Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Why is 8.5 lbs at almost 39 weeks considered big?
At 39 weeks my daughter measured over 10lbs by growth u/s and was born via csection the next day weighing 8lbs 12oz. Later my OB told me they can be +/- 2lbs, but we're back to the big baby scare tactics this time. I'm refusing a growth u/s this time.
I don't know anything about high fluid or the problems that can cause, but I have read that if you have high fluid you should drink a TON of water and increase your protein.
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I dont get it either. Drs seem to be getting lower and lower on wt when it comes to "measuring big"....
Big babies are over 10 pounds. none of this 8pound BS. They tried to tell me with DD#1 that she was going to be big when she Measured 6pounds at 37 weeks. I look back at that know and laugh. (she came out 5pounds and change at 39 weeks. and I had GD!)
My Dr for this PG said LO is likely around 6.5 pounds at the 36 week US. Even if she gains a half piund a week, she will still only make about 8 pounds max before 41 weeks. She was completly unconcerned, even with me attempting VBAC.
You want big babies? One of my sisters has 3 boys. S#1 9pnds. S#2 10pnds. S#3 12 pnds!!!!! thats a big baby!
I agree with PP in that ignore the growth ultrasounds. Even if they say you need them you can decline any medical intervention you don't agree with, they can't force you. They can make you feel bad, which a lot of them are good at doing. The problem with high amniotic fluid however is that the rate of cord prolapse during labor can be much higher, this occurs in any pregnancy with high fluid levels. I only know that because they were telling me mine was on the "high side of normal" but my OB said she is still okay with a TOLAC as long as my fluids don't get higher.
And even if your baby is 9lbs, there are plenty of people out there who have had vaginal births with that big of baby or bigger! I'm sorry you have to go through this and I am sorry that anyone who wants their VBAC has to fight so hard to get it! Oh but want to sign up for a first time elective surgery in which you don't need?! No problem!
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I totally agree with this. With my daughter, I didn't really know much & I just listened to everything my OB advised. I was induced at 39wks 2days because of a "big baby" they thought she was 9+. I also had high fluid. I ended up with a c-section after 3 hrs of pushing because she was again, "too big" to guide out. She measured in at 7lbs 15oz... NOT BIG!!!! Then, because I believe she wasn't completely ready to be born, she had jaundice
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This exactly!.They were right on with my growth scans, but I still don't consider my 8lb 15 oz baby to have been huge. That is a pretty standard size baby in both mine and H's families for generations, and I am one of the few who have had a c section.