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small freak out moment...

drbethcdrbethc member
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I'm a FTM and at my advanced age, I got used to living my life doing whatever I wanted. We've been married for 10 years and are totally ready to have a child. Although I am ecstatic about being pregnant and a mommy, a feeling that my life will never be the way it was came over me and the thought that once the baby arrives I will forever have a person in my life that I will stress over. (I'm pretty care-free now.)

Of course I knew all of this before TTC, but the thought just hit me out of the blue and freaked me out for a moment!

Has anyone else felt this way? 

 

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Re: small freak out moment...

  • mkflower3000mkflower3000 member
    Yes, I think about it all the time! We haven't been together as long as you guys - married in September but a couple for 6 years before that - but we have so many little things (not even the big stuff) that we do only around/with each other and I love so much, that I know will go away once we have the baby. I understand that there'll be new things and experiences and activities, but I'm really sad to let go of the current ones... I often feel really guilty about thinking this way, but there it is.
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  • TimegTimeg

    I felt that way with my first. Heck, I still feel that way now that I'm working on number 3. It took me a while to realize that these two litle girls running around the house were actually mine (okay, I knew they were, but I was still amazed that I got married and had two kids within 4 years. It's awesome!).

    It really is an adjustment. Because we got pregnant two months after saying "I do," I sometimes think about what we might have done if we had given ourselves more time. But then I look at the girls' beautiful smiles and think about how much joy they bring to this house (and stress - it really does add new levels of stress to everyday life) and I can't imagine life any differently. Motherhood brings such a mix of emotions and it does take sometime to adjust to the changes.

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  • sparkals86sparkals86

    I am a FTM also and I felt this way at the very beginning right after I found out I was pregnant and at first I was kinda taken over by a feeling of wow my life as I know it is gonna be upside down forever!! But now I can say I'm at peace with that overwhelming feeling-The closer it is to his EDD the more calm I get. It's weird I know lol but I think I never realized how empty my life was until I found out I was pregnant-I am so excited for DS to get here-He gives me something to live for and a feeling and love nothing else can compare to! Even when things are so crappy at work and I hate driving 45 mins to work and home in the morning and working 40-50 hrs a week night shift he kicks me or moves a little and I realize this is all worth it. It will freak you out thinking about it though but you can look at it and know that every single stress and hectic moment is worth it for that sweet baby.

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  • mrslisawrightmrslisawright
    Oh yeah.  I'm 35 and feel the same way!!!!
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