?

Hohum, tomorrow is another day -- perhaps it will include nicer responses

CinemaGoddess · January 2012

You can call me Miss Goddess, if you're nasty.

roxycarin · January 2012

MissMusic:
roxycarin:
You can call it snark all you want, Cyber-bullying has subsequently been defined as "when the Internet is used to send or post messages intended to hurt or embarrass another person". Research had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyber-bullying victimization. Victims have lower self-esteem, increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed. One of the most damaging effects is that a victim begins to avoid friends and activities, often the very intention of the cyber-bully.

Ah yes, you again...you're on my BMB and one of those people blowing smoke up people's butts. I believe you mentioned that in posts like this, everyone is "a bunch of losers" and also mentioned cyber bullying. Seriously, when is telling someone the TRUTH worse than telling them what they want to hear? No one is going to therapy because of The Bump. Sheesh.

Of course, working both angles as usual, Miss two-faced. Aren't you the one that likes to wind up the first trimester board for fun? Or are you what they call the mother martyr type; They consider themselves a light to the world, a shining example of how a good and selfless person should behave. They honestly believe they are a model of virtue. They also believe that their goodness will eventually "rub off" on others. If they are abused and mistreated, they will suffer such indignities, because eventually their tormenter will see the error of their ways, and recognize what a special human being they are hurting. If you want to live your life in denial and think your helping anyone by telling them the "truth" I think sometimes it would be nice to have empathy for a change. In other words, choke on your candor.

Adam&Eve07 · January 2012

I love how all the newbs have banned together to call all the other posters big meanie heads. Andplusalso, these kinds of posts never go over well and will never change any of the snarky biitchy comments on here.

You say if you don't like the stupid/annoying questions then don't read them? Well the same goes for the snarky posts that you don't like. This is TB. Period, end of story. Take it or leave it, but don't expect it it to change.

CinemaGoddess · January 2012

Adam&Eve07:

I love how all the newbs have banned together to call all the other posters big meanie heads. Andplusalso, these kinds of posts never go over well and will never change any of the snarly biitchy comments on here.

You say if you don't like the stupid/annoying questions then don't read them? Well the same goes for the snarky posts that you don't like. This is TB. Period, end of story. Take it or leave it, but don't expect it it to change.

I'm fully expecting the newbs to start acting like "nasty nesties" by the end of 2nd Tri.

Adam&Eve07 · January 2012

roxycarin:
MissMusic:
roxycarin:
You can call it snark all you want, Cyber-bullying has subsequently been defined as "when the Internet is used to send or post messages intended to hurt or embarrass another person". Research had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyber-bullying victimization. Victims have lower self-esteem, increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed. One of the most damaging effects is that a victim begins to avoid friends and activities, often the very intention of the cyber-bully.

Ah yes, you again...you're on my BMB and one of those people blowing smoke up people's butts. I believe you mentioned that in posts like this, everyone is "a bunch of losers" and also mentioned cyber bullying. Seriously, when is telling someone the TRUTH worse than telling them what they want to hear? No one is going to therapy because of The Bump. Sheesh.

Of course, working both angles as usual, Miss two-faced. Aren't you the one that likes to wind up the first trimester board for fun? Or are you what they call the mother martyr type; They consider themselves a light to the world, a shining example of how a good and selfless person should behave. They honestly believe they are a model of virtue. They also believe that their goodness will eventually "rub off" on others. If they are abused and mistreated, they will suffer such indignities, because eventually their tormenter will see the error of their ways, and recognize what a special human being they are hurting. If you want to live your life in denial and think your helping anyone by telling them the "truth" I think sometimes it would be nice to have empathy for a change. In other words, choke on your candor.

You can choke on all that self righteous crap you just spewed.

cynnichinny13 · January 2012

Start your post-its now, ladies. You have to get all of the early idiocy documented so that you can throw it in their faces around 9-12 months when the snark gets real dirty and side stabby.

DemoDoll · January 2012

Sometimes I really believe the snark comments are warranted....I mean why in your right mind would you ask internet strangers if it's okay for you to eat lunch meat or feta cheese? Do you really think they have your best interest in mind? I don't think so....why not take the advice of a medicinal professional, say your doctor, or a book that millions of women have relied on ::cough:: What to Expect When You're Expecting ::cough:: My doctor told me to stay away from the internet for answers to my questions. My doctor's office has a nurse line that I can call whenever to get answers. Sure I'll ask questions with a general consensus that doesn't affect the health of my fetus (I.E. When did you get your first ultrasound?)

ChubbyCheekiesMom · January 2012

MissMusic:

Ah yes, you again...you're on my BMB and one of those people blowing smoke up people's butts. I believe you mentioned that in posts like this, everyone is "a bunch of losers" and also mentioned cyber bullying. Seriously, when is telling someone the TRUTH worse than telling them what they want to hear? No one is going to therapy because of The Bump. Sheesh.

Wait, isn't that rainbow coming out the wrong end? Wink What I've learned over my years of the bump...TB=Entertainment (sometimes amazing friendships) Google,Babycenter, WebMD= Information about being pregnant if common sense fails.

Ladies Try not to take things so personally. It's just the interwebz.

CinemaGoddess · January 2012

GhostMonkey:

CinemaGoddess:
You can call me Miss Goddess, if you're nasty.

So your name ain't baby?

Nikko Blue · January 2012

roxycarin:

Of course, working both angles as usual, Miss two-faced. Aren't you the one that likes to wind up the first trimester board for fun? Or are you what they call the mother martyr type; They consider themselves a light to the world, a shining example of how a good and selfless person should behave. They honestly believe they are a model of virtue. They also believe that their goodness will eventually "rub off" on others. If they are abused and mistreated, they will suffer such indignities, because eventually their tormenter will see the error of their ways, and recognize what a special human being they are hurting. If you want to live your life in denial and think your helping anyone by telling them the "truth" I think sometimes it would be nice to have empathy for a change. In other words, choke on your candor.

shakes · January 2012

roxycarin:

You can call it snark all you want, Cyber-bullying has subsequently been defined as "when the Internet is used to send or post messages intended to hurt or embarrass another person". Research had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyber-bullying victimization. Victims have lower self-esteem, increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed. One of the most damaging effects is that a victim begins to avoid friends and activities, often the very intention of the cyber-bully.

LMFAO Now we're cyber bullies...oh lord people. Lets have this discussion again when you've all had your babies, and sit here and eye roll at 1st tri's. Yup, we were all there and now we all realize how silly and over the top we were....move on.

CinemaGoddess · January 2012

I'm 99.9% sure that nobody has ever committed suicide because someone on an internet message board told them to eat the mother effing mozzarella.

hollyg1920 · January 2012

CrystalDaun · January 2012

There's always someone whose going to snark, it's how it is. I agree w/ a lot of the PP's that it's tamer then before. I didn't really like the 1st tri board at all when I was preg. w/ DD because of how mean some of the people were. I remember lots of people getting banned for just being out of line. It was better w/ DS and this time around not bad at all.

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