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How do you explain divorce/break ups? (Not mine!)

olivia_eveolivia_eve
in Upstate NY Babies

So we unfortunately have had a bit of this in our families. My brother broke up with his fiancee about a year and a half ago, but we didn't do a ton of explanation because Rosie was a lot younger at the time. Although she did ask about his fiancee when she met his new girlfriend, which was all sorts of awkward.

But someone in our family is getting a divorce, and I'm not quite sure what to say when Rosie asks where so and so is.  So far we've just done a basic, "He doesn't live with them anymore" type answer and try to change the subject, just because I can't find the right words.

What would you say?

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Re: How do you explain divorce/break ups? (Not mine!)

  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    Our best friends broke off their engagement a couple months before their wedding.  DD had been spending entire Saturdays with them and she had such a blast with them.

    So when my friend broke up, DD was asking about the guy all the time.  I felt bad for my friend to keep hearing DD ask about her ex.  Basically I told DD that the ex moved very far away and that we wouldn't see him again.  She didnt' question much beyond that.  

    I really wasn't about to get into a nasty breakup with a 4 year old, so for me that was the quickest, easiest explanation, and it worked well.

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  • sunnygirl05sunnygirl05
    I've seen children's books at the library about divorce.  I haven't actually looked through them though.  I'm not quite sure how I would explain it.  I think the best way to go with kids is always a very simple answer......course that can be tough!!!
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  • jnk062602jnk062602

    I would probably pick up a book too, especially bc Rosie is old enough to get some of it, but young enough where you don't want her to worry that it is going to happen to you guys.

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  • JenJarJenJar
    Dinosaur Divorce is a good book to use.  I had it in my classroom for use with my first graders.
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