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What would you do with the following info?

CPA04CPA04
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A multitude of things have happened during the past 2 visits XH has had:

-His trailer didn't have heat and he and DS couldn't stay there because it was (supposedly) 19 degrees in it that weekend. (logged b/c he didn't have appropriate housing for DS to stay in)

-He showed up late to pick up DS and was driving (he doesn't have a driver's license but is driving each time he arrives to my house). His GF always gets into the driver's seat prior to them leaving with DS, but I am concerned he is driving with DS during his visits at other times. (logged and also talked to the cop who lives across the street about whether I should report his driving w/o a license)

-I received an accidental butt dial call on Christmas and it's a 2 minute voicemail of DS wailing like someone is ripping off his fingernails and XH can be heard saying "I'm throwing up my hands, I don't know what to do" and then walking out of the house to smoke. (voicemail is saved)

-XH said that DS didn't have a fever at all over the weekend, but did the previous 3 days, the day he came home, and the day after.  I also suspect he didn't give DS his breathing treatments for his bronchiolitis as instructed (but no proof).

-DS came home with TERRIBLE diaper rash for the second time in 2 months.  He wimpered and whined while I changed his diaper. He was fine when he left home 48 hours earlier. (I took pictures to document and logged the incident. Also sent an email to XH asking if he had any idea about what caused it.)

Would you do anything else with this info other than what I have already done?

 

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Re: What would you do with the following info?

  • LoveyFNRLoveyFNR member

    Honestly, you have done everything I would do. Documenting everything is the very best thing you can do. Unfortunately I don't see it as sufficient enough proof to the courts yet to get anything changed or even suspended. I don't know what your intentions are with this evidence. Just keep documenting until you see something you deem court worthy and at that point you can bring all the other information up.

    I'm not even sure if this is good advice as I'm new to the whole court/custody/parenting thing so listen to what others have to say as well. Good luck and I am sorry you are going through this. This is everything I fear with my ex as well. He's never very attentive to our son and I know things like this will happen to me too.

    Just document everything....

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member
    I might call whatever your states version of Child Protective Services is and just ask. But, sometimes that can open a can of worms no one wants. A safer option might be to contact your attorney and see if supervised visitation can be set up, or request parenting classes...or both.
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  • achase123achase123
    Good tips from the OP.  DEFINITELY talk to your attorney about this. You may have grounds to take him back to court to seek supervised visitation.
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  • CPA04CPA04

    Thanks all. I certainly don't think it's at a point of getting child welfare involved, but I'm glad you think all these little things together warrant looking into my legal options. 

    There's a fine line between being overprotective and ignoring issues. Thanks for affirming my concerns!

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