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Follow up: herpes and pregnancy
I spoke to my doctor about the concern that I would get herpes during my last trimester of pregnancy. (My husband has it and I do not.) She said she is not worried about it. If I haven't gotten it from him thus far, chances are almost nil that I will now. She said adding anti-viral medication will reduce our chances even further, which we have, and if we want to add condoms or abstain altogether during the last 6 weeks, when it has the highest potential to do damage, we can. But she said there's a higher risk of a car accident hurting the baby than sex in our particular case. The vast majority of last-trimester primary outbreaks are the result of women who have new sex partners ... so stay faithful, all you 3rd trimester ladies. (Ha!)
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Re: Follow up: herpes and pregnancy
I am impressed that you are even considering having sex during the last tri. I didn't want my DH looking at me much less sticking anything of his in anything of mine. Shudder.
And, third tri ladies, try to keep it in your pants, please. We'll all know if you get herpes that you were fooling around.
Drats! There goes my plans for third tri anonymous orgies! :-) But seriously, that is great news! During the 3rd tri of my first pregnancy, my sex drive was stronger than it had ever been. All kinds of awkward, but we managed. (edited)
I had spotting in the 1st tri with both Abby and Emily. There was no way I was taking ANY risks with either of them and we didn't have sex from about 12w until 2-3 months PP. There was absolutely no temptation anyway. I was begrudgingly "initimate" for DH's sake but I really couldn't have cared less. I guess my sex drive just isn't anywhere near yours. I had no problem going without for 6+ months. To each their own.
I do take issue with this statement "She said she is not worried about it. If I haven't gotten it from him thus far, chances are almost nil that I will now." Uh... like she thinks you have some kind of natural immunity? Because as far as I know, as long as he is infected and you are not, you can still become infected. Is she saying that only another man with herpes would be a risk? That sounds really odd to me but maybe there's a lot about it that I'm not educated about.
If there's even a snowballs chance in hell that sex would harm or even kill my baby, I wouldn't dare. But again, I don't need to have sex with my husband THAT bad. I didn't feel all that attractive and having a baby writhing around inside me was the opposite of sexual intimacy.
And will people PLEASE stop spreading the myth/rumor that car accidents kill babies!!! It's very rare. Much more rare than getting herpes I assure you. And it's usually the result of not wearing a seatbelt or wearing it incorrectly.
I think the point was that the doc was trying to illustrate that the chance of her contracting herpes was very rare, not that a car accident would kill the baby. The doc wasn't spreading the rumor.