Community› The Bump Message Boards› Adoption
Adoption
New Discussion

S/O names, Fred (and others)

MandertheDBMandertheDB
in Adoption
Sorry, didn't want to thread jack, but I am curious...while you were still fostering, did you call your DD by her 'new' name or did you wait to call her that until you finalized? I'm sorry if I'm being too nosey, just wondering in case I'm in a similar situation in the future.
I directed this at Fred, but if anyone else has done a name change after having the child for a while, I'd love to hear about it!
http://dbandthewhirlwind.blogspot.com
Report Reply to Post

Re: S/O names, Fred (and others)

  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ

    I am not gonna answer for Fred, but I know that for some people the second they KNOW that the case is moving to adoption, they start calling the child by the new name.

    But, it is not hard for children to adapt to a new name.  For some - people call the child by the old first name followed by the new name, then eventually drop the "old" name.

    Just a personal example.  My daughter is named Elsie June.  We called her Elsie in the beginiing.  But, then we called her Elsie June.  Then we called her Elsie June Bug.  And, now - we call her Junebug a lot.  Just like a nickname would fall into place.

    So, you would call a chld (for example) John - then John Matthew, then maybe Matthew John, and then eventually just Matthew.

    Plus, through in the last name in the mix and (seriously) the child can adjust really quickly.

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • MandertheDBMandertheDB
    Ah! Thanks for sharing, I wasn't sure of the timeframe there.
    I might be putting the cart before the horse a bit, but I'm ok with that.

    ETA Thanks to you too MyColony, didn't mean to leave you out. That's a good way of easing them into it. I guess I just thought it would be harder for kids, but it makes sense. I mean, they're a whole lot better at picking up different languages, why wouldn't they be able to learn a new name? Lol
    http://dbandthewhirlwind.blogspot.com
    Report Reply
  • mom2onemom2one member
    With DS we did a legal name change almost immediately after he moved in. He was 9 and an adoptive placement....but we didn't finalize for 6 months after the name change. With DD, we started calling her the new name right after TPR was done...adoption was 7 weeks later.
    Stay at Home Mama to 3 Beautiful Children by the miracles of Birth & Adoption
    Report Reply
  • mamatojtsmamatojts
    When DS1 was placed in our home, we were free to call him the name were planning on changing it to, but he was at that point free and legal for adoption. DS2, bio sibling to DS1, had a "paperwork name" and the name we planned on naming him. As any foster cases, there's always a chance of going home, but since we already had DS1 placed with us, DS2 was a surprise baby that she voluntarily surrendered her rights, and we were free to call him what we wanted. Until rights are terminated and the plan is changed to adoption, I would refrain from calling the child by any other name other than the one their bio parents gave them. 
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"