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doesn't seem real

agrobins1agrobins1 member
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It's been 5 wks since our little girl was born still at 40w1d.  Since we got home from the hospital, that this was all just a bad dream.  Worse than that, I felt like my entire pregnancy was just a dream, that I was never pregnant or got to know our little girl while she was in the womb. I know it happened, we have an entire room filled with things for her and I have plenty of stretch marks and "curves" to remind me that I was pregnant, it just doesn't seem like it actually happened!  Does this make sense to anyone else?
Our sweet girl, born sleeping November 21, 2011 at 40w1d
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  • foxxy1foxxy1 member

    Totally makes sense and unfortunately normal. After Ethan was born, I could've sworn I made up being pregnant and everything was one big fantasy. Some of the ladies on here told me it was part denial, part grieving, and part coping mechanism as my body adjusts to all of the hormones still.

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  • BeccaMarieBeccaMarie member
    Yep. Completely normal. I have to remind myself all the time that I didn't make it all up. It feels like a daydream.
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  • Mjmksb04Mjmksb04 member
    That is exactly how it felt after DD passed away. I felt like I was in a dream and had anxiety for the first few weeks about going out in public.  I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    It makes a lot of sense and is totally normal. It took me awhile, but I finally started looking at my stretch marks as my proof that Aidan was here. They are the presents that he left behind physically on me.
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  • johnnys junejohnnys june member
    I feel like this alot still and it's been over a year.  Some days it's hard for me to fathom that this could happen to me and my husband.  I never doubt his existence, but sometimes it does feel as if it was all made up. 
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  • lrichmond86lrichmond86 member
    I often feel this way... I have to remind myself that I have the experience of giving birth.  Sometimes it feels like it "doesn't count" because I don't have something tactile to show for my work.  From what others have told me, this is a normal part of our grief. 
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  • krysiahamatykrysiahamaty
    Makes sense a lot. You're not alone. Big hugs.
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  • drvst8drvst8 member
    Definitely make sense. Everyday I have reminders that Logan was here. Both physical and emotional. For one his room is still exactly the same as the day I went into labor. Then there are the stretch marks...and of course the dreams I have every night.
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    It's been almost a year and a half since we lost Eliott and I still feel like it was all a dream sometimes.  (((HUGS)))
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  • LuckEinLuvLuckEinLuv member
    You are totally normal.  I don't even have the experience of labor to remind me.  I had a D&E to "remove" Andrew and sometimes I feel like I was never pregnant.
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