Hi ladies. I would love some insight into how to deal with my friends and potential baby shower. I feel selfish and guilty that I'm frustrated with them, but I really don't know how to deal with things right now.
First of all, I live in an isolated town in Canada's north. I have no family here, so no help from mom or sister. Lately, a few of my friends have asked me if I'm going to have a baby shower??!!!?!! Well, umm, no, I'm not throwing a shower for myself. I usually just respond that I'm not, since I haven't lived here that long and don't know very many people.
Anyway, two friends in particular have asked if I would mind if they throw me one. I said not at all, but they didn't have to. Once again... all is well.
NOW, however, they are thinking of waiting until the end of January to throw it... or even wait until after baby is born. This would be fine with me except I have a full schedule for 5-6 weeks of family coming to visit starting the first week in February, PLUS since we live in a very isolated area, there are only 2 places to shop for baby items with VERY limited selections. I will need to order most items and they usually take weeks to arrive. One friend said that she wanted to wait until after the baby was born so that they could buy me all of the necessities that I didn't already have. Ah, am I crazy to think that I should PREPARE for baby's arrival and actually have the necessities BEFORE little once arrives? Especially since we can't just go out to a mall and buy things. Honestly, we have a small section in a small walmart to shop in or a small section in a grocery store. No where else.
How should I approach this? I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I'm so frustrated that they want to throw this for me, but are so wishy-washy about the whole thing that it just seems to be a mess. What should I say when they ask to throw it after the baby is born? I really don't want that with visitors, flu season and temps hover around -40 degrees Celsius here in Feb.
Sigh sigh sigh. Am I just being a difficult pregnant lady right now? Oh the hormones! :-)