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annoyed with NICU nurse

crystaleyes39crystaleyes39 member
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I love all of the nurses in the NICU that have been taking care of our two little munchkins, but there is one nurse in particular that keeps requesting our one daughter and I reallly dont like her!  She is always so short with me about information and almost acts annoyed when I call to check in. She also is the type of personality that delivers the little information she does give in such a negative way that always leaves me feeling discouraged or nervous about my daughter.

Have any of you experianced this? And what did you do about it? So frustrated.

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  • jenmikwjenmikw member
    Talk to the individual who makes up the schedule - either the charge nurse or the receptionist.  We had a nurse who sounds similar.  She was very "intense" and abrupt - basically no bedside manner.  We were lucky enough that she got transferred to a different bay and never came back to ours so we never had to deal with her after the first few nights.  I remember more towards the end of DS's stay in the NICU his primary and I were bored one night and were going back through his chart from the beginning and she was answering questions that I had and when we came upon that nurses name I said something to the effect that she was very "intense," and our primary replied "that's a nice of putting it - she works nights a reason. She's got no beside manner." She was a wonderful practical nurse and wrote great notes and took care of him well when he was on CPAP but people skills nada.

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  • OscarQOscarQ member
    Ditto PP.  We were told at the start of Kevin's NICU stay that we got two "wild cards" we could use to block a nurse from his care.  I never had to use them but I came close once or twice.  If it had been somone I didn't like repeatedly requesting my son, I wouldn't have hesitated to block her.
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  • MedtwinMedtwin

    as i learned from our 125 day nicu stay.."you can fire your nurse".. we had experiences like that nurse..and my husband went right to the unit manager.. (every x)..  just tell them your personalities dont mesh.. and you dont want her working with your babies.. period! you are the only one to be your children's advocate..

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  • lwmooney87lwmooney87

    I had this same problem. One NICU nurse was just always so short with me and I really just didn't like her. One day, I was so frustrated because the only thing that was keeping R from going home was eating. I came to EVERY feeding that day for 24 hours. When I walked in on this nurse's shift, she had already started feeding her (knowing I was coming) and she said to me "She's got 15 more minutes or it's going in her tube" and she was really hateful. I then got discouraged and started crying and she said to me "If you keep forcing her, she's never going to get it". She was just terrible.

    In the end, she started to get a little better. She was actually the one to call me to bring in the car seat for the car seat test. R was only there for a couple more days so it wasn't such an issue. But from experience, people like that who have a negative impact on you and your emotions, should be eliminated. Maybe talk to the charge nurse and voice your concerns? The time in the NICU is hard enough- you need supportive and positive people around you and that includes the nurses. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this but I know exactly what you're feeling. Good luck!

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  • jacque_zjacque_z member

    Ditto pp about being your children's advocate!  Go to the Nurse Manager and express your concerns.  I didn't know until the latter weeks of our 105 day stay that we could request to have or not have certain nurses.  I definitely had a few nurses that rubbed me the wrong way but more I just had nurses that I clicked with and made me feel comfortable.  At the end of our stay when we were really pushing to go home and feeding was our obstacle, I gave the Nurse Mgr a list of all the nurses that really worked with C to eat.  It made all the difference! 

    Your girls are beautiful.  I hope they are home soon! 

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  • crystaleyes39crystaleyes39 member
    Thank you everyone! I think i'm just going to have to do what you guys said and talk to he head nurse about requesting a nurse we like more often and not having her take care of our girls. I feel bad, but she really is making this stressful time wayy more stressful than it has to be and I feel like her negative energy is effecting me and my daughter.
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    imagecrystaleyes39:
    Thank you everyone! I think i'm just going to have to do what you guys said and talk to he head nurse about requesting a nurse we like more often and not having her take care of our girls. I feel bad, but she really is making this stressful time wayy more stressful than it has to be and I feel like her negative energy is effecting me and my daughter.

    Good for you! I honestly think the babies can also feel your frustration or the negative vibes coming from the nurse. =) they will be better off with the more positive nurse!

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