Ugh, I hate being so angry.

Petunia844 · December 2011

So, both of my SIL's are pregnant, my brother's wife as well as DH's sister. My brother and his wife aren't finding out what they're having, but DH's sister just found out she's having a girl yesterday. Then she posted on FB how excited she is and that she just spent 4 hours shopping with her mom for adorable girl things. I get so angry at other people's perfectly happy lives. I hate that I get angry at things that should make me smile, this isn't who I used to be. I really hope that the anger will subside when I'm pregnant again... but I'm worried it will just be a part of me now. DH and I are going on a long hike in like an hour, it normally helps me to exercise my anger away... but it just makes me sad to be this person. Pregnant ladies and babies used to make me so happy.

foxxy1 · December 2011

*hugs* I know the feeling. I actually had to stop going on FB because it was getting too much. Here I am grieving over my son and all of my friends are talking about the awesome plans they were making. And then I got mad at myself for being selfish to think that way. I haven't been on there since Christmas day and it'll be a long while before I will go back on.

It's natural to be angry. I wake up every morning and wonder why I'm so 'skinny' when I was really embracing my round belly. But the anger will eventually fade away; you're too good of a person to let it consume you. Do something constructive to help take out the aggression.

Kissimi21 · December 2011

I understand how you feel. My best friend and I were pregnant at the same time, due 2 days apart. She got to have her baby boy, I didn't. It was so hard to pretend to be happy for her and not feel like her pregnancy udpates were a slap in the face. I hated that she got to have a healthy baby and I didn't, and I hated myself for feeling that way.

I believe that there is a naivety that we all had and losing a child destroys it. We used to think that being pregnant meant having a baby and that nothing bad could happen. Speaking from experience, part of the anger we feel comes from losing that naivety. It does eventually get better, but we never have that innocence again.

Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just trying to say that what you are feeling is normal. Grieving is normal. Wanting to have your baby abck and remain innocent is normal. The anger is normal. Hugs.

agran · December 2011

I completely understand the anger... I'm angry all the time. A co-worker just announced her IVF pregnancy with twins. Of course I'm happy for her but I'm also really mad she is getting my happy ending. Why her and not me?

This whole path just sucks... but I work hard every day to try not to be angry, to try and see the good, and try and understand that everyone has problems and hurt (even though it doesn't seem like it).

ruthymusney · December 2011

Ugh! I couldn't imagine 2 family members being pregnant right now. It would drive me crazy.. I'm having a hard time with my BF right now. She's just 7 weeks, I love her so much but sometimes I'm so jealous.

Heatherhah · December 2011

There are 3 pregnant on my DH side of the famliy . Two of them are having boys but my SIL is still waiting to find out. I secretly hope it isnt a girl since that would kill me since she got pregnant right after Sydney died.

I hate feeling jealous but I can't help it.

johnnys june · December 2011

I know exactly how you feel. And honestly, being pregnant now, it doesn't always change my "anger." Maybe when I have this baby safe in my arms that will change.

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magdalina.h · December 2011

My road rage got a lot worse after we lost Aidan. That's where my anger came out. I would never do anything to harm someone driving, but I will rip you a new a$$hole if you do something I don't like. lol One thing that helped me a lot was that while I think I know someone's situation, I don't. Obviously that doesn't pertain to family, but when I see someone happily posting on FB, I just think maybe they had a huge tragedy also. Or when I see the happy parents playing with their baby. Now that I'm on the side of playing with the baby I often just want to shout "I'VE HAD A LOSS" just so people don't get sad seeing me with Lucas.

Just like everything else, the anger subsides, but it doesn't go away completely. There will just be days where you don't notice it as often.

hewinked · December 2011

Big giant hugs. Almost a year later, I'm still so angry. I hate it.

lrichmond86 · December 2011

I hear ya... DH's cousin (who is more like a brother to him) just found out that they're having a boy. DH was really excited for them and when he told me I burst into tears. I know it's not logical to think "we lost our little boy, no one else should get to have one either", but I can't help but to feel a little like that sometimes.

weddedwife · December 2011

Me too. I hate feeling jealous and angry about things that make other people happy. I hope it goes away *when* I get pregnant.

Carolee · December 2011

(((HUGS)))

kwell23 · December 2011

I agree! I just had my 3rd miscarriage 2 weeks ago. My brother called me last night to tell me his wife was pregnant. I could barely tell him congratulations before I started crying. I have been so angry about my situation and angry at myself for feeling the way that I do. Someday I hope I can be truly happy for others.

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