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How to help the Dads play nice with daughters?

My dear husband has ALWAYS been the best. daddy. ever. Not a complaint there. (now husband ratings, however... lol.....)

HOWEVER, as Ava gets older, I evesdrop on some slightly "off color" humor going on, and I'm not crazy about it. Like, tonite they were playing with her new dollhouse, that happens to NOT have a toilet in it. He was pointing this out, and pretending the dolls were pooping in the drawers, on the roof, etc.

Now... Ava was laughing HYSTERICALLY. (and sure, funny if you like potty humor) so that egged him on. It was innocent play, but it's that kind of stuff I'd like to curb a bit. (I have horrors of her going to her besties house and doing that IRL or something, lol)

So that got me thinking... what kinds of things SHOULD he be incorporating into their playtime? I'm always a bit too "educational" I suppose, trying to teach a lot, etc. and while I don't expect him to do like *I* do... I need to give him suggestions and ideas on good "topics" of play.

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Re: How to help the Dads play nice with daughters?

  • Sorry, LMFAO, for some reason, I find this so funny.

    I totally can understand you wanting to curb the potty humor, though.

    Not sure if I can give you any actualy topic of play though. I honestly cannot remember my dad "playing" with me when I was younger. He was a great dad. But I don't remember any dollhouse playing or much playing at all. Not that it didn't happen, maybe I just don't remember?

    I can remember how when it snowed we would have awesome snow ball fights and he would pull me in a sled.

    I don't know, I guess if you are the "educational" one, maybe there SHOULD be a totally fun, do whatever with, parent?

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  • Big SmileMy DH would do that too. 

    I usually say something if I think it's crossing the line...but most of the time I let it go...For instance "Who wants a poo poo and pee pee sandwich?"  Then the kids squeal and laugh and I give DH the "look". 

  • imagedundasgirl:

    Big SmileMy DH would do that too. 

    I usually say something if I think it's crossing the line...but most of the time I let it go...For instance "Who wants a poo poo and pee pee sandwich?"  Then the kids squeal and laugh and I give DH the "look". 

    I don't worry so much about the bathroom humor.  We say silly things like DundasHubs does.  But we wouldn't incorporate bad behavior into our playtime.  Maybe that's what you should suggest he leave out.  Remind him that when she's playing Barbies she's playing "real-life".  I would probably let it go though.  She knows better than to poop in someone's drawers or closet.  Wink You've taught her better than that! 

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    Sorry, LMFAO, for some reason, I find this so funny.

    I totally can understand you wanting to curb the potty humor, though.

    Not sure if I can give you any actualy topic of play though. I honestly cannot remember my dad "playing" with me when I was younger. He was a great dad. But I don't remember any dollhouse playing or much playing at all. Not that it didn't happen, maybe I just don't remember?

    I can remember how when it snowed we would have awesome snow ball fights and he would pull me in a sled.

    I don't know, I guess if you are the "educational" one, maybe there SHOULD be a totally fun, do whatever with, parent?

    I don't remember my dad "playing" with us either.  

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  • I would let potty humor go. They need their own inside jokes. Is he being kind and loving? Is he respectful of her? If it were name calling or rudeness, I'd intervene but silliness is fine by me. Even with girls. :) I did that with my dad and brothers and enjoyed it as much as they did. We wrestled and played silly stinky games. I'm a perfectly well mannered adult now, I swear. :)
  • not going to lie...I don't see anything wrong with it :)  Its "their thing"...he's not teaching her to poop in drawers....she knows the doll is being silly.  :)  sorry!
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    not going to lie...I don't see anything wrong with it :)  Its "their thing"...he's not teaching her to poop in drawers....she knows the doll is being silly.  :)  sorry!

    This.  Let them have 'their' kind of fun...don't squash it. 

    Sorry ;-)

     

  • lol, I know... I know...

    I'm so happy they enjoy hanging out together... I just worry about raising a crude, I'll end up raising a prude, lol......

    standing down. and letting one rip.

    ;-P

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