did i cause my miscarriage?

cngeier626 · December 2011

i know a lot of people say miscarriages are often unknown as to what caused them...but i just miscarried yesterday at 5.5 weeks and two weeks ago i had an xray done for a base line physical to become a firefighter. i was asked if i was pregnant but i didnt think so and i was due for my period so i said not sure and they went ahead with it. also, i drank 1-2 diet cokes a day (that was cutting back!) did i possibly cause this chemical pregnancy to end in miscarriage?

xoladiebug · December 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know its easy to look back on things and wonder, "did I cause this?". The truth is you will never know, but the chances are highly unlikely. I flew at nearly 6 wks when I miscarried in April and thought maybe the airport screening had something to do with it since i mc when I got home. But then I had to fly again at 6 wks this pregnancy, and I'm now in the 3rd trimester. Just an example of why you shouldn't blame yourself. ((Hugs))

pottermommy · December 2011

I am so so sorry for your loss. But you did not cause it. Firstly soda won't cause a miscarriage. And as for the Xray it is really unknown if that causes it or not. Unfortunately lots of pregnancies end in early miscarriage and as devestating and heartbreaking as it is, all of us have been there.

It isn't stopable and it isn't forseeable so do not blame yourself. Allow yourself to grieve and know that you couldn't have done anything to stop it, even had you known it was going to happen.

hopeandlove0417 · December 2011

I'am so sorry for your loss sweetie *hugs* It is very easy for us to play the blame game in our heads and re-think EVERYTHING we did or didn't do, but the reality is Theres nothing that we could have done differently. I know the words aren't very comforting and you will still likey not believe them but.......you did absolutely NOTHING to cause your loss.

There a many many women who do everything to the "book" and still suffer a loss. I hated hearing my doctor say there was nothing I could have done differently, I didn't believe it and it was very easy to place guilt on myself. But over time I was able to learn to accept it and feel less guilty. I think for some women the doubt and guilt will always loom over us...but from an outside perspective, when it's someone else...it's very clear to see that that person did NOTHING to cause their loss.

My T&P are with you during this difficult time, I hope you are able to take some time to grieve and heal *hugs* Just remember you did absolutely nothing wrong*hugs*

jinx75 · December 2011

No you did not cause your miscarriage. I had my first m/c just weeks after having an x-ray (not knowing I was pg at the time) and I asked myself the same question. I know now that there was nothing I could have done to prevent my loss. I am so sorry you're going through this! I will keep you in my T&Ps.

coastalmaine · December 2011

I am so, so sorry you are doubting yourself...but you most certainly did not cause your mc. I remember going through all of the possible "what ifs" after I lost my LO...and the doctor just kept saying no, no, no...you didn't do this. Giant hugs to you.

jessalynn521 · December 2011

You can't blame yourself. I know that I, and from what I have seen many others, go through the thought of "Did I do something to cause this?" but blaming yourself isn't the way to go. You have no control over what happens before you know about your pregnancy. You didn't know, and that is nothing to beat yourself up over. I am very sorry to hear about your loss, just don't try and play the blame game. It is a sad enough time without adding in that factor. T's & P's going out to you.

chusum · December 2011

It's easy to blame yourself, but in reality there is (a) no way of knowing (b) it is very very highly unlikely you caused your miscarriage. Plenty of women do far worse at 5.5 weeks pregnant and later and go on to have successful pregnancies.

cngeier626 · December 2011

thank you ladies for all of your comments. it really meant a lot to me to know im not alone. i showed my husband all of the comments people left me and he was shocked yet happy to know i no longer felt alone. i think it comforted him as well. so thank you again..it means a lot!

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