Thanks for the warm welcome, but...(NOT a BFP announcement)

ArmyWife19K · December 2011

This may come off wrong to some people and I apologize ahead of time if does. I've been thinking all day about this. Last night a newbie to this board (though not necessarily a newbie to the world of infertility or m/c's) posted a BFP - which, rightfully, hurt most of us to see (myself included). And I understand the people who said "uhm...congrats" and things of that nature because they didn't know her and it was a bit of a knife to the heart.

However, some of the other responses were so mean and hateful. Our loss was only 6 months ago, so I know the sting, I'm still dealing with friends of mine's announcements and trying to truly be happy for them. But, with trying to move on and my hubby being deployed right now, I just don't need the negativity. A "BFP warning" was in the subject line and I feel like people didn't need to attack so vigorously. You could have said nothing to her, or not even read the post.

So, I think I'll forgo participating in this board. Thank you for the warm welcome I received when I first got here. I wish you all good luck with TTCAL.

delino · December 2011

So you wrote a post to tell us that we are mean? Isn't that mean? Couldn't you have just left if you don't like us. Pot...meet kettle.

Kpsbabyzoe · December 2011

delino:
So you wrote a post to tell us that we are mean? Isn't that mean? Couldn't you have just left if you don't like us. Pot...meet kettle.

VikingQueen · December 2011

Huh? I'm a meanie head sometimes.. what can I say? I'm sorry you feel like we wouldn't be able to support you, but I got to tell you this post is just gonna cause more drama, it's not going to change anything, you should have just left. Good luck on your TTCAL though.

LaTi07 · December 2011

Peace out. Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

cg0112358 · December 2011

your loss

AngnShaun · December 2011

I get it... but if you lurk you should pretty much know how this board is and its ridiculous to expect otherwise. So the fact that people say they lurk and then post a bfp just seems like a load of BS. I dont mind saying congrats to a complete stranger. But a lot of people do, im going to say the vast majority of the board does.

CnAnA · December 2011

um...k bye?

RedRose84 · December 2011

I'm so sorry you feel that way. Wishing you all the luck in your TTCAL journey.

mork · December 2011

delino:
So you wrote a post to tell us that we are mean? Isn't that mean? Couldn't you have just left if you don't like us. Pot...meet kettle.

I'm going to have to agree with delino here. Perhaps it's time to take a long look in the mirror. If you don't like us, you might not like who you really are.

BabyTrippin · December 2011

[Deleted User] · December 2011

VikingQueen:
I'm a meanie head sometimes.. what can I say? I'm sorry you feel like we wouldn't be able to support you, but I got to tell you this post is just gonna cause more drama, it's not going to change anything, you should have just left. Good luck on your TTCAL though.

I love you VQ....OP, like she said, sorry you felt we wouldn't be able to support you (you are wrong about that). The fact of the matter is, it WAS wrong of her to post her drive by BFP...whether you agree or not, that's just how it is. It hurt many people (including me).

This board has a very specific "atmosphere" and tone and TBH, many of us love it just for that reason, not in spite of it. And no, it isn't for everyone.

I wish you much luck in your TTCAL journey. But, like PP said, it's your loss.

panacea05 · December 2011

I wish you would stick around. I'm not saying I haven't been bothered by some of the negativity here before, but the good seriously outweighs the bad. There's nowhere else in the world I could ever go where so many people understand what I'm going through. {hugs}

IEtoLA · December 2011

I'm sorry you don't want to stick around. I am also not bothered by the driveby BFPs, but that is the way of the board and the fact that it hurts the girls, I don't like it. I've been on this board for over 6 months and still wouldn't just post a BFP because I respect these girls feelings. Having common sense goes a long way. I don't think anyone would just run into a room of women TTCAL and tell everyone they got a BFP, even if you were at some point one of those people. Why is it ok here? Anyway, it's too bad you won't stay around. These girls are truly awesome and supportive.

millejj1 · December 2011

BabyTrippin:

You read my mind!

OP- Sorry you don't like the attitude. Staying or going is your call, but I'm not sure that your "you guys are meanie-heads" call out did anything to help your cause...

cg0112358 · December 2011

IEtoLA:
I'm sorry you don't want to stick around. I am also not bothered by the driveby BFPs, but that is the way of the board and the fact that it hurts the girls, I don't like it. I've been on this board for over 6 months and still wouldn't just post a BFP because I respect these girls feelings. Having common sense goes a long way. I don't think anyone would just run into a room of women TTCAL and tell everyone they got a BFP, even if you were at some point one of those people. Why is it ok here? Anyway, it's too bad you won't stay around. These girls are truly awesome and supportive.

Yes Yes

Deethebee · December 2011

cmumama · December 2011

Deethebee:

lol love this!

Bizzy98 · December 2011

Oh lordy here we go again.....

MidwestIrishBridea · December 2011

I can completely understand and respect why you feel this way. I've toyed with the same feelings and worries. I believe a lot in things like attitude and energies that we surround ourselves with and harboring resentment, bitterness, and jealousy only hurts the person projecting those feelings in the long run. I also think it negatively effects our spirits and in turn our physical bodies. For people trying to bring life into this world, I think it's best to try to surround ourselves with a spirit of grace and gentleness and peace.

Miranda0921 · December 2011

panacea05:
I wish you would stick around. I'm not saying I haven't been bothered by some of the negativity here before, but the good seriously outweighs the bad. There's nowhere else in the world I could ever go where so many people understand what I'm going through. {hugs}

This exactly. The negativity DOES bother me here and no way would I ever post a bfp here but I get so much good out of here that I try to overlook it. GL with your journey!!

erikaja6 · December 2011

panacea05:
I wish you would stick around. I'm not saying I haven't been bothered by some of the negativity here before, but the good seriously outweighs the bad. There's nowhere else in the world I could ever go where so many people understand what I'm going through. {hugs}

This.

LoveOfMikesLife · December 2011

MidwestIrishBride:
I can completely understand and respect why you feel this way. I've toyed with the same feelings and worries. I believe a lot in things like attitude and energies that we surround ourselves with and harboring resentment, bitterness, and jealousy only hurts the person projecting those feelings in the long run. I also think it negatively effects our spirits and in turn our physical bodies. For people trying to bring life into this world, I think it's best to try to surround ourselves with a spirit of grace and gentleness and peace.

What you agrees with her so much that you had to start your own post?! Way to keep the drama happening

Cissi64 · December 2011

wickedsugar:
See ya... Don't let the door hit ya, and don't fall to hard off that high horse...

I love you Wicked!

Deethebee · January 2012

LoveOfMikesLife:
MidwestIrishBride:
I can completely understand and respect why you feel this way. I've toyed with the same feelings and worries. I believe a lot in things like attitude and energies that we surround ourselves with and harboring resentment, bitterness, and jealousy only hurts the person projecting those feelings in the long run. I also think it negatively effects our spirits and in turn our physical bodies. For people trying to bring life into this world, I think it's best to try to surround ourselves with a spirit of grace and gentleness and peace.
What you agrees with her so much that you had to start your own post?! Way to keep the drama happening

Yea exactly.

Thanks for the warm welcome, but...(NOT a BFP announcement)

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