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January 2011 Moms
I am being a terrible person
I am being a terrible person and while I know that the gifts Jay gets doesn't matter, he wont remember and it isn't about the gifts its about spending time with your family I can not stop comparing. And thinking if Jay doesn't get gifts to open from everyone for his birthday that we happen to have to celebrate with H's family during/after the Christmas party their children will not be getting birthday gifts in 2012. I know that this makes me terrible but it keeps going through my mind.
I just don't want him to get the short end of the stick every year. And I have a feeling that it will continue on going however it goes this year. I already compared Christmas gifts from one aunt/uncle couple. Nephew A received 4, niece A received 4, Niece B received 4 and Jay has 2. I know it is wrong, but I have always had a strong feeling that things need to be equal. Just because it is his first Christmas and he is only a year doesn't mean he deserves less than everyone else.
Once it is done, it's done and I won?t care. Even if they don't buy him birthday gifts I will still end up buying their kids birthday gifts. I just find it a little irritating and needed to vent here. Now I will keep my mouth shut to everyone else and try to enjoy a stressful Christmas party this weekend.
I hope you all have a wonderful New Years!!!!
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Re: I am being a terrible person
I have to admit the first year the twins were born, I maybe spent 50 dollars on them combined. Then this year I spent more, because they are older and get it a little more. Does that make sense? I understand where you are coming from to some extent. Since I had W later than all of my friends, sometimes I feel like they owe me for going to all of their kids stuff for years and years...even though that is a totally stupid way of looking at it. I think you know that too.
The kids dont know any different, all they know is that we care about them and love them. Sometimes a 5 dollar toy is just as good as a 50 dollar one.
I hope you have a good new year too..and hopefully I made sense in what I was trying to say.
I know exactly what you mean. But Niece B is only a few months older than Jay. So in theory they should recieve the same things. I know it is petty. But it bugs me and the only way I can let it go and get over it is to vent and get it out. I would never say anything and I will just be happy to be there and be spending time with the family.
Yes that is possible, but I was told what the gifts were. And the dollar amount was not the same.
As for the birthday presents, I can't imagine someone coming without a gift at all.
You're not terrible, but I will never understand why people get so bent out of shape over this. My son got a ton of presents this year, and my daughter got hardly any. People like buying for older kids. It's fun. I cannot imagine counting my kids presents and comparing to what my nieces and nephews got. That is just insane to me. I know a lot of people do that, and I will never understand it. I appreciate anything my kids get no matter the quantity. If my kids get nothing, oh well. I am their parent and I provide for them. It's no one else's responsibility to do that.
I hope you have a good new years, let this one go because you can't change how much money other people spend on your kid and focus your energy on the more important things in life.