I have vented on here a lot about my father and our very estranged relationship. But for those who don't remember or know. I cut off contact with my father 8yrs ago. It was a hard choice made harder by the fact that it strained my relationship with his mom (my yiayia/grandmother) whom I had been close to my whole life and even lived with after my parents divorced. As time has gone by my sister (still in contact with both) has told me a few times that my grandmother would like me to call but when I have it has been strained and so for the last 4 yrs her and I haven't had any contact. I even made the choice earlier this year to not attend a family party for her and my grandfather after hemming and hawing about it for a long time. But then...
Last week Riley and I went to Target and ran into my sister and my grandmother! Riley and I were done shopping and enjoying a coffee (me) and pumpkin bread. They sat down and we all talked for about 20 minutes. It was so nice and Riley was well behaved through it. She gave him some quarters and they played together. It was so nice to watch. I feel like someone above was looking out for me and her, giving us that one last time to see each other and for her to see me as a mother.
Today, my mom called and my grandmother is in the ER with a stroke. I have no idea how bad or if this is the end or just the beggining of the end but I am so glad I got one last meeting with her. She knows I love her and I know she loves me. If she makes it through today I will likely go visit one last time tomorrow, so if you guys could spare some T&P for her that would be great. If she doesn't make it though I hope she isn't in pain, and at least I know she knows I love her.
update: They are calling it a small stroke, but she is very confused and upset at the moment. I have decided to hold off on visiting till at least tomorrow since my sister says everyone coming is upseting her.
Re: Odd Turn of Events (t&p) with update
Will be thinking of you and your family. Hope she makes it through today so you can see you again.
Sending lots of T&P! I hope that she is able to recover, and that you're both able to see this as a new opening for rekindling your relationship in a positive, healthy way.
And if not, I hope that your chance meeting with her was able to give you both the kind of closure and peace you need to not have any lingering, deep regrets.
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It's great you had such a great visit w/ your grandma!
If she is having a lot of visitors in her current state, she is likely overwhelmed. If she doesn't have control over her speech and movement it would be very frustrating, especially with a lot of people around.
But do visit. If you can find a quiet time right when visitor hours begin and less family (that you don't want to see) will be around, I'm sure she's appreciate seeing you.
Hugs! I'll be sending her good thoughts.
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sending you and your family lots of thoughts and prayers, I know this must be so tough for you -- sending you lots of hugs and good wishes for your grandma