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May 2012 Moms
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Non-Clicky Poll on Trendy names
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I have been posting a ton about name selection(s) (sorry if I am annoying, just frustrated with selecting a name).
I have always had this "thing" against naming my child a name that is on the SS most popular list. I do not want my child to be one of 4 Maddie's in her class (I love the name Madeline, or Madison, but it is so common, no offense).
However, I don't love "speshul" or "uneek" names (you know the addition of y's to everything, ee's, etc.)
My dilemma is that I love some of these popular names (not necessarily the "trendy" aiden based names, etc).
POLL - Would you care if your child was one of 3 or 4 kids with the same name in their class and/or grade level and/or neighborhood, etc? Would it be more importantt to find a name you love, regardless, or a name you can "live with" that is more "uncommon"?
I am so torn. I love Olivia (or Alivia) and Mia and Isabella and Sophia, but they are allllll soooo popular!
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Re: Non-Clicky Poll on Trendy names
POLL - Would you care if your child was one of 3 or 4 kids with the same name in their class and/or grade level and/or neighborhood, etc? Would it be more importantt to find a name you love, regardless, or a name you can "live with" that is more "uncommon"?
It would bother me if there was 3 or 4 kids with the same name in their class or grade level. One of my criteria for a name is that it can't be on the top 100 ssn list. With that said it is also important that you LOVE it. For me, I knew I would find a name I loved that wasn't on the list.
I'm on the same page as you. I am crazy in love with Ava. The second Birth Mom picked me to parent her child within seconds I was like "if it's a girl, she's Ava". BUT, having spent my entire childhood as one of 6 Amanda's in my class....
it's *really* keeping me from picking it. I'm ok with a name that ends up popular. One of the names I'm considering is rising super fast and will probably be in top 50 at least in a couple years, but that doesn't change anything because she'll be a few years ahead.
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I really don't think it's a huge concern. This is your child's name for the rest of her life...who cares if there are other people with the same name? For what it's worth, Sophia and Olivia are on my list of short names if we have a girl (along with a couple of others) and I'm not too concerned that they are popular.
I highly dislike the unique names, so if you like the classic names, then go for it.
I'm with you except that I don't necessarily care if he is going to be the same name as 2 or 3 other students in his class. I'm not sure why but I guess because the world is a lot bigger than just grade school. However FI was really picky about that but yet he wanted to name him Ayden! We ended up with Brayden because ayden was just WAY too common! I don't know of any brayden's in S. FLA.
I am also not a fan of the 'unique' names but I feel like Alivia is one of those. Overall, go with what you are happy with and feel good about instinctively
I grew up as "Melissa R" my entire life, and hated being one of 4 in my class named Melissa. Even now, I feel like every 30-35 year old I meet is named Melissa. I work with 5 other Melissas...
Anyway, for this reason, I wouldn't name my children any of the most popular names. For me, names seem to lose personality or identity when overused.
lol that's true. I think go with what you love and hope for the best !
for me the name Sofia is beautiful but too popular. Isabella is beautiful but after twilight ... I also really like Mia.
thankfully i've already got a cousin with a girl named Isabella mia, and J has a niece named Mia, and an isabel too. so for the most part all the "popular" names are taken.
I wouldn't want to name my kid something my siblings or close family/friends named thier kids. if i was first, i'd do it depsite the popularity.
well, my thing is, there is a difference between the trendy names that are going to sound dated and the names that just happen to be trendy right now.
For example, I think Nevaeh is going to be dated very quickly. I think Isabella, although its been around a long time, is also going to be dated. I'm always surprised Madison is still around and as popular as it is lol (bc to me that is very early 2000s late 90s.)
But, sometimes a name is popular because it is a great name. Sure, Friends gave Emma a huge boost, but Emma is a great name in general, pretty classic, etc. Abigail, Olivia, Emily, Sophia (all in SSA top 10 for 2010) - those are beautiful, classic names. Their extreme popularity may vary, sure, but they're not going to become super dated in my opinion (such as, um, Shirley. or Doris.) So I was not opposed to using those (I love Abigail and Emily but H wasnt really a fan.) I didn't mind using a name that I perceived as classic even if it happened to be trendy. I mean our top boy name is William, which was #5 for 2010, but it was my grandfather's name, and I mean, it's William. It's been around forever.
EDIT - posted too soon.
so I guess to answer your question, I dont really care if my child is one of 5 or so in his class with a name, if its a name I love. Would I prefer my child not be one of 5? Sure. But I'm not going out of my way to really avoid it. Sometimes names are super popular for a reason.
I posted earlier that I have a super common name and it didn't bother me to have the same name as other kids.
BUT, bottomline...The right name will be the only one you choose. Don't let anyone, save DH, talk you out of it.
I think it is more important to me to have a name that I love or that means something special to me. No, I don't much like the idea of my child having the same name as half the kids in his class, but I would much rather a name I loved than a name I was just settling on. You can never predict who is going to name their child what or how many of the same name there will be in your child's class. It may vary year to year, or your child might go it's entire school years without having the same name as someone else. And hey, sometimes kids like it when they find a classmate with the same name, and it creates a little ice breaker of sorts, something in common. You never know how it will work out, so might as well go with what you love.
I thought I was the only one... having more than one child named the same as mine in school doesn't really bother me one bit. In fact, my childhood friend and I both went be Cate (she was Kate) and that was always something we liked...thought it made us special that we had the same name.
Your baby's name is their name for the rest of their life. You have to say it for the rest of yours...why not go with your gut?
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I think there are a lot more names out there then when we were growning up if that makes any sense. My name was always in the top 20's but rarely had a classmate with that name.
I had two little boys with the same name in the same class and their name was #970 on the SS list, while I only had one Isabella and no Sophia's. Its not something you can totally avoid.
I think that there are so many names out there that there is a lesser chance of your kid having the same name then say 30 years ago YKWIM?
That being said, I have the 2nd most poular last name in the United States. I'd hate to have a Ava Marie Johnson and have her be confused for the rest of her life with 6,000 other people with that name, so we're thinking about doing the unique middle name route.
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I'm also not a fan of you-neek or trendy names, so we are looking for classic names that are still unusual.
One thing to keep in mind though, today's Isabella is not the same as 1975's Jennifer, because the percentage of babies being named each one is very different.? Even though Isabella is #1, it's still at a much lower percentage than Jennifer was, KWIM?
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My first name is Jessica, and at the time I was born (mid-80s) it wasn't all that popular. But then that little girl fell down a well and made national news and EVERYBODY named their little girl Jessica. There were tons of Jessica's in my school/class and I didn't care as a kid, and I really don't care now if there are kids with the same name as mine. No matter how uncommon the name is when you pick it, doesn't mean that it won't come into "fashion".
And on another note, to me a name (common or uncommon) isn't what makes a person unique. I've met some people with pretty uncommon names who have a crappy personality. And I've met Anne's and Sarah's and John's and Andrew's who have made a lasting impression on me.
I have a very common name. Not popular, but one that is found repeatedly throughout the ages. There are tons of women that share my name, though only two in my graduating class. It was never an issue for me, and I have difficulty understanding why it is an issue at all (I'm not saying it isn't! Just that I don't really understand it). It's always been an ice breaker for me to meet others with my name and compare nicknames, etc. And it was awesome to be able to find 'name' stuff (pencils, keychains, etc) with my name on them.
I think the name you love is the most important. In the end, few of us are really unique, and it's rarely our names which make us so. I've found that my personal preference is often for more classical names - which have distinction and history but are not uncommon or excessively original. Perhaps you can find something you like by looking back a ways?
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But I think a name is all about fitting the family and the style and the person. If you love something...matters not if it is trendy or not...you have your own reasons for loving it.
I think it's important to chose a name that grows and matures with the child... trendy or not.
A lot of trendy names do not seem like they will age well... cutesy names ending in Y or ee/ie, random Y's, K's and A's in a name do not age well at all. Picture your child graduating from college and applying to jobs. Will his/her resume make the hiring manager do a double take?
If it's a popular name you love, pick it. If it's a trendy name.. think twice before they have to grow up with that name.
And again, as someone who has a fairly common name with a very unique spelling... it really does matter what the child's name is. It sucks to have a name no one can spell and to never find anything in your name.
There has not been a day in my life when I didn't correct someone who spelled my name wrong or mispronounced it.
POLL - Would you care if your child was one of 3 or 4 kids with the same name in their class and/or grade level and/or neighborhood, etc? Yes just because I had a very popular name growing up and even now at work me and my boss have the same name and it irks the crap out of me. H on the other hand didn?t have an opinion.
Would it be more important to find a name you love, regardless, or a name you can "live with" that is more "uncommon"? We loved the name Ethan and were set on it for a while and then my H just switched it up and said he didn't want our Ethan to be one of many. No big deal since I named DD, H will name this one but he has yet to pick a name.
If you like a name I say go for it especially if it has a special meaning for you, regardless of popularity. Me and H do not like trendy or uneek names but that is just our thing.
I grew up with an original name and I always liked that. When deciding on a name, we didn't even look in the top 50 to try to avoid any popular names. I do think some people, the more they hear a name, the more they like it and therefor would be drawn to more popular names. I was drawn more to names that I can't connect with other people, TV shows, etc.
In the end you have to choose what you love, we ended up with a name that is about 500 in popularity because that is what we loved.
I would avoid Issabella because Twilight is the reason it's popular and I really dislike that connection haha
With DD we named her the only thing we could agree on (Addison) I actually wanted Adeline or Adelaide but we compromised. It was #113 on the SSA list for 2005. She was born in 2006 and that year it shot up to #23 thanks to Grey's Anatomy!
She has always been the only one in her class, but not the only one in her age group at school. I also became friends with other mom's of Addie's. It bothers me enough that our #1 name Declan is off the list-it's the most popular trending name and it is shooting up in popularity. Even though I've wanted it since I was 19 (when no one had heard of it) I won't do it now.
I'm happy with what we've come up mostly. One is mostly a classic name that has been just past the top 100 for a few years. The other is no where near the top 100 but isn't so odd that people will think we made it up.
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