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HSartteach
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AW: potty-training vent
HSartteach
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I just needed to "vent" a little bit. I am very frustrated with potty training. As a working mom, it's hard for me to find time to pt DS, so I figured we would try one of the 3-day programs over the holiday break. We (and by we, I mean me and L) started 3 days ago. Now, I was very skeptical of the whole 3-day thing, but I figured I would give it a try.
It seemed to be going okay. We pooped in the potty yesterday. We made it to the potty twice and finished up nicely. He's woken up from his naps dry. He woke up last night to go. He didn't make it down the hall dry, but his sheets were dry, so I figured that was a good thing.
Today was very hard. DH was home, and he didn't read the "book". (Even though I asked him to.) I sort of explained it to him because I knew I had to so he didn't mess anything up. I followed her instructions the best I could. It just doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I can't pick up on his cues that he is going to pee--well, I did once while we were sitting on the couch this morning. I feel like he's not listening or not hearing me. I am just so frustrated. I am hoping that he will do better tomorrow and he will start to click with the potty thing.
I know that it is asking a lot for him to be "trained" in such a short amount of time. But, even though I am still skeptical, a part of me is really hopeful. I hope that he will be okay to be in underwear for daycare come the new year.
thanks for listening. I don't know what I want from people. I just wanted to get out some frustrations. 
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Re: AW: potty-training vent
Sorry, potty training sucks. Layna turned 3 back in Sept and its still not 100%, she's still not comfortable pooping and today she even peed her pants. ARRGGH. There's many days that I wish it was acceptable to wait till 4 to potty train
Good luck!
I'm sorry! That's tough. FWIW, you're way ahead of where we were at 2.5...which was nowhere, lol! Leo is pee trained now finally, but still poops in his underwear *sigh.* We did find that we had to wait (and wait and wait) until he was ready to tell us when he needed to go pee, rather than us noticing it. It took until right around 3.
GL! I hope it clicks for him and gets done fast!
I'm not sure. He's been showing some signs of readiness imo--he tells us when he has gone so we can change his diaper. He stays dry throughout naps. He likes to sit on the toilet when we go.
I'm wondering if the fact that we use cloth has anything to do with it. We are not going bare-bottomed, but he is in underwear. I wonder if he is "used" to the wet feeling and if that will sort of hinder our progress a little.
Potty training sucks. Seriously. It really sucks. Ben has been potty trained (pee) for several months. Pooping in the potty is a whole other issue. I have yet to get him to go in the toilet. Ben will be four next Wednesday.
I think you're doing a great job. I do not believe any child is going to be completely trained in 3 days. That's not a dig on you at all, J. It's just that sometimes I think programs like these set parents up for failure.
Does L have support from his daycare teachers? I know y'all are on break right now, but when you get back to school and he's in daycare, ask how they can facilitate PTing, too.
Ben's teachers were really the ones that got him going consistently. I just followed their lead.
Hang in there!
What's the rush to get him PT over the break? I'm not trying to be mean or anything, just honestly wondering. Will's a little bit older than L and is showing the same signs of "readiness," but he's no where near really ready to PT. I'd much rather wait until he's really, truly excited and ready about it [even if that means another year of diapers] than try to push him into something too early. I worked with the two-year-old class at a daycare in the past and it seemed to me that no matter what the parents and the teachers did, the kid had to be ready in order to "get" it.
If you can, I'd just let him stay in diapers for awhile and try again in a couple months - maybe a month before the baby is born or even after the baby is born [once things calm down again!] Hang in there! His not being ready to PT just yet has absolutely no reflection of you as a parent! You're doing a great job
We tried a few different times, but nothing really stuck until H told me no more diapers.
I do know other people that the 3 day thing worked, but it didn't feel right for me.
We do cloth too and found undies were better than trainers. I think the thickness of trainers felt too similar to a regular diaper for him.
Still wishing you lots of luck
Thanks for the support ladies.
AJL, I'm not really sure how daycare will be. I know the room up supports it. There is a toilet in L's room. There are only 5 kids.
Libby, it's not that I am in a rush, this was just a good opportunity for me. We have such little time together and there is usually so much to do, this was a good time for me to focus on him. I think he's been ready for a while, but it wasn't ever a good time to start prior to now. I thought about waiting, but I am unsure how I will do with the trying to train him with a new baby. I am not sure I could handle both. I am already stressed about what life as a teacher is going to be like when we add another kid into the mix. I feel that I've already slacked so much on my lessons, etc. I suppose that is neither here nor there to some, but my career is equally important to me as my family.
Anyway, I know no one was trying to be mean or anything. I probably would have the same comments and/or questions.
On a positive note, L made it through the night all dry. I decided to check him every time I woke up (which is several times at this point) to see if he was dry. I checked him around 4:30-ish. He was dry. About 10 minutes later, he woke up saying "water mama", which I knew was his way of saying pee pee. I checked him again, he was dry. So, I picked him up and we went to the potty. He tried, but no dice. We went back to bed. He was fidgeting for a few minutes. He then got up, grabbed his 2 cars, and meandered to the potty. He then went. I clapped. He smiled. It was awesome!!!!
I am in better spirits this morning after that positive episode. Also, I was able to catch a sign--he actually did a semi-pee pee dance and I was able to scoop him up and he finished in the potty. That made me happy. L can hold it like no body's business. He went 5+ hours between the 2 potty trips. Crazy.
Thanks again ladies for the support and advice. I really appreciate it. It felt good to be able to "vent" about it.