Those of you who have bf. How did you handle family/inlaws?

Baby0322 · December 2011

I thought I posted this already and was checking for replys so I guess I didn't? I feel crazy but anyway. I was curious for those of you that have breastfed your twins or plan to. Did you bf infront of inlaws/family/friends and just cover up? I only lasted with DD about two months and I remember going to inlaws or being home and bf in another room FOREVER because I was afraid of "offending" someone. I can't go through that again. I'm curious how you feel about this. I will bf again but I would love to hear your advice.

schoolsoutbride · December 2011

I think you did post this, but anyway, I just did it wherever. I only tandem at night, so do them one at a time around others. I don't generally tandem around others.

Haven1 · December 2011

I was super weird about BFing. I was all about BFing and pumping, but I wouldn't do it in front of anyone except my mom or DH. I also hating talking about it. It still floors me the amount of people who think BFing is an acceptable converstation topic with a co-worker or acquaintence.

Thankfully I was alone most of the time, so it wasn't an issue to have to leave the room.

kiwi443 · December 2011

I'm planning to try tandem bfing. My mom and MIL are planning to help out a lot in the beginning. They'll get to witness the loveliness. If other people are over, I'll move to another room.

I'm not particularly comfortable with bfing in front of others, but I lost some of that modesty when I had DS. I had some complications and wasn't able to care for him on my own for a few weeks, so MIL and my mom have already seen all there is to see.

Fancy3Face · December 2011

I pumped, but I did it in front of family. I just used a nursing cover when the menfolk were around.

2brides · December 2011

I didn't tandem or pump in front of anyone but my spouse - I was too exposed. But the times I was only nursing 1 baby at a time, I would do it anywhere/in front of anyone (covered of, course.)

allisonmarie22 · December 2011

I plan to breastfeed if I need to around friends and family. I will use a cover if the babies will tolerate it. If they won't tolerate the cover then I may go to another room depending on my comfort level.

sweetsugarmama · December 2011

It's funny, I'm totally fine BF in public, covered or uncovered (discreetly). However, I know it would make my dad, BIL and nephews uncomfortable so I'll probably either cover up or go in another room at home.

That said I never got milk with DD so I didn't get much of a chance to work things out before, so I hope I can do it at all with these guys.

Itmamma · December 2011

I only did tandem when it was close relatives around otherwise i just did it whenever especially in my own home, when at a friends i used a cover. Actually at my aunts for xmas eve i used a cover and fed one at a time

mmbench · December 2011

I went to another room when FIL was around. My family I did it in front of them.

ashes1010 · December 2011

I only tandem fed in front of my family (not in-laws). When we are out, I'd feed them individually. For the first few weeks, I was a bit shy but after the babies and I figured things out, I didn't care anymore. I now feed them in front of anyone. If I'm in public, I'll always use my cover.

meagamomma2be · December 2011

I tandem fed for 1 year and never BF in front of friends or family. I always went in a different room because I didn't want to feel like a circus freak. It was a pain, but it was the only way I was comfortable. I had no problem feeding my singleton in front of people w/ a nursing cover, but I felt different w/ the twins.

islandlife · December 2011

My twins could take up to 45 minutes to feed at a time at the beginning, I had no problem breast feeding wherever in the beginning. I figured they were in my house and if they are uncomfortable with it they can leave. Once they got to about 5 or 6 months though they would get too distracted during feedings so I would feed them in my bedroom. At that point though they were really quick with their feeding so it didn't feel like I was hiding out.

jxd215 · December 2011

I tandem fed with my brest friend pillow right in front of close family and friends. Before I had the twins I would have thought I'd be too modest to BF in front of my dad and FIL, but I had so much trouble starting to BF that modesty ended up being the last thing on my mind. Everyone was super supportive and never made me feel uncomfortable - my FIL would even joke about the twin pillow and called it my flotation device. I never would have BFed for 11 months if I'd been shy about it - just one more obstacle.

jdancer5 · December 2011

I wish I had done things differently. Once I was actually BFing, it felt like a very private thing, though I hadn't anticipated feeling that way. At home, I fed tandem, in the livingroom (my station was all setup there). Guests, visitors, family... Everybody saw my boobs- there is no way to be discreet feeding tandem. The thing is, I would say "ok, well it's time for me to feed the babies now..." and people wouldn't leave. I felt like the hint was not subtle at all. I would even say "sorry but there's just no way to do this covered up" and people would say "oh it's totally fine, you do what you need to do"... And then they would just sit there. I was unprepared, but I wish I had just told everyone that I wanted privacy. At other's homes or in public I BF one at a time and covered up. Sorry no paragraphs- iPhone.

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