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Samiantha101
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I'm not having a baby shower :(
Samiantha101
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Ok, I am having a pity me moment. Please excuse me. I know it too shall pass. The s/o and I are expecting our first in June. We couldn't be more excited. Unfortunately, I wont get to experience the staple "party" for all new and moms to be. I live an ocean away from home with the s/o whose stationed with the military. I haven't really made many friends here either. I'm really bummed. It's not about the presents. We can afford all our baby purchases ourselves. The s/o offered to fly me home, which is 3000 miles away, but it seems silly. I would have to use vacation time that I need to save for my maternity leave, which will be unpaid. I would also have to fly by myself, and I'm deathly afraid of flying. Of course, it would cost a pretty penny too. Anyhow, I guess this entire post is about how jealous I am of you ladies. I could never tell anybody in real life how sad I am about this, so I'm sharing it with a bunch of strangers. ;-)
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Re: I'm not having a baby shower :(
You may not be having a baby shower that you know of. Is it possible that co-workers will throw you one? It's still early in the game for you, so you never know! If you REALLY want one, and I may be flamed for this, you could mention to a friend or co-worker how bummed you are that you don't have any family nearby to do the whole shower experience. But keep in mind, you will still get plenty of baby gifts once LO is born!
Don't be jealous of us. I can't even seem to get pregnant to get the chance to have a baby shower. I just got sucked into this Board when I was planning for my sister's shower. : )
I'm sorry you are not getting a shower. Is your office the type to throw small at work showers for co-workers? While it sucks, it's not the end of the world. You can still register anyway. It's fun to plan things out, you'll get a completion coupon and friends from home will want to send you gifts when your LO is home. And once you have the baby, the memory of not having that rite of passage will have faded.
But yeah, it sucks. And it's ok to feel a little sad.
It's still pretty early for you, I wouldn't worry about it just yet. But, I do get being bummed that you feel like you won't have one, I didn't get to have one either and I was a little bummed (damn being Jewish!). When you do get to go home, you can have a show off your baby party.
Don't feel bad about feeling bummed. Its got to be tough not to have close friends and family around to share the experience with. I have been trying to Skype a lot with my family since they live in another part of the country and I don't get to see them very often. I know its not the same, but its nice to at least see their faces.
Tacky!
Biitchy!
Yeah and?
This is exactly what I was going to suggest! I am hoping to be able to set up a computer so that my family in Missouri (I'm in Virginia) can participate in my shower!
You pointed out the tacky post, so I just pointed out the biitchy post. That's all.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
::eyeroll::
Right back at ya sweets.
Holy last word pissing contest. Whip them out and measure them already so we can move on.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Mine is bigger
I was wondering where that went...
Lol. I am afraid to ask what the suction cup on the end is for.....
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
To mount it so you can mount it hands-free.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Ahhh...a double mount...how clever of them!
I'm sorry. That does suck. I hope you are pleasantly surprised and someone has one for you, even if it's long distance.
It's still very early in your pregnancy and hey you never know what can happen in the next few months. I understand where you are coming from, I would be very sad but at least your s/o offered to fly you home. If that's an option give it a try but if not you can always do something for yourself to celebrate the baby. How about a small dinner out somewhere to celebrate or an internet baby shower , those are very popular now.
Don't feel sad youre very blessed to have a new baby. It's my 1st one too and I know how exciting it can be. Enjoy it and i'm sure it'll all work out
Take care!
Happy New Year!
Honestly, shower's are overrated. It's one afternoon for a couple hours and then before you know it, people are grabbing their purses and saying their goodbyes.
I'm pregnant with #2 so I'm not having a shower and I'm also not having a sip n see or sprinkle...it's just a PITA honestly....I'm not sad or disappointed at a all.
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Trying for #1 since May 2010 l DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011
IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks
November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!
Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26
1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12
**TEAM GREEN!**
Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12
Trying for #2
FET #1 - October '13 - c/p l FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled
l FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN
~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~
Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14
**TEAM GREEN!**
Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14
I'm assuming you're talking about me, but I don't think I was being vicious at all. I said, yes it would suck not to have a shower and I realized it was a pity post. But I was being for real by asking if you expected one since you listed pretty much every reason not to expect one. I don't know if that bfn comment was supposed to be a dig at me or what...
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Trying for #1 since May 2010 l DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011
IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks
November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!
Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26
1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12
**TEAM GREEN!**
Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12
Trying for #2
FET #1 - October '13 - c/p l FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled
l FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN
~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~
Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14
**TEAM GREEN!**
Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14
I agree with the above posters. If you work your work family should throw you a shower, even if it's informal.
However, I am sure the next time you visit home, your family will have something for you even if it is after the baby is born. I have a few military wives in my family and we've done some pretty unconventional stuff for them. Don't be surprise if your getting gifts on your first trip home after baby
I fully agree with you!( I thought it was because im kinda weird and anti-social)I was very grateful for the showers but I lead a simple life and all the designer baby clothes and baby gear overwhelmed me. I only needed a baby wrap and diapers.
OP- Register online and let your friends and fam ship anything they wish to buy the baby. Its ok to be a little let down about it tho.